Going Alone
FLOrange
Hello Everyone. I just turned 21 a week ago and was brought by my friends to a local SC and it was a blast. I wanted to go back without them for one of the girls but it just seems weird. Is it normal to go alone and is there any tips for someone who goes by themselves? Thanks in advance
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The posts above are spot-on -- but I think it's a very bad idea for a young person to be going to clubs. You should be saving your money and vanilla-dating girls your own age.
But Random was right, it is weird to go alone at 21. He should be enjoying civvie dating and cool bars with his buddies, not hanging out by himself surrounded by old men carrying Viagra and dreams of yesteryear.
Besides, he probably can't afford to do much anyway, so he'll get much more bang for the buck spending his limited cash on other entertainment.
I am going to go and on a limb and guess your ultimate goal I’d to have sex with this stripper.
And I am sure you can’t get civilian girls this hot on your “real” life.
Once you accept the fact that you are going to be paying for sex with this girl, the question is how much are you willing to pay.
I posted an article about:
Some Customers Get Ripped Off At Strip Clubs - How Not To Be One
https://tuscl.net/article.php?id=57218
Just listen to the advice given to you so you can learn from others experiences.
Be careful out there.
If you are somehow very mature for your age and got a bunch of daddy's money to spend then treat it as an occasional treat.
Good luck!
If you really have the money you should go and tell her:
“Hi, I am a busy professional concentrated in my career, so I am interviewing girls to find me a Sugar Baby that will be willing to meet once a week to make love and have fun.
Do you know someone that is nice, smart, beautiful, discreet, safe, that would be interested to be interviewed?”
Her response will let you know if you have a chance or not.
If she says “I am nice, smart and beautiful, and would be interested”
Than make an appointment to meet outside the club to have dinner and workout the details: Monthly allowance, days you would meet and for how long, sexual preferences, etc.
Make sure she understands that you value punctuality and reliability and communication above all and you have a three strikes and you are out policy.
Good luck and be careful out there.
I'm a massive fucking weeb who loves cute girls and ecchi. I think kawaii anime girls should be up there with the computer as the two greatest inventions of mankind. The type of girl I find most attractive is a girl who's sweet, cute, and shy but also has a very perverted and horny mind.
Forget going to the clubs alone. That os way too scary because there is human females there. Get a cute waifu doll. They are programmed to say yes to anything.
https://youtu.be/R5kPUFxXYLs
Happy 21st Birthday. TUSCL is not a place to tell you what's acceptable or not. When I was 21, I was still in college and strip clubs were something a lot of us did socially in our circle of friends to talk shit and spend a little. For those of us who stayed around town and didn't get/stay married, we kept clubbing together off and on for years. If the issue you're having is you're worried about what your friends will think, I'll break out the cliché that "real" friends are going to be ok with who you are.
If you do end up clubbing a lot with other dudes, just talk through some bro rules so things don't get awkward. If you think a girl is hot chances are your friends do, too, and the Law of Sloppy Seconds applies. Unless your crew shares everything, then it doesn't. See? If you want to go back alone, go back alone. All the other stuff the guys here said about watching your finances, feelings, etc are good things to keep in mind.
And have fun. Having fun is the thing I forget to do sometimes because of club drama some girls attract, which goes against the point of the hobby.
The funny statement here is he has a lot of money working at Amazon 50 hours a week. With his age and those hours I'm imagining he is a DSP driver for a firm contracted by Amazon. Those guys do not make a lot of money. It's ok, but not a lot. However if he still lives with mom and dad and has nothing but a cell phone payment to make every month then he might feel as though he's Scrooge McDuck right now.
I agree with what most of the posters above warned of. These girls are masters of making you think they feel a certain way for you, but it's an act designed to separate you from your money as quickly as possible. Just don't go expecting to make this dancer your girlfriend. Or hell who knows, maybe you can. I'm sure Icey Loco will be in here to give you some advice on how to do that. But I'd advise you to need all the warning you got from the folks above, especially Nidan.
