LDK for the Release, or the Reaction?

the very first time I had a lap dance I LDK. she didn't mind.

I haven't been able to come that easily since I was a teenager so I can't imagine doing it. If that's your thing, party on.

I didn't get my first lap dance till I was in my late 40s, I was already too far past my prime at the point to LDK. I only ever discussed it with one fav. She said that it, if a stripper is competent grinder, the hornier PLs will nut. But, she said, if it soaks through and gets on the dancer, expect her to consider you nasty and obnoxious.

my first lap dance I was 45. maybe 46. I didn't have my next lap dance until I was in my '60s

It amazes me that this is a problem for some. I’ve LDK’d more times than I can count. It’s never been an issue for any dancer I’ve encountered - in fact, many of them welcome it and feel a sense of accomplishment when it happens. One girl at Blaze (ATL) got me 2x in one night…

Oh no it's definitely all about me. Yeah some are cool with it. I don't say when I'm doing it anymore because some will stand up. If they are cool with it and I know that going in, I'll let them know and yeah that's always good stuff

Many girls view it as a sense of accomplishment on their part. I've seen some "yeah, I did that" cheeky grins on many a dancer.

I haven't come across any "ewww...that's gross" girls. Perhaps it is because I generally vet girls before doing dances. I can generally weed out the uptight ones. I do, however, ensure that there is not contact when it happens, and I also pull away immediately beforehand.

@funonthaside do you consider it uptight if a stripper gets mad or grossed out about soak through that gets on her?

I don't understand the shock factor. I'd rather avoid it, if possible. I LDK all the time in clubs that don't allow DO dances and I'm not going to VIP. The only couple times I've experienced an issue is when the girl demands a sizeable tip when if/when if occurs. One forewarned me, so I skipped it. Another acted pissy after it happened because she considered it like a VIP, and wanted to charge me accordingly. I said I never agreed to that, and tipped what I wanted to. A couple times, the girls acted mildly concerned I got some jism on her somewhere.

Other than the above, it's generally been smooth sailing. I do tip - usually 50%-100% of what the dances are by themselves, and everyone's happy.

I've LDK'd more times than I can count going back over 30 years and I've never had a stripper complain. In fact I tend to agree with some comments that it has always seemed to me that it was their goal.

I think I've experienced a few dancers who've tried to get me to LDK. I've gotten close but haven't and don't ever want to. I wear thin pants to 'enhance' the experience that would very obviously soak through and even if the girl had some satisfaction of having done that, I still have to walk around like I pissed myself.

ibbaicni, as deviant as I am, even I think it's inappropriate to have the residue land on her.

Once I LDK, I'm done with dances for the day, unless it lands away from the grind area.

I know it's an unpopular stance, but if you're not trying to finish, why do LD in the first place?

Of course, I often end up not doing it, as I end up chatting with the girl rather than focusing on the physical element. But, when I focus, it easily happens.

.......and I wonder why I have premature ejxxx issue.

If you're not trying to finish, why do LD in the first place? Seriously? You don't know? I was 17 when I got my first lap dance and 65 when I got my last one. Never, ever even came close to LDK. When I was kid the worst thing, a woman could call you was a "minuteman" (I live near Lexington and concord so it's a big deal here) and if you couldn't last then you were a little boy and never a man. I even used a technique from a book to learn how to stay rock hard, fuck a long time and never be premature. I have a better chance of becoming Pope than LDK, but the reality is that I love sex. Great sex is 2-way sex in my book and that's the opposite of LDK and quite frankly I think extras also suck because they are rushed. I want to take my time and explore and be explored. I want her to cum multiple times. I want her to remember. Last time I went to a club my wife went out with her friends. I was jazzed up from 7 lap dances, she had had a few drinks and wow coming home to an hour of animalistic sex was so much better than extras. Tight as a drum at 25, tight as a drum at 65.

The best places for a LDK are Atlanta and Florida. Dances at a lot of the clubs there are only $5. The girls there will work you over to get the baby batter out. I love being able to “K” multiple times per trip - and each may only cost me a hundo or a little more because of the low dance prices. Can’t try that in Seattle with the crazy thirty and forty a song prices.

@funontheside writes “I know it's an unpopular stance, but if you're not trying to finish, why do LD in the first place?”
I get it but your statement is under the assumption that right then and there all anyone is focused on is to bust one out. For me there’s more to it that I take enjoyment in…including what she’s doing is on point enough to permanently impress it into the mental Rolodex.

@fun if my plumbing still worked well enough for me to LDK, I'd be seeing escorts rather than getting lap dances. But yeah, if my budget was too small for escorts, I'd be in LDK City, tipping as well as I could.

I've got no issues with a customer doing it, I think a stripper giving a lap dance should at least be aware of the possibility of it happening and not be shocked. But I also think a customer who knows it has a decent chance of crossing the girls boundary should at an absolute minimum not intentionally disguise it to see she shock on the girls face. And I do judge anyone who does that & gets off on that aspect as a creep.

Sometimes I wonder why some of these girls are so jaded and have such terrible opinions of men. And then sometimes I read shit on here and I understand completely.

I think it's fine as long as it's talked about ahead of time or the dancer is made aware before it happens.

Everyone here seems to be indicating that dancers love getting a surprise wet spot. If that's true, then there should be no barrier to making it clear that it's what you want or it's about to happen.

It is very often my goal later in the visit. Sometimes I have trouble leaving until we can make it happen.
I have many times told a dancer during a dance to slow down or she’ll make me come and their response has always been “that is the point isn’t it?”. Either that or they just give it the extra effort required with a knowing smile.
I wouldn’t be surprised to find some of them keeping tallies on how many LDKs they cause in a shift.

