As you step onto the main floor in any strip club, how much would you say of your club persona is the actual you? When you have your game face on, is there 50% of your true self showing through? 100%? None?
Do you have a different approach in clubs where you're a known player versus being a stranger?
‘I yam wat I yam’
Why would I change who I am? To impress them? There's no need. If I feel like talking, I do; if not, I don't. I don't lie about who I am, though I don't volunteer every piece of information about my life.
If anything, I'm more authentic in the strip club. There's no one to impress except with my wallet.
I don't think that there actually is a true self. We are different people in different situations. I'm a different person at work, hanging out with male friends, visiting my mother, going to a strip club etc. The commonality seems to be I'm always told I'm never any trouble and am well behaved. My parents told me that, my boss at work tells me that and girls in strip clubs tell me that. The only exception is sometimes I make politically incorrect statements.
One way I act different with strippers, and women in general, is I'm less serious. When I was married, my wife told me she didn't worry about me cheating on her because when I like women I just joke around with them instead of making passes at them. The one change in my personality that is unique to strip clubs is that I compliment strippers about their physical appearance and the way they are dressed. I know they put a lot of work into that and I try to show I appreciate it.
I don't talk about my personal life, which is fine because they usually don't want to talk about their own. I don't think that's a persona, though.
I don't think I have the need or will to adopt a strip club "game face". I also suspect that a lot of dancers can see right through that sort of pretense. I'm essentially me, but perhaps a bit more straightforward about what I want.
While I’ll withhold identifying information about where exactly I work or live, and avoid conversations about my family (boner killer) I try to lie as little as possible. I’ll just not disclose. Only exception is I use a stripper name.
100%. I don’t have a game face or a game personality. Like Warrior, I never lie about who I am, what I do, whether I’m married, where I live, etc., although I might not disclose everything, like last name or exact address, but no one ever asks that anyway. I’ve been told I have RBF, both in and out of the club. I’m pretty sure that’s true. I’m fairly introverted, and that doesn’t change when I’m in the club. With rare exceptions, I don’t approach the girls, except to stage tip. I let them approach me. I’m pretty satisfied with how things are working out, though. I think some girls see approaching a guy who looks like an asshole to be a challenge.
Oh, one last thing. Even though I may look like an asshole, I do my best to never act like an asshole. I try to treat every dancer, every person really, with courtesy and respect.
What you see is what you get. I have nothing to be secretive about. No wife, etc. And I have always believed that trust opens doors and spreads legs.
===> "I don't think that there actually is a true self. We are different people in different situations. I'm a different person at work, hanging out with male friends, visiting my mother, going to a strip club etc."
This 100%. Our behavior is always situational. We don't behave the same way in work settings as we do with our kids, or in strip clubs the way we would when visiting family, etc.
But with that said, one of the very reasons I enjoy clubs so much is I can relax and just revert to my more natural state. I was raised in a northeast blue collar household by parents who didn't believe in raising boys as lazy sissies. So in my natural state I tend to be a little rough around the edges with an accent that is easy to pickup here in NE FL. I can also appreciate a girl's tits and ass without having to worry about disguising or controlling it. Almost anyplace else I am, whether work or personal life, I have to shave off the rough edges and/or control one or more other elements.
So I'd say 95%. That last 5% is just the normal courtesy I would show to any woman by not using certain language with her and otherwise treating her with dignity, whether I like her or not.
Hey Good Doctor - What is RBF?
Similar to Warrior15 & doctorevil... the only thing I won't share besides stuff like my full name/address/phone number is how much money I have on me. The rest of it is WYSIWYG as I'm old enough to not care what others think of me. Best part of becoming an old fart, IMO. :)
No difference for me between being in a club for the first time and the hundredth.
resting bitch face
I’m too old to act like someone I’m not. I just be the former CIA agent/model/European golf pro/millionaire that I am.
I am more “polite but firm” than in usual contexts. Polite because the interactions are physical and someone can get offended easily, firm because many dancers will try to rip you off if you appear weak.
I'm myself. I don't see a reason to hide any information from anyone. If you feel you need to hide you shouldn't be there. I don't see how it can be fun.
I think the vlub is my element
Pretty clear that guys using their real names are unmarried/wife doesn’t object and are retired. For those with a part of their life at risk, caution is king. E.g., bubbleyum v. thatguywhousedtoposthere
@wallanon
I will play along and answer your questions.