If one's main objective at the SC is to socialize and party, then yeah being w/ other people is better for that - but if one is there to mainly get w/ the girls, then having buddies there is not necessary and can at times actually be a hindrance for various reasons - in the end, guys going alone to strip-clubs is not uncommon at all especially if you are there mainly for the girls - it's kinda like going on a date; you can do a group-date thing, or go solo if you just want to focus on her.
w.r.t. this "oh if you're young you should be getting pussy and not be in strip-clubs" - that's overblown and over-exaggerated - being young is no guarantee of getting pussy for various reasons - it's not like as if you are young, girls are gonna be giving it to you like free-bread - plenty of guys in their 20s are not getting any, or not getting the quality or quantity they would like - sure, if one can hook up consistently w/ young hot chicks then no point perhaps in spending hundreds in the club - but I think there are as many, if not more, young guys not getting the sexual-satisfaction they want for various reasons from not having game, being late-bloomers, not being that great-looking, shy, etc - plenty of young-guys are hard-up and not getting what they want, when they want it, from who they want, sexual-wise.
So this "don't go to clubs if you're young", I don't necessarily think is the best advice - sure better to "get it for free" from a girl that wants to be w/ you, but this is not always the case for young guys and being constantly hard-up is IMO worse than clubbing if clubbing is their only outlet for w/e reason - again plenty of young guys are not getting the sexual satisfaction they crave for various reasons, or getting w/ the types of girls they would like/want to get with.
At 21, you shouldn't be going to strip clubs, other than the occasional night out with your buddies. You should be going to places where you can meet "civvies."
An inexperienced monger in a strip club could lead to trouble, in the form of separating you from what little money you probably have, as others have detailed the stripper scams.
Don't do the solo strip club thing until you're old, lonely, bitter and broken up after a long marriage or relationship, like me.
For this hobby, it also helps to be a financially secure position that you generally don't attain until later in life.
Inexperienced SCers are often taken advantaged of - many of these girls have a huge advantage on the avg guy that rarely SCs since these girls are in the club night-in and night-out for months and years on end thus know the game way better than the avg guy walking into a club - some rules of thumb many SCers agree on:
+ don't fall in-love with a stripper - it's their job to make you feel like they are way into you - that is how they make $$$ and making $$$ is the reason they are there; they are not there to hook-up nor find "Mr Right" - most of them already have BFs or guys they date outside the club - strippers rarely look at guys in the club as dating material, guys in the club are there to be fleeced and are basically looked at as walking-ATMs - at the end of the day, if you don't get w/ girls like that IRL then don't expect the girl in the club to be any different - in the SC it's business for the girls
+ avoid using a credit-card in the club - some clubs, or certain staff, will add bogus charges to a custy's cc, sometimes in the thousands - giving them your CC is giving them access to charge w/e they want - not saying using a CC always causes issues, but def happens
+ don't fall for tales of woe, this is a common scam to extract $$$ from custies - and don't try to be a white-knight and try to "save a stripper" from the lifestyle - it's a fool's errand
+ avoid paying dancers upfront on promises they will do 'X' - more often than not the girls that insist on upfront payment do so to rip you off
You get VIP by paying for it, or writing a good-review of a club visit that gets approved.
No problem with indulging every once in awhile but be careful to not use up all your money messing with these dancers.
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Then you definitely can't afford strippers. There are old dudes on this site spending as much on strippers in a single night as you take home in a week. Consider saving up for your own place so you can get laid by girls your own age instead of living with your Mom and only seeing them naked in a strip club.
Young guys in the club aren’t that unusual imo. And I don’t get the shaming. I’ve danced for some guys before who young and physically attractive for several dances in a row before. Not every shift, but enough for it to not be something absolutely weird as some might imply.
As far as how much is typically needed to enjoy a SC, that’s for you to discover. What are dance prices in your area? How much of a thing is stage tipping at your club? Do you care more about getting lap dances or the bantering before that? (If you want to banter, then probably preemptively offer a drink when a dancer sits down, and factor that into how much you’re willing to spend).
Don’t go back to the same club to get dances from the dancer you found to be unforgettable the other night. If you return, and she remembers you (or you remind her about the other night), she will know you want her, and she knows how to lead you along, and empty your wallet.
If you want to become a filthy young clubbing pervert, read the articles and discussions here. But remember, this is an expensive hobby, and it’s more fun when you don’t need to worry about wasting lots of money.
Yeah, that's it. If clubs are fun for you then keep it fun. What a bunch of dudes are saying here is that there's other stuff that comes along with spending more time in clubs than just the casual visit. How much you should spend is what you can afford. Preferably comfortably. If what you can spend doesn't get you the experience you are looking for, take a break and try again later. Later could be when you have more money to spend or you work something out to get what you're looking for from someone who'll take less to give you that experience.
