Regretting the truth
I think there's a general consensus that you should be truthful with strippers. Being the paranoid freak that I am, I often told girls fake names and hometowns etc. I guess being young I felt that running for public office was still a viable career option. Then I finally meet this incredibly hot stripper who wants to keep in touch (ouch). I've been fairly truthful ever since. OK, has anyone ever regretted being truthful. The scenario of a crazed dancer tracking you down and spilling the beans to your S.O. or calling your work, etc. Or is all that just an urban myth?
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One dancer did know my name and phone number. She called me up multiple times. She got a bit ticked off at me one night. No good reason. Her threat to me at one point was she was going to call up all my friends and family (maybe even stop by where I worked at) and tell everyone I was seeing her. I believe I had let it slip at an earlier time that I hadn't told any of my friends or family that she was a exotic dancer. I hadn't even told anyone about her at all. She thought that was a valid threat to me. I laughed at her. I didn't know why she thought that was a threat. She looked hot. I just didn't want to give everybody I knew one more reason to talk about what I was up to. The guys at work would be asking when she was coming by again. My father would probably tell me way to go. My mother might not have approved but would have blown it off as a temporary girlfriend. No big deal.
However I never considered someone causing trouble with a SO or running for office one day. If you wait 10 years, most dancers will have forgotten you I believe. I seem to be a bit strong in some dancers memories, I'm not sure why.
It's not her calling the office or SO that would worry me - it would be her junkie boyfriend and her robbing my house lol.
These girls, fun as they are in the club or OTC in a hotel bed, are trash, and it's wise not to forget that!
O.
My only cause for regret, and it's been minor, has been an occasional annoying or embarrassing voice mail message. I'd regret it more if I were married. I've probably been luckier than I deserve.
There used to be a girl who danced at Pink Pony in ATL (a little asian spinner) who I got to know very, very well - not "OTC" or whatever but much more friendly. Over a couple of years we hung out a lot as "buds", I knew her best friends, her brother, her parents. She was lazy and just sort of danced on and off, and after knowing her awhile I ONLY knew her outside, ie. I never went to see her dance, and so on.
Well one day she was riding with me in my car and mentioned she needed to pay a cell phone bill and would I take her by the Cingular place on the way back to her apartment. I didn't feel like it so I just had her give me the cash, and I said she could just pay it online with my Amex (she didn't have any credit cards) - now this was someone I'd been through a lot with, someone very close to me by now, so I just gave her my card number etc. so she could pay it. Needless to say, the stripper in her took over and she couldn't resist then buying a bunch of Von Dutch apparel online using my card.
Naturally I disputed the charges. I considered having her arrested - wirefraud and interstate theft would have made some nice felonies - but settled with just removing her from my contact list.
The very act of saying "hey, I'll strip for a living" indicates that a woman has zero self-esteem... and if someone doesn't respect herself, she won't respect you, either. Get a nice grind out of them and fuck them, but that's about it.
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However, before my wife passed on, there was one time I got some "private lap dances" from a Memphis PP club dancer, in her motel suite, that she live in with her b/f. He said it was OK for her to do it. The problem was that, while he waited in the bedroom for her to finish dancing for me in the living room, she ended up giving me a BBBJ with CIM. Couple of days later, she calls me and told me she felt she guilty about it and told him about it! He was pissed. He threatened to come to where I worked and tell my S.O. I knew they were headed to Texas in a few days, so to prevent any trouble coming my way, I treated them to a free overnight stay at where we worked, while me and my S.O. would be home. I guess it worked out. That was a lesson learned and if I ever get an S.O again, will remember this incident.
As far as I know, only one dancer has ever known my last name. I was having an OTC with a dancer from whom I had regular OTCs for a couple of years. In my presence, she called the front desk of the hotel, from the room in which we were staying, and asked the name of the person registered for that room. I was shocked and surprised that they told her. However, she is someone who is now trying to ease back into a "normal" life, and if worse came to worst, we are in a "mutually assured destruction" situation. Besides, for all my paranoia following that incident, I found out that she is actually a very nice girl who I truly believe has no inclination to play the "other woman."
By the way, I thought about complaining to the hotel chain about the unprofessional conduct on the part of their front-desk staff, but I realized that I would rather not write a letter starting out something along the lines of, "I am writing to complain about a recent incident that occurred when I, a married man, was using a room in your hotel to stage an adulterous incident with a young stripper."
To quote a line from one of my favorite movies, "My Father's Glory", "we are never so weak as when we are wrong."