Q: How Much of Yourself do You Take to the Club? A: 💯 % of myself
Q: As you step onto the main floor in any strip club, how much would you say of your club persona is the actual you? A: 💯 % the actual me
Q: When you have your game face on, is there 50% of your true self showing through? 100%? None? A: No game face required; 💯 % me
I am who I am and say what I mean, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Q: Do you have a different approach in clubs where you're a known player versus being a stranger? A: NO different approach, I always behave like a mature, professional gentleman who can take care of business, and get treated like a gentleman.
I think a strip club is one of those places where I can shed societal norms, and simply be my perverted self.
I treat the dancers nicely. I am friendly with everyone I meet.
I use my actual name. I’ve got little to hide.
My money is green, and I’m there to spend it appropriately.
I often say "I'm just here to watch the stage show" when my real self is thinking "not if you paid me".
Outside the club, the people I interact with will claim they believe a good man will be happy in a committed relationship with an age-appropriate woman, and will be sexual attracted to her for her beautiful soul. They'll be condescending to anyone (like me) who thinks that's a nice dream, but rarely realistic. Pathetic or not, getting lap dances is the number one source of happiness for me at this point in my life. So my fav strippers may well be the people who see the real me more than anyone else.
Probably a good 50%. I don’t go there to pretend I’m living some crazier or better lifestyle than I really am but I usually go to strip clubs detached. I give out an alias I usually use, and a different location than where I’m from usually. If I connect with the dancer/stripper and actually like to know them, then I’ll actually give them real name etc.
I’m a terrible liar, and deception is off-putting, so I use my real first name. Nobody cares about last names. Three dancers I’ve spent a lot of time with know my last name, and I know theirs. Two showed me their DLs, for reasons. So, cautious honesty is the best policy. If anything, I’m a bit less inhibited/introverted Lon my interactions because the stakes are so low. The goal isn’t really to establish a deep relationship, and if things don’t click, it’s easy to move on
I'm myself in the club. I may not be myself so much in the button up world I work in. I usually use a strip club name that I have made up and also use for my "other" Facebook page. I don't trust stripper more or less than any other girl I may talk with.
It's been said that every person who's met you has met a different version of you, and I suspect that's spot on. That said, aside from not oversharing, it's all 250 pounds of me in the club. I wouldn't mind leaving 50 or so of that at home, but..
I keep to myself. Not a conversationalist, so I’m not one of these guys who likes to sit with chicks for hours jabbering. Absorb atmosphere, watch stage, see a dancer I like, get a dance…the end
I'm pretty different in the club although it's honestly more the real me. I check out women shamelessly and flirt much more aggressively than I normally do. I also don't need to wear my corporate face.
It's one aspect of my personality.
"How Much of Yourself do You Take to the Club?"
If your name is ThatXguy85, apparently ALL of it! Every little detail. Lol
I'd say in a SC I act as in most public-settings (except I'm usually commando and possibly pitching a tent) - like others I usually don't share too-many personal-details other than my first name - and as @dr_lee above, I'm not one to sit and gab with a dancer for very-long (and I also prefer to jump from dancer to dancer vs sticking with a particular dancer for the visit) - I don't necessarily mind a dancer I'm interested-in chatting-me-up, and I'll usually engage-her; it's just that's not what I go into clubs looking-for - the lack of me spending too-much time with any one particular-dancer usally leads to not getting too-much into personal-stuff.
I don't care enough to make up a fake name or put on a personality of anything like that. I just act like a slightly more outgoing version of myself. I use my real first name and I'm honest about what I do for work if asked, but I don't go out of my way to share personal stuff and I certainly don't ask much about dancers' personal lives. For the most part, I don't want to know. To me, the club is supposed to be a fantasy, and I don't want TMI to interfere with that.
It's fortunate most strippers think they can fool us into thinking they're single. I can live without the recounting of the relationship drama blow by blow.
I use a stage name and wear a sports coat. I am laid back and go with the flow but bring condoms and lots of Bens. I like to make it rain.
Like girls blond w big tits who play. Like doing just one as SB keep it simple and safe. Current one models for me nude and can ride me like a champ. I don’t care if they have bf or mx. Just don’t tell the cuck.
50%. I don't make up a persona. I am honest with any girl on who I am, what I do, what my name is.
But it's probably my personality that changes. I am naturally an introvert. I would much rather stay to myself and I don't normally approach others. If I fly on a plane, I might not say a single word to anyone for the entire flight. But in a strip club, I become the most socializing person in the world. I'm starting conversations with every pretty girl there. Outside of a club, I am very conservative. Inside a club, I'm very much a deviant.