This story changes faster than a newborn's diapers. First he's a renter with a few nominal bills (rent, car insurance, phone) and now he co-owns a house that he stays in alone most of the time. I'm sure if I ask him who is paying the rest of the mortgage and all of the utilities (water, electric, sewage), groceries, home owner's insurance, property taxes, maintenance and repairs, etc.,etc., he'll create something for that too. "Cause there's no way a 21 year old kid on a $16/hr job is doing all that.
It's so weird when these little scenarios are posted. It's like the person behind these troll accounts has no concept of the real world or human interactions. He/she can manage to piece together a weirdly hollow rendition of an intro story, but all too often it falls apart quickly. Then of course the "I am a unicorn" tapdance starts, with ever shifting conditions.
I often play along for lack of anything else to comment on, but when you do a bad job of portraying a real person, take your lumps instead of creating this silly nonsense.
@FLOrange I'd say there is nothing weird about someone going to clubs alone as a customer. Those are my favorite customers to approach generally- or smaller groups. Though I can approach anyone and larger groups, I'm just saying some are higher on the order of priorities LOL.
But his age and financial circumstances matter whether he is asking about them or not. A young guy usually doesn't have the resources to blow large sums on strippers, nor is it a healthy pursuit for a guy who hasn't done shit in this life yet with civvie women. When they do go, they are almost always in groups and it is a party atmosphere as opposed to a dancer fixation issue. It's all inter-related IMHO.
On $600/week take home (if he's lucky) it would be a challenge almost anywhere. Even if his "rent" was $500 per month, he'd also have minimum expenses for car insurance ($100/mo), utilities ($200/mo); phone ($50/mo); groceries ($250/mo), gas ($200/mo); home Internet ($50/mo); misc. expenses ($250/mo) - we are already at $1,600 per month assuming a bare bone budget. That only leaves him $800 per month for any emergency items and everything else that comes up on the need and want front.
And I was generous re: his low expenses and controlled spending. All said and done there ain't much stripper money in that budget.
I am assuming this kid if he's a real person is not going to go to the club every month blowing hundreds. But here and there??? shit why not! you all are acting like he's a drug addict or something.
I remember one young guy who I saw do this. The stripper used to nickname him "Home Depot Guy." We laughed about him ITC on a few different occasions before I took her OTC for a fuck and suck. He used to hang out and follow her like a puppy. He got so infatuated that he started spending money he didn't have, until he eventually busted out and had to take on a second job to pay off the credit cards he ran up.
It is just not financially or emotionally healthy for young guys to visit clubs alone to visit strippers.
also, the money he makes is more than enough to hit a club. you don't need 500 dollars in your pocket to have a good time at a club. its possible to get addicted, but its not guarantee. and just because he's going to clubs at a young age....doesn't mean he's not picking up any chicks.
late bloomer. then rushed into marriage.
FLOrange. just enjoy the ladies.
don’t get carried away.
enjoy life.
Hey it is what it is, you're a jerk here and a cool guy there, fine. Own that shit.
Dude, find a different club. $40/dance is pretty expensive. Find a place that's more like $20 or $25 a dance. If you're stuck on a girl at the $40 club, go somewhere else and you'll probably be able to find a replacement pretty easily.
As for how much to bring to enjoy a SC, there are threads that have discussed this, but it's going to be based a lot on what you can afford. Some guys go pretty often and just bring $100-200. Others go less often or have deeper pockets, and bring $300-500 or even more. To have a good time, I'd say bring about $300 and manage your time and money burn rate. $260 isn't a bad amount to bring and is a reasonable amount to have a good time. You just burned through it too quickly. If you had gone to a reasonably priced club where the dances are $25/song, you could have used $60 on cover/drinks/tips, and used the remaining $200 for dances. If you did 2 songs/girl, you could have sampled 4 girls. It's enough to have fun, but not enough to get too deep. Use the search tool on the TUSCL home page and read through past discussion threads for advice on how to level up on your SC game. These girls are sharks, so you need to know how to play the game so as not to get ripped off too badly. You WILL get ripped off at some point. We all have. It's part of the learning curve and the game.
@FLOrange: Don't be that young guy with limited funds hanging out in a club by himself. Go to the gym, spend the money on some civvie dates and get some overnight ass, explore some cool bars, etc. In other words do the things that young guys are supposed to do. Hanging out by yourself in a club, pissing away valuable cash that doesn't come easy, ain't one of those things.
