Private dance at home, should I ask for extra?

I forgot to say that after she offered to dance at my house, she stated I would be the kind who behaves. Not sure if that means no extra for any price.

What possible reason could she have to propose coming to your house for a dance if it wasn’t in order for you to do something or things which you can’t do at the club?

It's not about what she wants, it's about what you want - you're the customer and the one-paying - dancers get asked for sex all the time - you are not courting them for marriage.


1) don't ask them how much - rookie mistake - you decide what's a fair-offer - dancers will often inflate prices especially when they smell a clueless newb ("there a sucker born every minute" and this def applies to strip-clubs - i.e. newbs get fleeced all the time and pay up the ass for small-time service).

2) never bring a sex-worker to your house - NEVER let her know your real name beyond maybe your first name - never give them your real ph # or social-media



I would recommend keeping it in the club for now since you obviously don't know how to deal w/ strippers - once you learn how to deal w/ them and not be a pussy around them and ask/expect what you want and willing-to-pay for, then you can move to seeing them out of the club - ALWAYS come to an agreement on what you want and how much; hope is not a plan - if she's not giving you much in the club then don't expect much outside the club.

Seriously. Another loser who is afraid that asking for sex would be disrespectful. Just ask for what you want. She is not a girlfriend, she is a sex worker. Treat her like one. And if she won’t do what you want, or if she charges more than you think is fair, then don’t do it. It’s
That simple. You have the money so you have the power. If she won’t agree to reasonable terms and services then just move on. There are plenty out there who will be willing to provide good value for your money.

And gawker is right. The only reason to meet a stripper outside is to do something that you can’t do inside, ie fuck. If you just want normal lap dances then go to the club where there are many girls to chose from.

"she is a sex worker. Treat her like one. "

NO, NO, NO! thats all rong! Treat them like a civilian and she will want to be waking up with you in the morning.

I like how @Smith claims to have such a raw and unemotional approach to sex workers after spending the better part of year writing about a love affair with his teenage "dream stripper."

LOL!

Re-Read Papi Chula explanation. If you're still in doubt, read it again.

I'll third Papi Choochoo's reply.

The first question here is, what do YOU want from this particular sex worker? If you're fine paying $$$ for dances in your house, well, who am I to judge? I can't remotely understand what the point of that would be, but if it's your thing, you gotta be you. On the other hand, if what you really want is extras -- and the fact that you're asking about it, means it sounds like you're sure hoping to get some. Which I get, I'd have zero interest in having a stripper over to my house if sex wasn't involved.

Here's something to note: there's nothing disrespectful about asking a sex worker for sex -- especially a stripper who proposes to go to your house. Of course, if you're an asshole, THEN it might be disrespectful. "Hey, whore, how 'bout $50 to give me a rusty trombone?", THAT is disrespectful. "I'd be interested in private dances at my house if we could do more there than here. I have something specific in mind -- can we talk about it?" is not at all disrespectful, and when she replies, "sure, what do you have in mind?" she's now given you consent to ask for what you want -- respectfully. Alternatively, she might say, "I don't do that", in which case, it's time to find a new stripper.

Negotiation-wise, I ALWAYS name the first price. Some guys do it the opposite way, but I like to take control of the negotiation from the get-go, with an offer that's slightly below what I'm willing to pay. Some guys like doing it the other way. Whatevs.

Of course, all this begs the question: You met her ONCE, and you're going to have her over your house now? Are you totally sure you aren't going to wake up in the tub, missing a kidney? Be careful, man. No fucking way I'd let a stripper I'd met once or twice know where I live. At least switch to a hotel or the hot tubs

Whenever a dancer brings up seeing her OTC, I ask her something like, "please explain how this works," Usually after a bit of back and forth, where I also ask, "what makes this better than the club," you'll get an idea what to expect. Some will tell you they won't have sex with you, while others will explain what is different. If you don't like what you hear go on.

Show her a dick-pic on your phone so she knows where you're coming from

Believe me, when she says dances she may mean only dances. Make sure it is crystal clear with no room for misinterpretation if you want sex and not just dances. Do not assume. Get a price or don't do it. Tell her you'll have some condoms. If she balks, walk.

