Pete22z

Don't expect too much. It is her job to attract customers, and she may actually like you. But don't get caught falling in love. If she wants to date you she'll let you know sooner rather than later. I never thought I'd date a dancer but I did. It was one of those perfect storm / 1-in-a-million scenarios. She was really cute, smart (a science degree from a pretty competitive school), funny, etc. She was in a tough spot in her life and I happened to have awesome timing that day. I'm 99% certain that will never happen to me again.

Dunkin Donuts and strippers? If only.

To each his own. Like I said I've never had to deal with confrontations in the club. Clubbing is a hobby that I like to keep on the down low and isn't worth a violent confrontation to me and or the possible complications that could arise from that. If I have to defend myself then I'll deal with that when it happens, but it's a lot easier to avoid it to me. I could see getting into a fight over a girl I'm dating... but over a girl who sees me as part of her job, not likely.

Wow I've never dealt with this either. I've been in situations where I've texted a dancer that I was coming in to see her and found out later that she was in VIP with someone else. I actually was pissed at the dancer. Not "I'm gonna get you" pissed, but annoyed that she couldn't ignore this other dude or at least let me know somehow what was going on so I wouldn't waste my evening waiting on her. She was guaranteed VIP time / $$$ by me. Anyway, you could probably let security know what your concerns are, but they probably can't do anything until the stalker actually does something violent. You probably need to seek time with your ATF when she's less in demand or seek another dancer/club. As many clubs as I've been to, I've never frequented one where I thought my personal safety was an issue. That's a deal-breaker.

Big Daddy's was actually the first strip club I ever visited (early 90's). From what I saw, I could understand why they were only charging $3. I think they made more money charging the customers to put their clothes back on.