Whether you are single, have a girlfriend, engaged, or married, why do you go to strip clubs? For me, it is I have been with my fiance for years, the only woman I have dated since high school. However, the clubs provide for me the enjoyment I missed out on and did not experience. I'm not one who looks for extras, but I enjoy getting drunk and having high contact lap dances with titties in my face. What say you?
@Papi - there are actually plenty of healthy men & women that aren't wired the way we strip club mongers are. We tend to be heavily in the minority. If you ask the average person about stripclubs the vast majority have either never been to one or have been once or twice and never went back.
I started because I my wife and I separated and I wasn't getting any so I enter the strip club. Now after many visits and finding TUSCL I go because some strange fun things can happen and as Papi stated its with all these beautiful women that come in a variety.
For me, I enjoy the fantasy and the escapism of going to a showclub.
I have found a favorite club near my home I like to visit.
I don't really care for traditional dating and I am unsure if I will ever want to be in a relationship.
So, the showclubs provide the perfect way to interact with women.
Less drama. I get to mess around with these beautiful women without having to "talk" about my feelings, etc.
Variety is the spice of life. If it was just lookin' I doubt I would go as often as I do. Given the thrill of easy conquest it is hard to resist. Some guys just have repressed themselves to the point of numbness I guess. Issues like trust and goodness are , at best, artificial constructs and do not have to govern your life. I treat myself well and I treat those who are important to me well also. Life is what you make it. You should review what you believe to be true and find out if it really is or just something you have accepted w/o examining it. Having to get to drunk to have a good time is a really bad sign.
Going to strip clubs may be a minority, but really, I think the general motivation for the entire sex industry -- strip clubs, AMPs, FBSM, street hookers, escorts, dominatrixes -- is all the same. Frankly, the reason that studies of pornography can't find a control group -- that is, they can't find men who don't watch porn -- is also tied into the same motivation. It's the exact same motivation, manifested differently according to personal tastes and risk tolerance, porn being the lowest risk and lowest reward.
Anyway, I think Papi has it right ... I don't have some single reason I like strip clubs. I stripped clubbed across various ages, I did it when I was single, I did it when I was dating, I did it when I was very happily married, I did it when I was unhappily married, then I did it again when I was not married anymore (regardless of whether I was dating or not). In a nutshell, I love having sexual access to gorgeous young women. Over the past 15 or so years, I've also used strip clubs the way some people use meditation or 420, as a light stress relief valve that makes me feel refreshed and energized for days afterwards (if it was a good trip)
It's a building filled with hot young women who want me to touch them (for a fee...) with minimal complications and time investment (at least that's my approach).
Along what lopaw mentioned, speaking solely from a guy's POV (since that is what I is), yeah; not all guys are wired the same way.
There are guys that are not horn dogs that are looking to fuck anything in sight that is attractive to them - there are def guys that like the companionship aspect of a steady relationship and that seems to be what satisfies them.
But IMO most guys see women on a daily basis (work, store, etc) that they would like to jump their bones if they had the chance - SCs offer a way to almost instanteneously "jump the bones" of women you just laid your eyes on.
Along Subraman's analogy of porn - a lot of guys - one would venture to say most; like watching porn - tney may not do it as often as they would like for various reasons; but most probably do like watching it (might be the reason there are also some many webcam models) - as Subra mentioned the porn-watching motivation is pretty-much the SC-going motivation; it's just that for many guys:
+ they may not know what one can get in many but not all, SCs
+ they may not have the ability to go either b/c of the financial hit or familiy situation (e.g married; too busy w/ kids; etc)
+ and there are some guys that are not into paying women for their "companionship"
Having said this; IMO there are straight guys for whom SCs don't do that much for them and they like other types of interactoin - but for the most-part I think most guys that do not go to SCs is not b/c they are not horn-dogs but more b/c there are other circumstances; IMO.
I made minor visits to strip clubs before I was married.
I like the environment, the women in high heels and makeup.
But then later as my marriage turned into a lethal trap, strip clubs was a way of staying sane until the marriage could be ended with my integrity in tact.
Its really just the women in high heels and makeup. If you disregard that, then the strip clubs offer nothing over civilian venues.
Not difficult to get a girl's cloths off of her. But the high heels and the makeup is something she has to do, and do deliberately.
Now true, where I am the strip clubs are just this visual and talking aspect. They aren't brothels. But there has never been any shortage of available civilians.
So again, it is the high heels and makeup, getting girls into that mode.
And then in the venues with mileage and a high portion of OTC girls, like the Mexican bar circuit, it is these girls who are just so highly sexualized, and who can be so easily induced into open tongue kissing and DFKing, along with all the pawing, right there on the main floor.
I believe a lot more guys are influenced by this dolling up aspect of it, than have learned to recognize this and talk about it directly.
