Tea App (TeaBorn App). Thoughts?

@TCabot
SC customers are not excluded though. There is a phone # lookup feature. Keep a burner # for club

The phone # lookup is through another site they have a subscription through. Just throwing that out there. I'm on the app and it's mostly men who have "committed" to someone who get posted as cheaters OR men on dating apps. The girls will screenshot the profile and simply ask of anyone else is talking to the guy or of anyone has any info/tea to share about the guy. It's actually not as horrible as the media is making it seem. Don't commit to someone and be honest and you won't get posted. If you don't want to be exposed on any kind of a cheating app or AWDTSG page that outs you for being violent, then just be respectful. It's really that easy.

@BubbleYum
Sounds good. That was the intention but it goes way beyond that as you well know.
Who do you think has more to lose reputationally from being outed, the men or women?

@TCabot
TeaBorn was the male version. It got taken down in 24 hours

—>“Also, don’t you think if there were a Tea for men app where we do this to women that they would collectively lose their minds? So why is this okay to do to men?”

I mean, we are on TUSCL, where most would encourage naming dancers who rip off customers. And some go the further step of putting additional information of dancers out there in a way that could cause them harm (though thankfully, the majority of the discussion board is opposed to that, which is one thing I definitely like about this site.)

And, yes, a lot of strippers lose their minds on this. Search TUSCL on r/stripper and the language isn’t very kind. But alas, it’s what is going to happen when clubs managers tends to be “hands off”—people form their own ways to have accountability.

Likewise, sometimes if enough women feel as if law enforcement or any other authority isn’t adequate enough to enforce protection, then they will become motivated to form their own ways of accountability. Here is a takedown from a few years ago, where I thought that went very well.
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And no, I’ve never used the tea app. Nor have I used dating apps either.

@TCabot - there's an interesting article and response in the NYT. Female columnist asks "where have all the men gone" and a bunch of men wrote letters back in response.

A lot of men expressed the fear that if anything went wrong on the date, they would be put on blast to all her followers. Didn't take her to an expensive enough place? Went for a kiss too early? You've been shamed.

I've never to my knowledge been on any of those, and haven't been on dating apps in some time, but it's a legit fear these days.

@TCabot - I avoid women who spend too much time on social media under any circumstances, let alone if they call themselves the I-word ("influencer.")

My friends on apps tell me they've gone to shit in recent years, with a lot of scammers, cyber-beggars, or attention seekers looking for a hit.

Female columnist asks "where have all the men gone"

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I wasn’t going to join in on this conversation because I never even heard of the app the OP mentioned. But I had to respond to this quote. I’ve long taken myself out of the dating scene, but I hear this over and over in the media and online. It’s not so much “where have the men gone” as the demands of gone up beyond any reasonable expectation. Up into perhaps the 1990’s it used to be enough that all a woman wanted was a guy who would be a good provider, a good father and reasonably committed.

Now, women claim 90% of men are undateable. Thanks to the internet and social media they want a man who’s at least 6 ft 3, has a net worth of at least $5 million, make no less that a half million per year and has a nine inch cock.

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@Puddy Tat
That picture is diabolical Lmaooo

@Motorhead
I fully concur on the state of play in dating today. Myself, I have held onto 1-2 whom I would have jettisioned, one I did try to dump before who came back, simply because "The devil you know". Had I to try recruiting into the fold today, it would be beyond me and my patience.

As to your point on standards and expectations. As men we have little problem accepting that most men in the market are subpar. The women on the other hand, cannot grasp that the same is now true on their part, maybe more so (def more).

@TCabot
Proverbs 21:9

I've interacted with hundreds of strippers over the years. But risk that any of them might bother to post complaints about me anywhere on the internet seems very slight to me. I think it's only a big risk if you've actually committed acquaintance rape against a stripper. I'm not into vulture-like behavior. If a fav has a money problem, I'll get more dances if I can. I don't look for desperation-based extras from her, that she hasn't felt OK with previously. Give escorts a try, rather than get extras in a way that's likely to make an enemy.

What is a realistic scenario, where a stripper would make up shit about a customer online, who didn't treat her with contempt?

@motorhead - This was some columnist in the NYTimes. She wrote that, and men responded either: we're right here but you've deemed us "undatable" for the criteria you've given, we've left the dating pool because dating is a shit deal for men, or we're frightened that any misstep will get us put on blast on Instagram, or #MeToo-ed.

