For the first time I been....cucked... is that the right word?
Tiburon
Every woman's local ATM while in da club? How else they paying for their Boob jobs?
So I went to the club and it kind of sucks. I mean they're literally only one girl I was interested in and she did not fit the typical requirements of a girl that I'm interested in. But she had that tan, Filipino skin. But we are not here to talk about the club.
This girl didn't really have a typical big booty but she tried shaking it and kept shaking it at kept dancing as I kept the $1 on her at the stage. Came back to me twice doing her stage Dance and seemed delighted every time since I kept on the dollars on her. No Make It Rain Style, just enough to show my appreciation for her performance.
Totally blew me away when after we agreed that she would come see me once you are stage that she completely ignored me once this old white guy came in and absolutely fawned over him. Her and one other girl that wasn't my type at all. Was so floored actually had to say at the bar and contemplate what the heck just happened as the old white guy whisk both of them away into the realm of the VIP room I suppose. Never really had that happen to me so I was so Starstruck I just left the next girl that acts dance on me still floored by what happened
I know this is an evil evidence, so I'll instead ask is this really the norm? For the young guy (especially black) to be totally ignored in favor of the old white guy? And I thought my full ass beard would help.
This girl didn't really have a typical big booty but she tried shaking it and kept shaking it at kept dancing as I kept the $1 on her at the stage. Came back to me twice doing her stage Dance and seemed delighted every time since I kept on the dollars on her. No Make It Rain Style, just enough to show my appreciation for her performance.
Totally blew me away when after we agreed that she would come see me once you are stage that she completely ignored me once this old white guy came in and absolutely fawned over him. Her and one other girl that wasn't my type at all. Was so floored actually had to say at the bar and contemplate what the heck just happened as the old white guy whisk both of them away into the realm of the VIP room I suppose. Never really had that happen to me so I was so Starstruck I just left the next girl that acts dance on me still floored by what happened
I know this is an evil evidence, so I'll instead ask is this really the norm? For the young guy (especially black) to be totally ignored in favor of the old white guy? And I thought my full ass beard would help.
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Answer: it doesn’t matter because nobody lives their life for someone else. Unless you got kids then that’s a different story.
I have no actual proof but my guess is that the ones who are just there to dance do not really care, they just want a customer who is not going to push their limits. The girls offering extras are going for the deep pockets.
Further, rickthelion is 100% right about the awesomeness of ricks - but of course he's a rick so he's always right. Though sometimes a female hairless ape is so overwhelmed by all that incredible rickness that she gets confused and sits with a lesser being instead. Hard to believe but it happens. The only thing left to do is go wildebeest on their asses or go back on the prowl.
Often, the girls are going to their regulars/whales. I'd guess girls don't want to waste time hanging with a dude old enough to be her dad/grandpa. So there must be some kind of financial pre-arrangement/expectation I'm not privy to. Perhaps one day, I'll ask a whale...
@Rod8432 perhaps it was the club you were in. As far as I can tell I guess the standards is get my money up to flash levels or wait till I'm 60.
No wonder why some brothers at the club make it rain. When your young I guess the deck Is stacked against you in the SC world. Unless your a celebrity which then its just stupid.
Old white guys in the clubs are like dinosaurs, slowly dying out and disappearing as the environment changes and is no longer conducive to their continued existence.
They have moved out of increasingly poor and dangerous cities to the suburbs where there are no clubs. Their business travel has been cut back so they don't visit clubs when they travel. They are afraid of Covid and stay away. Rather than try to lure them back, club managers have decided to focus on catering to younger guys, doing things such as changing the music format. There are two problems with this, though. Young guys have less money and are better looking than old guys so they don't need to spend money at a strip club to get female attention. If they do go to a club they just hang out and the girls get frustrated by lower incomes. The best looking girls have the most other options and quit first. The young guys, who used to complain about the old white guys monopolizing the girls, now start complaining about there being no good looking girls in the club.
You thought having a full beard on your ass would help?
What you described sounds like that. And while it's true that a lot of older white guys fall into that category, it's not limited to that age group or race.
If you're lucky (or she knows you from previous visits), then she *might* quickly check in to say "Hey, this guy is a solid regular of mine, and I need to spend time with him first."
Or, she might not...
Anyway, that's not being "cucked", because that fetish is almost exclusively about humiliation as a turn on.
What you're describing is a dancer choosing to go after dependable, easy(er) money from a likely known entity. And that's her job, though you understandably don't like it.
If you wind up being humiliated by a dancer chasing the money, that's your fault. But it's not being cucked.
It's not being cucked lol... but you using that term gives some insight into your mindset, you feel a little humiliated by it, which means you might work on that a bit.
A big problem for Black customers, especially if they dress fashionably, is that "Gansta" Rap generally glorifies extreme disrespect of strippers, and stupider fans take it seriously. Stereotypes aren't fair, but people will rely on them when they're afraid of being bitten, struck hard, ambush penetrated, stolen from, etc. It might help to break out of the stereotype, like handing her a twenty, rather than throwing 20 singles on her body.
At clubs that slingers frequent, dancers will often ignore customers that don't look like slingers.
But the bottom line is, people have the right to control who touches them, and they don't owe an explanation for who they do or don't let touch them. I can understand if a Black man feels like strippers should not be racist against him. But, if you ask that same man if male strippers should not be allowed to be homophobic by refusing to dance for gay men, he's likely to say hell no.
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Video of Tiburon and Estafador at the club that day.
https://youtu.be/cWYq3vxwXlc
Partly because they want to keep their options open. But it's also because some customers get petulant and argumentative when dancers turn them down.
Some customers believe that strippers are obligated to spend time with every customer that shows an interest, and they get shitty when dancers contradict that belief.
So it's easier to keep saying 'yes' and then pick from a catalog of excuses if the customer doesn't get the hint.
But I can also see the point about her not wanting to deal with any potential customer shit
A PL's word is good only until a more attractive option comes to light.
No. You just have to be known as someone who regularly spends enough money to be worth spending time with. Note that the level of spending required is somewhat loosely, and inversely, correlated with your pleasant personality. :)
I started SCing semi-regularly at age 30 and back-then I looked young for my age - I have been in that position where girls would walk past my table as if I was not even there and throw themselves at the 50+ y/o guys at the tables next to me.
Taking away that be might be a regular and known-spender, older guys in general are seen as both more willing and more able to spend; and often easier to deal with - even if this is not a fact 100% of the time, it's likely still the prevailing view.
Back in the Backpage days, it was not uncommon to see ads that said "no young black men" and this was often black providers stating this - unless it's a make-it-rain club, young black guys are seen as not good spenders in clubs and more aggressive - of course this is not universal and it sucks to be judged and treated a certain way just b/c the way one looks; but the perception is there to some-level nonetheless; and I assume this may be worse in some areas/cities than others.
I usually say something like "can I have a dance when your not busy?", and they'll often say "sure! as soon as I get off stage", but it's hit or miss. I think you can chalk it up to some dancers being more about the domming than the dollars. They want you to come back after they've shit on you, so they know you're submissive. Like customers who are more about domming than getting some straight up sexual gratification.
Usually I get a girls attention by looking her way and smiling at her
BTW I usually tip a 5 dollar bill now it’s not a lot but it gets her attention better than a few singles.
a man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, often regarded as an object of derision.
"jokes in literature about elderly cuckolds and misers are rife"
verb
(of a man) make (another man) a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife.
"in the novel Humberto cuckolds his employer"
…I don’t think that you were technically cuckolded here. I think you came out on the losing side of an upgrade.