Dick-pics bro - dick-pics

You're on Oahu. The chances of you running in to her outside the club--even if you aren't just there for vacation--are so slim that you need to tell her exactly what you want. Name a price and negotiate from there. She'll either counter or get offended and leave; if she does the latter, you'll probably never see her again so there is very low risk.

Thank you guys. Helpful comments. Nah, I am not a looser. Just a guy who does not have experience with OTC and just want to stay class with a human.

Good luck, Peace. You've been given good advice. The only thing I can add is that the first OTC is the hardest and it will be much easier after that.

All good advice. Let me add my voice to those stressing NOT. AT. YOUR. HOUSE.

Go rent a motel room.

There is exactly one stripper who knows my real name, my real phone number, and my real address. One. And even *she* didn’t know those things until five years after we met.

One more time, although stated very well above by, Papi, george... do not bring her to your house.

If you are meeting her otc - it should be to fuck her. Sure - maybe dinner or drinks before fucking her. But there should be no doubt in your mind - or hers - that your meeting is to fuck.

She’s a sex worker. Based on her suggestion - it won’t be the first time a customer brought up fucking her otc. Don’t pissyour money away on an otc lap dance.

Don’t bring her to your place! That’s a mistake.

When asked if I want to fuck her. I answer; "I don't want to fuck you, I want to make love with you, to please one another".
I have received texts from OTC girls asking to go make love with them when they say they are horny, after that.
The key here is to keep it simple, fun and relax, and like many have pointed out respectful.

Listen to both Papi and Subraman.

DO NOT invite a stripper into your home. Get a hotel room.

Listen to both Papi and Subraman.

DO NOT invite a stripper into your home. Get a hotel room.

sigh... sorry. Hate double posts.

If you are going to bring the girl to your home, fuck her brains out.

Make it into a full escort session.

When SF RedBook was running, RedBook GFE = DFK, DATY, BBBJ, MSOG ( multiple shots on goal )

Dances are gimmick invented in strip clubs to separate chumps from their money. Buying dances is a chump's game.

Front room makeout session, then when it is time for your own pants to come down, you invite her to the back room.

Then take her home with you to continue, and keep on seeing her regularly.

So if you are bringing the girl to your home, don't replicate a strip club gimmick. Just spend the night wearing out a mattress with her.

In a strip club the first and most important thing to do is to get your girl off script. The front room makeout session is the epitome of this. Best if you select and approach the girl yourself, and select the one you would like to be waking up in the mornings with regularly.

SJG

I tell sexy female apes that the want a BSLC in their rectum. Then I tell them they need a BSLC in their rectum. Then they want a BSLC in their rectum. ROAR!!!

The same tactic will not work for you Hawaiian ape, but you can tell her you have a Felix bud that double teams sexy hairless apes with you. She'll be interested. Trust me.

Enzy female hairless apes also like to do it turtlestyle. Just tell her you have a turtle bud that you hang with.

Any reasonable stripper I'll go crazy about the idea of getting a turtle cock in the vajayjay and an ape cock in the rectum.

Just some advice, turtle to hairless ape. Aah...yup!

I would be very leery of any stripper offering dances at home after meeting them for the first time.

Don’t set yourself up for blackmail or extortion

Not letting a stripper know where you live or work is equally important as not falling in love with them.

^ look at Bavarian all TUSCLarly grown-up giving solid-advice - nice - you've done well young Yedi

Peace, I noticed she mentioned "she stated I would be the kind who behaves. Not sure if that means no extra for any price."

You can't be sure if that means no extra or not. Many dancers will say the dances are no extras, but when you do see them OTC, they performed extras galore. Case in point is one of my most recent endeavors. After getting dances from her for a few months, she offered OTC. I asked her to explain why her dances were better. She said flat out no sex, but also mentioned the dance would be a lot better than in the club, and also less than a half hour in the club. I decided to take her up on her offer. Started similar to the club, but then soon turned to much more and for a lot longer.