Another Stripperweb gem.....
mikeya02
Default Re: Is it hard to date?
It's hard to date because I'm smarter than 90% of the guys I come in contact with, and because my personality itself is not conducive to the culture of dating nowadays.
It has nothing to do with being a stripper.
The only relevant factor there would be they're always afraid you're gonna make more money than them.
Oh, and the fact that stripper-dom has granted me the ability to filter through their bullshit easily and made me not afraid to say "no" or "I don't want to do such and such" and guys my age are NOT used to an assertive woman.
It's hard to date because I'm smarter than 90% of the guys I come in contact with, and because my personality itself is not conducive to the culture of dating nowadays.
It has nothing to do with being a stripper.
The only relevant factor there would be they're always afraid you're gonna make more money than them.
Oh, and the fact that stripper-dom has granted me the ability to filter through their bullshit easily and made me not afraid to say "no" or "I don't want to do such and such" and guys my age are NOT used to an assertive woman.
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And as far as being smarter than 90% of the guys she comes in contact with, I have long felt that this was true for many women and I've wondered how they were able to contend with it.
I long ago noted that the Sunnyvale Hip Hugger ( closed no tragically ) had attracted the smartest dancers, and mostly because it was a talking job. I got along very well with many of their girls.
Know where this SW poster is? I'd like to meet her.
SJG
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Wow! I know that I'd like these girls and get along well with them. It could be at a talk oriented club like Sunnyvale Hip Hugger, or at an FS-ITC club like S.F. Market St. Cinema, or it could be just spending the night in my own bed.
No matter, these girls impress me. The ones that do well in strip clubs have good people skills.
Sorry, but compared to this SW thread, TUSCL is often degenerating into a circle jerk.
SJG
Ive known plenty of women who struggled with that at 22 and just gave in by 25.
I like what I am reading in that thread. Those girls I would describe as "heads up". They understand the role they are serving in, and they understand the curious ways in which guys are effected by them.
But this does not mean the girls are out of reach. Not at all.
How is this "lala land"?
SJG
Sounds like John Smith DS lol
Secondly, those of you who consistently bash SW (as if the girls there even care), obviously are bitter for a reason. Especially since it seems that some of you sure spend a lot of time on the site to claim you can't stand it.
Third, I'm not sure what is so wild about what she said that it needed to be posted and analyzed/criticized here... Seems like a normal response to a question to me.
I go along with the SW posters.
I'm also glad we have here on TUSCL a woman who knows how to stand up for herself.
Though I'm not a sexual submissive, I'm always looking to give out complementary DATY.
SJG
Ishmael
I'm not Nina, but the kinds of blanket statements made in that SW thread were just generalizations and people trying to talk about their experiences and how they see things. Nothing wrong with that. Women who dance in strip clubs are placed under a great deal of emotional stress.
" Looking at Stripperweb vs. TUSCL interests me because of the massive discrepancies in perception/perspective between dancers and customers. It's a strangely antagonistic relationship, which is ironic if only because the goal within the club is an interaction that is physically intimate.
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Call.Me.Ishmael +10
We should be reading SW and then joining and talking with their members and trying to understand.
SJG
For example some of the guys here seem to be skilled at a system.
I actually get tired of hearing, oh, you must be smart when I tell dancers my job profession.
I graduated from college an am working in my profession. She may have a lot better dating skills than me though. Most of the girls I met and went out with just wanted to have sex at first.
Eventually, you have to actually go to a strip club and have fun rather than talk about it.
But let me use myself as an example. I am SURE that it is possible I am a bore and/or dancers just don't find me attractive. Nevertheless, good conversationalists and people-readers can get through someone like that. So no, I don't believe strippers have those social skills. Some do, but many don't.
Maybe she should start attending Mensa meetings so she can meet guys “at her level”
:)
Also as far as a woman being smarter than a male (not particularly a stripper) I think it depends on your area and the group of people you talk to for example I have had to simplify my vocabulary a lot around people where I live more so than I thought needed at times. (I like to write, and am working on a trilogy so I like to use a variety of words.)
And you have the audacity to try to demand that I stay at SW. Let's see what you are going to do to make that happen.
Bye, thanks for stoppin' by!
I agree with "Nina" that Clackport/Randy Anukam/Missionary could
Probably stand to shut the fuck up, especially in one of his posts he states strippers like "aggressive" guys. Take note Randy Anukam, they like assertive guys which is a world of difference compared to aggressive. Aggressive behavior deals with thug like mentality.
Nina Nina Nina, I'm not hiding behind anything, and I'm not just stopping by, I'll be here for awhile, I don't know if I can say the same for you. Follow 25's advice, just ignore the trolls (me). Last time you tried to go toe to toe with me I made you quit pretty quickly aka stomped you :) We wouldn't want that to happen again would we? I'll be in Detroit sometime in 2016, I'll hopefully see you then. Have a great day!