Wow! This makes lots of sense! Ricky strokes managers and greases bouncers. He fucks dudes bareback so he doesnt get a girl pregnant. (Genious move being a faggot to hide fucking around from your wife, so no unexpected bambinos show up. ) He is an ass holebto young guys because he is jaded from his younger years of clubbing... he must have been Home Depot guy... which maynhsve causedbhim to swear off girls and go for dudes instead. He got married to hide his faggotry. He is nice on stripperweb because he is trying to improve his ways of trolling for dudes. His antics to pick up dudes on tuscl did not work over here so he is pissed and jaded and is an ass hole over here.
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A few years ago I wrote this article on one’s first visit to a strip club. You may find it useful. It may also be useful to the veteran clubber when going to a strange club for the first time :
< https://tuscl.net/article.php?id=46476 >
I also wrote this article you may find useful on how to have a good time at a strip club without spending a fortune:
< https://tuscl.net/article.php?id=19523 >
You have gotten a lot of good advice already above, and also some not so good.
Enjoy your future clubbing, and remember, leave the debit and credit cardS home.
Doctor wishes this was the case, which is why he keeps vying for my attention with bad satire when he's not getting blowjobs in the men's room at Babydolls (disgusting story btw). But NiceSpice knows better, which is why she also follows me around with her accounts - I'm convinced she wants me to treat her like the good little bad girl that she is. ;)
Of course it is Stud. Only in this twisted place, full of weirdly effeminate and childless "male" posters mixed with oddly trollish "dancers" with ample time to troll, is it purportedly normal for a young guy with limited funds to visit a strip club alone to pursue a dancer his own age or older.
What a fuckn weirdo LOL
Da Mackie figures it out! 😂😂😂😂😂
Huh? Nice, I'm one of the least jaded guys on here. I'm also one of the truly kindest to women. Look at 25, who thinks it's ok to add to the misery of girls young enough to be his granddaughter. And I won't even get to what 25 did to that poor immigrant girl in the bathroom of BabyDolls. You'll never read stories like that from me because I don't harbor the resentments against women that they do.
I'm only an asshole to old men who behave like oddball shut-ins or hyper-sensitive women. With the young buck I'm showing a kindness by being blunt. Shit like this is something normally taught by father to son, but since he obviously didn't get it there I (and others) are schooling him as best we can. Whether he accepts it or not is obviously his call.
==>mixed with oddly trollish "dancers" with ample time to troll
It seems ever since Rick found out that I was a ladyboy, he wants to cross swords ⚔️
@25: Not all of us need this place for personal affirmation like you do. 😉
25 will eagerly cut a girl off if she doesn't give him enough affirmation - he really is a needy fuck. That's when he's not squealing to the manager of sending her nasty texts.
You treat them like cheap cum-dumpsters, dragging them into men's rooms when you aren't refusing the honor your commitments when a girl actually wants a whole $100 for full on sex. What they call that is a pattern of bad behavior and I'm sure it's only the tip of the iceberg.
Shame on both of you.
RickiBoi it’s not shame on either of us,
actually it’s shame on you,
https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=6346…
https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=6339…
https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=6511…
Then ricky said... "25, you posted this stuff yourself. This is how you treat very young girls - easily young enough to be your granddaughters - just for trying to earn a living. Very angry and bitter.
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If the same rules apply both ways he thinks 25 wants to treat him like the good bad boy he is. Watch out 25. I think ricky is flirting with you 25. He is out of the closet now... 😉
This post is what set off that amazing display of hatred and vitriol
Like I keep saying RickiBoi you are such a Dugan
Friends I took once were only marginally interested in it. And too much money as they saw it. They did comment that I was really into the girls, much more than they were.
SJG
https://youtu.be/pWa0dZMHYeE?t=4
Yeah this sounds about right. I had it backwards. He doesn't go out of his way to be a jerk here, that's his true personality. Over there on stripperweb, as much as it must hurt him, he has to be respectful there. Otherwise he runs the risk of all those non extras, air dancing, $1000/night claiming dancers not liking him or worse, getting banned. Makes sense.
No worries, it's cool to see folks be able to be their true selves here.
1. Wear a nice suit, 3 piece is preferable
2. Bring flowers, a dozen red roses would work
3. Don't tip or buy any dances from her, but tell her you have money to spend
4. Tell her she is too pretty to work at the club
5. Ask her out for dinner, mention how much your parents are going to love her
WCG
Its all for when the Singularity occurs and humanity formally divides into Masters and Slaves.
SJG