I'm pissed, but what should I do?
JohnSmith69
layin low but staying high
So I've spent several months cultivating a relationship with a cute little stripper that I thought would be an outstanding DS backup. She's new so it's been slow going. But I've been very patient and generous with her, and we were clearly making or progress towards OTC nirvana. I'm probably her best customer or at least damn close to it.
This week she royally fucked me, and not in a way that I want to be fucked. All of the details don't matter but for the first time I saw the SS flow like a river from her. She stole money, stood me up for a date, and refused to answer my texts. I wasted a trip to see her, and am extraordinarily pissed off at this little bitch that I treated so very well for many months.
What should I do? Broadly speaking I see three options.
1. Grovel like a miserable little PL and stay with her.
2. Ignore the whore and move on.
3. Go to her club, get the dancer that she passionately hates and has told me never to spend money on, and pay this other girl a small fortune. This girl is a 9 by the way, so it wouldn't be a sacrifice to spend on her. I'm pretty sure this girl wouldn't do OTC with me but she would give me good mileage ITC. And of course she'd love to take the other girl's money.
I really really want to do 3. Would this be a mistake?
This week she royally fucked me, and not in a way that I want to be fucked. All of the details don't matter but for the first time I saw the SS flow like a river from her. She stole money, stood me up for a date, and refused to answer my texts. I wasted a trip to see her, and am extraordinarily pissed off at this little bitch that I treated so very well for many months.
What should I do? Broadly speaking I see three options.
1. Grovel like a miserable little PL and stay with her.
2. Ignore the whore and move on.
3. Go to her club, get the dancer that she passionately hates and has told me never to spend money on, and pay this other girl a small fortune. This girl is a 9 by the way, so it wouldn't be a sacrifice to spend on her. I'm pretty sure this girl wouldn't do OTC with me but she would give me good mileage ITC. And of course she'd love to take the other girl's money.
I really really want to do 3. Would this be a mistake?
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you should also read the props on that review you submitted today
i just wanted to make sure you saw my system reference lolol
I only spend money on one stripper. If she gets mad at me and tells me to go find another girl, I just stop going and save my money. Eventually she comes back to her senses and contacts me again. No chasing on my part and no childish games of trying to piss her off by getting dances from her "enemies"
Oh hellz no!
Like the saying goes - "I'll beg for pussy and I'll pay for pussy, but I won't beg to pay for pussy."
None of us would ADMIT to doing 1 :) I've done #1 a couple of times in my strip club career, but I think (hope) I'm years past that, I just can't imagine getting so attached that I'd put up with it, especially in your case where at best she's an emergency auxiliary stripper and not even your top girl. In fact, last time a stripper irritated me -- and she didn't fuck me over nearly as badly as yours did to you -- I gave her her walking papers on the spot, despite the fact that she may well have been the most beautiful stripper I've ever OTCed with.
Of the two options that are left, I would plan to do #2, but if I got ornery enough, there's a small chance that I'd call an audible and switch the play #3
Depending on the context, I may just lower my tipping to a trickle. If she texts, I would request concise OTC action immediately. If she balks in the slightest way, I would bolt.
Again, depending on how she stole the money and stood you up.
I was initially thinking, did he meet diva or her clone and get called a nasty pig?
L_W, you and I part ways here, maybe partly because I've pursued it your way and got fucked by it. Once she metaphorically bent JS69 over the table, fucked him in the ass, and then shoved the dildo into his mouth (all metaphorically!!), if he goes back, she'll have absolutely no respect for him at all, and justifiably so. Things will get worse, not better, and not only might he lose more money, but any shred of self-respect she's left him. Give her her walking papers on your own terms, she's going to keep fucking you otherwise, IMO.
Unless I"m reading too much into it JS. Stealing money, etc., seems like a pretty major fuckup. Strippers always have little fuckups, you just have to set your expectations low about their judgement, willingness to keep promises, etc. But this doesn't feel like a little fuckup, it feels like a fuckup fuckup
If it's your main club, 2. She played you. She is like the SW girls who tease OTC as long as they can. She just burned the lot. Don't hang around.
Lopaw, thank you. Im going to put that in my high journal.
Mikey, I'm confused.
Well if scat did it, it's gotta be ok.
LW, it's too complicated to explain. But it was pretty bad. Top 3 in terms of strippers who have done me wrong.
JS69: Hell yes, if the infractions are tangible, I would walk immediately but would probably not seek any type of revenge. This shit is just the price we pay for partying with young sexy women that will fuck us for money.
#1. This is clearly a nonstarter. Even if you would want to go back with her, that really wouldn't be a good option. Trust is pretty much irrevocably broken, both ways.