I've taken some time out of the dating pool to focus on other things in life (soon to return after a couple life milestones are completed, at least one of which will be within a couple months), but as one who grew up awkward but grown all too fond of the company of women (both civvie and pro), here's what I've seen.

1. Men are more frustrated than ever. In online dating, over half of men don't get a single date off their time on the app, a middle segment has some success, and the top 3-5% of guys have an absolute sexual smorgasbord. I'd put myself in the upper part of the middle segment of success, but certainly got frustrated with the amount of junk profiles and entitled women out there. It isn't like I'm some natural either, the Puddy Tat was pretty late to the game and worked his furry nuts off to get what he has.

2. Women are more deluded than ever. Even average women think that because Chad or Tyrone Thundercock will take them home on Saturday night, that they can lock him down. They end up turning down Average Andy who's more their caliber, and whom, in the pre-online days, might have satisfied them. They look down at women who settle down with Average Andy as "Pick Me's."

3. Both men and women are more socially retarded than ever. They stick their noses in their phones, don't develop social skills, and wonder why the person of their dreams hasn't showed up at their door. Gen Z is having less sex than their predecessors.

4. Neither men nor women see the need to improve themselves. The men always have money for nights out with the boys, video games, and weed, but a gym membership and therapy are "too expensive" and prefer to sulk. The women say "I am the prize" as if having a vagina makes them special, despite their obnoxious personality and morbid obesity.

5. Both men and women are looking for advice in all the wrong places. Men fork over money to sociopathic freaks like Andrew Tate, who take all their money and sell them castles in the sky, or PUAs who creep women out and literally pine over "the one that got away" for years. Women look to "glamorous" influencers who carefully curate their lives but off-camera are chasing valium with boxed wine and crying themselves to sleep.

6. Both men and women don't have a clue what attracts a partner. Men think women only gravitate towards looks and women think men want high-powered careers and world travel.

7. Both men and women are scared of solitude and singleness. This is a sure way to lose at life. For the last year, I satisfied myself with occasional ITC extras because I can't be distracted with more than that. They need a relationship to validate themselves. They don't plan or work on themselves. I've had plenty of years that I fucked off, but this last year and change has been a time of disciplined, targeted learning, I'm in the best shape of my life, I'm about to accomplish a major life goal, and have more to offer women than ever before.

8. I'm not worried about apps like this, and definitely not going to let them rule my life. Just like I decided I'm going to turn my bipolar into a strength rather than a weakness. No offense to anyone who fits this description, but anyone who completely gives up on women because they're afraid of getting "outed" is a loser. Everything in life has risks, and nowadays, you could take a surreptitious picture at a TUSCL meetup and create a video of them sucking off a horse while getting fucked by a Great Dane. I don't harass or force myself on women, and I've never cheated.

In the end, all you can do is all you can do, right?

They post your personal photos they have of you on the Tea app. Your info is there for the world to see. Text screenshots and all.

With regard to our subculture now, I personally know quite a few dancers, and their lifestyle. I know how they run men. Send the same nudes. Get money from different men for the same problems/issues, with the same story. That phone bill she needed paid? She got money from several guys for the same bill. I've seen the convos.

The last thing they would want is guys having an app to, "Are we seeing the same Girl", with pics and screenshots.

So the scenario is, Regan the Stripper, while her head spins 360, is going to post lies about me just to be mean? Strippers run pity hustles out of greed, not sadism.

Both abusive customers and strippers have reasons to fear TUSCL and Tea. Still not seeing a big risk for the rest of us. I like most strippers, I like things that help keep them safe. I'm willing to accept a slight risk in order for them to be safer. It's just life in America, that people typically lie for $ reasons. You'll have to become a hermit if you want to be unsullied by that reality. If you're not lying to get money, it's because you don't work in the sales or marketing department. But you benefit from the lies when you get your paycheck.

It sounds like someone was trying to cash in on the "are we dating the same guy?" Facebook groups.

High value men don't need to lie to date non monogamously.

@TCabot
It's very apt isn't it? Whether you're a believer or not, it is the book of wisdom

Based on the photos posted by Puddy Tat I have nothing to worry about.

In my world it is still 1978 and none of this garbage ever affects me.