Nina i love you boo
What exactly would you want to hear me say in from if your face anyway? It wasn't clear what has pushed your buttons, other than the fact you had to bail out on moving to Phoenix a year ago because you're too broke. Get a job besides being a customer service rep behind a phone, and u might get somewhere someday. That of course would require an education beyond your GED.
Yep ... And to be fair, even Selena did not say "90% smarter than most fo the guys that go to a strip club", at least that I saw. She said, "I'm smarter than 90% of the guys I come in contact with". I actually think she's talking about guys OUTSIDE the strip club, since she's talking about guys she would date, and presumably, she wouldn't date strip club customers. In that context, I don't find it hard to believe her at all. Typical strippers (obviously, just a generality) are not not going to be coming into frequent contact with successful, smart, white collar men -- those men don't view strippers as dating material. The men she will come into contact with are lower-status men, as Selena herself admits, later in the thread:
SelenaTheStripperOnSW--->"It is common that they get with those guys, I agree. On Sunday my club's manager was like "Wait, you're legit engaged? And he has a job? And his own vehicle? Holy shit" and then proceeded to tell me I was the only one who had a boyfriend that wasn't a piece of shit. The other girls he knows of are dating the aforementioned loser drug dealers who borrow the girl's car, don't pay rent, etc etc.
Selena the s
Anyway, for me, easy to believe a stripper with average smarts would be smarter than many of the dating-prospect men she comes into contact with. Depending on the club,that might be true of customers in her club, too. Here in silicon valley, there are times I look around a strip club and think that the smartest stripper there is still probably 20 IQ points lower than the dumbest customer. But there are other clubs with working class customers where that's definitely not the case.
You're pathetic and have no life, just various online aliases. Lmao. You're like something someone shits out before they flush it down the toilet... Worthless, filthy waste.
They're talking about us in their thread, and we're talking about them in this thread. It's all become quite meta (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph…).
ALRIGHT !!! - she's finally gonna show us her tits !!!!
Good job fellas.
"Strippers intuitively read men well, but in a small category of intelligence this does not constitute them as being smarter than 90% of men, as that stripper web girl indicates. If they truly were 90% smarter than the men who walk into the strip club, they wouldn't need to be a stripper. "
Yes, women are usually quite good at reading men in an emotional or intuitive way. And women who do well in strip clubs and sex work are even more so.
But to say that they are strippers because they are not smarter is just completely off base!
Most high wage employment is in areas geared to men, and only to those men who seek it and are well prepared for it.
And besides, for those who take to it, being a stripper is fun, and it allows for flexible schedules, time off, and travel.
You can't portray strippers as those who have no other choices; not any more than that could be said about everybody; as most paid jobs are just total bullshit.
The way I look at it this. If they weren't strippers, then just to get a decent wage they'd probably get channeled into FIRE ( Finance, Insurance, Real Estate ).
So I look at the money handed to strippers as simply paying for them to be there, to keep them out of sensible shoes and FIRE, as that would be a complete waste of beautiful women and because FIRE is a completely parasitic portion of our economy.
And then as far as being smarter than the customers, of course there is a range of strippers. But I'd say that their median is higher than the customer median, and by a good measure.
And as for the one posting that she is smarter than 90% of the customers, from my experience at the Sunnyvale Hip Hugger, a more talking oriented place, I'd say that about 1/2 of the girls are smarter than 90% of the customers, and then the other 1/2 of the girls are only smarter than 75% of the customers.
And then, civilian dating is boring and time consumptive. For a girl who is highly sexualized, she isn't going to want to be riding around in car key and wallet dates. She'd rather be at a sex party. Well a strip club gives her that, plus money.
Again, the Sunnyvale Hip Hugger, and other clubs too. Girls will say, usually with exactly these words, "This is my social time." The meaning is that she wants to see me as soon as she gets off, and Off The Clock. She means that she doesn't need winning and dinning. On duty at the strip club is how she meets guys. It is her alternative to sitting home and talking to her cats. For some of them it is just a weekend job, as they have a more corporate job during the week.
SJG
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One thing I never understood while dancing and that was why so many have to have a man. I always told new dancers to live it up and not worry about dating for a while. The reason is because there are many messed up dancers who choose horrible guys. We see this often when a dancer has a worthless piece of shit boyfriend she is supporting and is afraid to leave because she'll be alone. Seen this so often and then when one leaves she repeats the pattern. The reason of course is the average man won't want a stripper in a serious relationship. They would be ashamed or can't handle her job (and most men can't).
Btw strippers can be intelligent. I can't think of quite a few at SW who are. These are mostly older, retired dancers who invested and give financial advice. I have a genius IQ verified by Mensa but the reality is that people who are smart often scare people. Employers don't want to hire someone smarter than them unless it is to their benefit. Young smart women who haven't finished college yet don't have a lot of choices so to some dancing is a way to get to that point.