#2. Ignore and move on. Note that I didn't say "Ignore the whore". She clearly doesn't want to be a whore. This may be your best option.
#3. Rub her face in it by patronizing a dancer that she hates. Realistically speaking, while it might make you feel better, it isn't going to affect her at all because she has already burned her bridges with you - consciously and irrevocably. The best you can hope for is a bit of discomfort from being in the same room with you. Can you report her to the police? Nope. After all, that money was supposed to fund an illegal pay-for-sex session. Get her fired by telling management? Even if they do it after they quit laughing, will any other dancer at that club ever trust you again.
#2 looks like the best of three bad options to me. You might, if you should have opportunity, civily express your disappointment in her betrayal. Under no circumstances, though, attempt to force the issue - all sorts of bad things could result from that.
And what exactly did you mean when you said that she stole money? How much and how?
#3 is fine with me since you are initiating a strong action and then wait for reaction.
#1 is fine but with the intention of landing her to bed in the next two weeks, anything beyond that is basically a loss on your financial statement.
#2 is still the same as #3 you are showing a huge reaction, basically reacting to what she has been treating you. Kinda lame if you are making a movie.
minnow, I was smoking a bunch of weed just prior to posting. Sober, I'm still really pissed. But I'll miss her. I hate bring a PL sometimes.
Joe, not sure what it means in application here, but a good saying nonetheless.
This is not video girl. Video girl still loves my money, she wants to make another video.
Yes I have too many strippers. I think I'm afraid the DS is going to quit being a sex worker.
http://youtu.be/mRmKzxhMzwo
Oh hellz no!
Like the saying goes - "I'll beg for pussy and I'll pay for pussy, but I won't beg to pay for pussy." "
Brilliant!
I wouldn't spend money on her enemy because all that does is show you're still hung up on her. Makes you look foolish and might even cause a scene.
My new license plate frame motto!
Revenge is a dish best served cold.
I'll be honest and say 4 years ago when I first got into the club scene, I would have done #1.
Now, with years of experience? I'd probably do #2. I wouldn't want the drama that #3 could create if I liked the club where she worked at.
I might do 1a, and give her a chance to make good. Without groveling. Or 4, where I try to get my money back. There's a limited set of circumstances where those would actually work, though.
John's being a little coy, but that doesn't seem to be what happened here. From what little John's said, she's left Forgivable Stripper Fuckup Town and entered Larceny City. Disengage, motherfucker! This is the kind of person she is, and it's a matter of time before something like it, or worse, happens again -- when, not if. Throwing good money after bad isn't the way to go. JS made a mistake, it happens to everyone, but a wise PL knows when to cut his losses and not set himself up for the same thing over again.
Again, JS, I don't know what exactly she did but I"m assuming it's super bad...
I think I'm gonna play it by ear ITC. If she's kind, repentant, and fair, I might give her another chance especially if I'm high, but I will be extremely careful going forward if that were to happen. If not, I'll let the little head decide what to do about her enemy since he doesn't give a shit about revenge.
Somehow someway this needs to make it into the TUSCL glossary LOL
Just ignore her and enjoy your time with the other ladies.
So it will accomplish nothing to try and use other girls to irritate her.
You should not grovel, but neither should you do anything antagonistic.
Just go about your business and partake of other girls as you like. When you cross paths with this one again, just be neutral, and see where it goes.
This kind of stuff comes with the territory. Ones who have been screwy with me, not as bad as what your are describing, but bad enough, they just avoided me because they knew I might be pissed. But once they saw that I wasn't, things were okay.
Now true, I'd be cautious about putting any of them in a position again where they could cause any problems.
You go in their looking for sluts. So when you find them, you can't be faulting them. If they were not that way, then you wouldn't be there.
SJG
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SJG
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Night in Tunisia, George Benson version
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zU7q-2O1…
Dizzy Gillespie, UN Band, Hamburg, 1990
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You don't forgive others for their sake, you forgive them for your sake. And by forgive, I mean ignore her and pretend she doesn't exist. If that's too hard to do by frequenting her club, then construct another scenario where it's possible, as in another club. It's not like there's a shortage of opportunities in your circumstance.
I know, I'm a PL.
The system was merciless. They even put up fliers all around in hope they would find more victims. There weren't any.
Now after 10 years he is out on parole. But as he has to register as a sex offender, it is extremely hard for him to find a place to live.
Those just divorced are under an extreme amount of stress and the chances of getting into trouble are greatly enhanced.
And then we see that you are partaking of drugs.
Please be careful. Don't destroy your chances of a happy future by getting into stupid and dangerous situations.
SJG
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Yep, no arguing there, John : )
HAVE WE TAUGHT YOU NOTHING?