2019 was kinda the year where I accepted it wasn't the clubs, it was me.
Looking back - maybe around mid-2017 I started complaining more about the clubs I was hitting and in my mind it was either that I hit the club on a bad-day, or I just wasn't feeling it for that day for w/e reason - those meh episodes/visits seemed more and more common post mid-2017 or so - I still hit the clubs somewhat-regularly but w/ a bit of a decline in frequency as compared to my peak (not having an S.O. nor kids and not as a demanding job as in earlier years, meant I could hit a SC almost whenever I wanted in the last few years) - the feeling I used to have where I couldn't wait for my next club visit started waning w/ time post mid-2017 or so and most of my visits were kinda out-of-habit and going b/c I could and b/c in all the past years I had always quite enjoyed it.
By the start of 2019 I had to come to the realization that it really wasn't burn-out b/c I started to SC less and instead of missing it as in years past when I would sometimes cut down SCing for a bit, I really didn't have a big-desire to go back to SCing when I would take a break or SC less recently - in years past I would have to convince myself to not go to a SC (as to not over-visit/overspend), in the last year+ I kinda had to convince myself to go thinking something along the lines of "maybe this time will be different" - but if just felt more of the same and the proverbial "been there done that" feeling and I didn't feel that excitement/anticipation I used to have.
When I became a regular SCer, and more-so after joining TUSCL and having my PL-eyes opened to all the possibilities; I felt I would enjoy SCing for the rest of my life and it was only a matter if I could afford it indefinitely (I was visiting and spending at a healthy clip in part b/c I didn't have any other serious obligations holding-me-back/blocking-me from going) - I had never married nor did I have a desire to (I think marriage is a good-thing just didn't feel it was right for me nor did it appeal to me for w/e reason(s)) - I had been in relationships in my 20s and 30s but mainly so I could have consistent access to women (their bodies), not b/c I craved a relationship (at least not as I got older) - thus I didn't have a desire for civvie relationships but still wanted access to women thus for me SCs were a very good fit (access to infinite # of women per se w/ NSA - worked for me and kinda fit-like-a-glove and why I thought I'd be an SCer for many years to come).
But something happened on the way to heaven - didn't see it coming and didn't think it would happen to me - but strip-clubs and being an SCer lost its luster to where it actually kinda turns me off now - I don't SC much these days, lately have only been in SCs to watch a game every-now-and-then b/c there are two SCs in SoFlo where it's comfortable to watch a game since they have separate sports lounges where they play the game sound and there is plenty of seating and very large projection screens - I've found this setup more comfortable than a couple of the straight sportsbars I've been to in part b/c the two SC sports lounges usually have plenty of available seating and usually uncrowded where I can just sit back and enjoy the game - in these instances I've been to the SC to watch the game, I may go to the main-floor a time or two (halftime, etc), and instead of being tempted I'm kinda turned-off by the scene/hustle - and yeah I find some of the girls appealing looks-wise but I really don't have a desire to engage them in that environment/setting.
IDK how this came about - I even had my testosterone checked for the first time about 9-months ago - can't remember the actual # but from what I can recall it was in the middle of the range (not at the very high-end, but not at the low-end, and certainly not at a level for concern b/c the doc barely mentioned it only to say it was fine) - I still get turned-on when I watch porn, so I assume it's not necessarily my libido although I am not as hard-up as I used to be in the past in b/w SC visits (I turn 50 soon).
So for me 2019 was a year when I accepted that perhaps the strip club season of my life may be behind me b/c I really don't have an urge to go and I kinda have to convince myself that "it may just be in my head" and if I go then "I'll get out of my funk" and start enjoying it like I used to - but the few-times I've gone back have been meh to "what am I doing here and have left" - I've thought maybe it's time to "go straight" and find a GF but that feels more of a "grass is greener on the other side" thing b/c I really don't crave the demands of a relationship b/c:
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I just can't be w/ just one chick and not get bored sooner than later (since I don't really crave a relationship)
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I do enjoy my freedom of going and doing as I please w/o having to temper that b/c I have to tend to the needs (time, etc) of someone else
It's not as dire as I am writing on here - it's just that it kinda surprised me how the "SC bottom kinda fell out for me" when it used to be something I enjoyed so much and looked so much forward to - so I'm more perplexed than down about it.
With the good amount of mula I'm saving from not SCing, I was gonna start doing some traveling and experiencing areas of interest which I've done very little off - I was gonna do this starting Spring of 2019 but decided to instead take some final out-of-area SC trips to clubs that had been on my PL-bucketlist and never been to b/f, or out-of-area clubs I had not been to in a while and had been meaning to return but hadn't (since I don't get to travel for work/business at all) - so I did about 4 short (over a weekend or so) different trips b/w spring and summer and had two more planned but I put those other two on ice for now since the 4 I took 3 were just ok (not all I thought it would be) although one was pretty-good - so now I'm looking to Spring 2020 to start doing some of that non-SC traveling - I've also been able to save/invest a good chunk of change that I wasn't able to do b/f and this gives me even less incentive to waste my $$$ in a SC when I'm not really feeling it.
So my 2019 SCing was one of "wow so what am I gonna do for fun now" LOL - the P4P game which I used to really enjoy b/c of the no NSA aspect now does not appeal to me so even Sugaring or hitting FKKs/TJ does not have a huge appeal to me currently other than curiosity and being able to see-it-with-my-own-eyes - perhaps I just overdid it w.r.t. SCing for the last few years, IDK.
(Sorry for the long-rambling - didn't have a good night sleep last night and it was harder to get my thoughts together more succinctly).