@ski: "If you're not trying to finish, why do LD in the first place?"

For me, the final act is more fun if there is a windup. And (surprise surprise) my kink is lap dirty dances and strippers. So, I like to get hard grind full access lap dances from a couple of different girls, and then when one meets the standard I upgrade to VIP for a HJ or BJ. Not for everybody I'm sure, but that's what turns the old DC crank.

Always for the release, never for the reaction. Over time I found it best kept to myself, including keeping my jizz inside my pants, unless she initiated a discussion about it. For me this was the safest approach since there are strippers that don't like it.

Drew that was not my comment. My comment was on that comment which was made previously.

My fav let me pull mini me out and rode me till i was close and liked to watch me LDK. Then she cleaned me up, these days i prefer to CIP instead of those theatrics though.

Based on this site and internet googles, this seems to be a somewhat common practice. It also seems like plenty of dancers are aok with it, and plenty aren't. I implore you to think about the potential psychological damage you might be doing to those that aren't ok with it and get conscent. If LDK friendly strippers are as common as this board implies, then it shouldn't be a problem.

If a stripper is not a fan of a LDK, isn't that odd? I'd think this is expected as part of the job expectation. For me, it's the interaction with the girl. If you get a stripper who isn't into her job, that sucks big time.

Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don’t. Depends on the night I guess. If it’s a new girl I just tell them I’m getting close. They’ll either keep going or slow down. I had one girl say “it’s an extra $50” and I stopped her because the dance was otherwise not great and I was surprised she even got me there.

I've always tipped $40 even if she doesn't ask, not because I think I did anything wrong, just to show my appreciation and encourage her to keep up the good work, and it's a hell of a lot cheaper than VIP + extras

You guys who LDK multiple times in one visit are on a level above me though

My first LDK happened when I was in my twenties, and for many years that became the goal of my SC visits. A super hot busty blonde was grinding her back into my crotch, letting me reach around and fondle her amble side boob. It was such an intense orgasm there’s no way she didn’t know it happened, but she didn’t say a word. She had created a permanent customer out of me, until she left the club a year or two later. That pattern repeated over many years with lots of regulars. I would get LDs from lots of girls, but always with the goal of finishing my visit with an LDK from a regular.

Now, some 40 years later and LDK is less common for me, and not really a goal. My last ITC-LDK was maybe a year ago from a favorite who made it her temporary mission to get me to the finish line. However, when I’m ready to finish a set of LDs, I now often tell dancers that they have me living on the edge and I need to stop. That may or may not be true, but every dancer takes that as a compliment, whether I finish or not. I guess I would say that club visits are now about the journey and enjoying the LD, and not focused on a finish line.

illbbaicnl, escorts would actually save me money vs my club spend, but there are various reasons I prefer clubs. More variety, less effort, etc.

When private dances/lap dances first became a thing where I live in the early late 80s/ early 90s and I was late 20s / early thirties I would LDK all the time. Never caught grief or attitude from any dances. My ATFs would make it a point to make me LDK. Dirty talk, stick shifting while kissing and Russian from a dancer who I consider an 8 or above (never anything less) would normally do the trick for me.

Once I found places/dancers where my pants would be around my ankles during the “dance” the mess and weirdness of the LDK totally lost its appeal to me.

some dancers probably use ldk experiences as a big time ego boost for sure.

one of my all time faves just loved to brag about her looks and how some guys would react to her in regular civvie life. she told me once at a bar she was playing pool against some guy. she bragged about bending over on the table to take a shot while wearing a miniskirt the guy just dropped his stick.

one day at the club she was dead ass broke, and she was wearing one of those sexy tight corset lingerie type of thingys. comes up to me and immediately with no hellos or anything just straight up just starts rubbing my junk with her thigh while saying, "come on come on, i need money!" the end result eventually was she can add getting a guy to ldk to the point of making the condom go pop to her list of brags.

After my first couple LDKs some 20 years ago, I started taking a condom to contain the mess. I would tell the girls I had it on & why. That usually led to either an aggressive LDK effort or whipping it out for a different & often higher level of fun. An early lesson in “respect to strippers can pay dividends.” Of course a condom can decrease sensation somewhat (if not a thin brand), but the extra efforts generally make that irrelevant.

"Dirty talk, stick shifting while kissing and Russian from a dancer who I consider an 8 or above (never anything less) would normally do the trick for me"

Russian is the best kind of LDK, but these days very few girls rub their tits on you for more than a few seconds during a dance. And there just aren't many strippers who fit the bill in the chest department who aren't BBWs, mostly just the Cuban VIP hustlers.

I don't LDK, but, if I get a long string of dances from a Cuban, the amount of pre-cum can be equivalent to nutting. I've taken to wearing thin pads with adhesive on the back, that you can stick in your underpants. I don't even notice it's there. If you want to find them in the grocery store, they'll be with the thicker menstrual pads, or the incontinence control products.

As many times as I’ve LDK’d - I’ve had lady juice on me just as many if not more times. All over my fingers, pants, shirt, mustache, etc. I’ve had girls apologize for getting their cream all over me as well. No apologies necessary has always been my response.

For the more prudish dancers that would take an issue with me LDK’ing - generally those dancers wouldn’t cum close to getting me there anyways. It takes a passionate, sensual, freaky dancer to even get me aroused to that point. If a dancer isn’t those things with me, she generally gets tossed after one dance and it’s not an issue.

If a dancer ripped open my pants and found a menstrual pad, Little Risky would shrink in shame.
A condom is a better barrier IMO, for the reasons I stated above.