I go to listen to the DJ constantly talk over the music - and especially love it when he actually stops the music to do his one-man frustrated-comedian routine
"its not like you can see that stuff anywhere else."
You can see it other places, but strip clubs are one of the places where it is more extreme and concentrated, and also the women are easier to engage with because they are getting paid.
I like AMPs too. But only in some of them, and these are more in San Francisco where they have less concern about how conspicuous they are, does the high heels and makeup standard run so high.
I actually don't go to SCs for fun. I'm in the midst of a long term study of human female breasts and SCs are the best place to collect lots of data in a short time frame. This is a long term study, I expect it to take decades. In fact I will be collecting data until the day I leave this world.
I remember in San Mateo County when LE told the news paper that they "had 15 dancers under investigation." And what a difficult it is that LE sometimes has to do. As dancers would tell me, they were even bringing their own condoms.
In San Francisco, if LE told the new papers that they were investigating dancers, they'd be laughed out of town.
But then look at the coverage of recent events in Greenville SC, sounds similar, investigating dancers, treating them as a social menace.
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I have found a favorite club near my home I like to visit.
I don't really care for traditional dating and I am unsure if I will ever want to be in a relationship.
So, the showclubs provide the perfect way to interact with women.
Less drama. I get to mess around with these beautiful women without having to "talk" about my feelings, etc.
Sometimes if I really like them I taken them out to dinner
And I think the reason most men don't go to strip clubs is that they don't know what's available. I certainly didn't.
Strip clubs are for fags
Anyway, I think Papi has it right ... I don't have some single reason I like strip clubs. I stripped clubbed across various ages, I did it when I was single, I did it when I was dating, I did it when I was very happily married, I did it when I was unhappily married, then I did it again when I was not married anymore (regardless of whether I was dating or not). In a nutshell, I love having sexual access to gorgeous young women. Over the past 15 or so years, I've also used strip clubs the way some people use meditation or 420, as a light stress relief valve that makes me feel refreshed and energized for days afterwards (if it was a good trip)
So... it's fun.
There are guys that are not horn dogs that are looking to fuck anything in sight that is attractive to them - there are def guys that like the companionship aspect of a steady relationship and that seems to be what satisfies them.
But IMO most guys see women on a daily basis (work, store, etc) that they would like to jump their bones if they had the chance - SCs offer a way to almost instanteneously "jump the bones" of women you just laid your eyes on.
Along Subraman's analogy of porn - a lot of guys - one would venture to say most; like watching porn - tney may not do it as often as they would like for various reasons; but most probably do like watching it (might be the reason there are also some many webcam models) - as Subra mentioned the porn-watching motivation is pretty-much the SC-going motivation; it's just that for many guys:
+ they may not know what one can get in many but not all, SCs
+ they may not have the ability to go either b/c of the financial hit or familiy situation (e.g married; too busy w/ kids; etc)
+ and there are some guys that are not into paying women for their "companionship"
Having said this; IMO there are straight guys for whom SCs don't do that much for them and they like other types of interactoin - but for the most-part I think most guys that do not go to SCs is not b/c they are not horn-dogs but more b/c there are other circumstances; IMO.
I like the environment, the women in high heels and makeup.
But then later as my marriage turned into a lethal trap, strip clubs was a way of staying sane until the marriage could be ended with my integrity in tact.
SJG
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For me, with our restricted strip clubs, its just looking and talking.
But with Asian Massage Parlor's its been FS, and usually real nice GFE.
Again, some use before I was married. But once I was married, it was needed as a way of staying sane until the marriage could be ended with integrity.
SJG
Not difficult to get a girl's cloths off of her. But the high heels and the makeup is something she has to do, and do deliberately.
Now true, where I am the strip clubs are just this visual and talking aspect. They aren't brothels. But there has never been any shortage of available civilians.
So again, it is the high heels and makeup, getting girls into that mode.
And then in the venues with mileage and a high portion of OTC girls, like the Mexican bar circuit, it is these girls who are just so highly sexualized, and who can be so easily induced into open tongue kissing and DFKing, along with all the pawing, right there on the main floor.
I believe a lot more guys are influenced by this dolling up aspect of it, than have learned to recognize this and talk about it directly.
SJG
Why The Cathars Never Existed
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O4-imkYb…
You can see it other places, but strip clubs are one of the places where it is more extreme and concentrated, and also the women are easier to engage with because they are getting paid.
But I like Viet Coffee and Civilian Discos too.
:)
SJG
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All in the name of science of course.
SJG
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In San Francisco, if LE told the new papers that they were investigating dancers, they'd be laughed out of town.
But then look at the coverage of recent events in Greenville SC, sounds similar, investigating dancers, treating them as a social menace.
SJG