why do you take strippers out to dinner?

Sometimes the meal is deducted from the price...another loophole in paying her is getting her ass drunk at the restaurant or putting a Mickey in her drink at the restaurant. The last 2 scenarios I should be able too hit it and run without paying at the end! BOOM

People are different.

You enjoy doing drugs. I've never even smoked a cig in my life, let alone did any drugs

While I can't speak for anyone else, I'd assume people take strippers out to dinner because they enjoy companionship from a pretty lady- even if it's just a business transaction and the two of you aren't boyfriend/girlfriend.

Strip clubs and most strippers are about fantasy. When it gets to OTC sex, it's about reality. I'm one of the older contributors (PL's) on this site and I've been fortunate enough to have enjoyed sex with many beautiful women over the last 50 years. Now, when I'm paying for sex I want a beautiful woman, but one who's company I can enjoy, one who will take the time necessary to let me get fully "into" it. If I enjoy her company it still is a business transaction, but that might include dinner, drinks, shopping, small talk, or whatever.

You make it sound as if you dislike the women you fuck. I love to love them, to savor them. Tonight, I picked up a 24 year old dancer at her mother's, went for a couple of mudslides, stopped for some shopping and then did what came natural. I enjoy talking with her, I enjoy being seen with a hot young woman. It was a cool evening and the restaurant we were at had a wood burning fire outside. We took our drinks out to sit by the fire and passed a table with 6 men who I'd guess to be inn their late 40's. I saw them all ogle my "date". As we talked the size of her breasts became a topic of discussion. She furtively looked around, lifted her shirt and bra and flashed me. One of the men we had passed watched as she did that and nearly choked on his drink as she exposed herself. I saw him lean in to his friends to tell them and as I walked past them with her leaning her head on my shoulder, I was the ALPHA male.

If you just strip and fuck you're missing 1/2 the fun.

Simple, she became more than a stripper to me.

Well said, Clubber.

I take B-girls/hookers out to eat all the time. I don’t care to dine alone and a pleasant dinner companion is a joy. A good dinner, a good night of sleep and a hearty breakfast all go better with a side of young pussy.

Because it is fun. Really fun. Some of the best "dates" I've had have been with dancers. All but one have been outstanding. These girls love to party.

They love to party. I've never had a problem with them being inattentive, miserable, clock watchers or flirting with patrons or staff. I wish I could say the same for the civie dates I've been on.

Seriously, these honey's seem to really be deprived of good conversation and being with someone that knows how to take them to decent places.

I love being in the company of young beautiful women. Love it.

Loser boyfriends don't take strippers out for dinner dates at a 5 star restaurant. As flaky as they are, strippers want to feel special and be treated as such. So if you take her out to dinner, relax and have fun. If she uses her cell to check on her children, don't worry. It's the second cell phone call that tells you she's not worth the trouble.

Everyone has made good points here.

I think some (or many) of us here are incapable of really enjoying sex without some sort of connection with that person. I can't go with hookers or escorts for a meet and fuck and really get any enjoyment out of it. Whether you are doing drugs together and then fucking or having dinner and drinks and then fucking,or going to the zoo together then fucking, you are still making a connection with the girl that heightens your experience with her. It gives you time to tease each other a little and when you finally get down to it, it makes the sex that much better. Ans as Lone Wolf said, it is FUN. Most of these girls have had a crazy life and they are full of great stories and they know how to have a good time. They are uninhibited, they like to party, and they aren't shy. For now, civies bore the shit out of me and I only go on dates with strippers whether I am paying for sex or not. Call it a mid-life crisis phase, call it what you want, I don't really care, it suits me just fine for now.

Because they are ladies, women who want to be treated with an evening dinner.

Deep down she is also vulnerable to seduction.

Once she opens up, she will want to have sex that you won't be able to handle.

Sex in places you wouldn't think it is even possible, like for example, (1)the mall parking lot, (2)the laundry room of an apartment complex where anyone could simply walk in, (2)a highway rest area, etc.

This one chick, I dunno, she is just uninhibited.

Of course, money will get them to act like the genuine piece, money will always help any situation.

It's not overly complicated. Most strippers I know like living large. Lots of booze. Drugs. Nice furniture. A sweet ride. Good food. It's part of the total package.

And for small girls, I've seen some strippers pack away more food than me.

Because we were hungry.

Funny responses, some guys are more out there than others.

Why do we do this? Maybe because we are multidimensional people and not bonobo monkeys.

^rotfl

because most of us know how to enjoy a restaurant with a young lady, instead of squandering thousands on drug skanks, drugs and "bottle service", being holed up in a room.

Wait a minute, aren't you the little prick who crashed a Lambo in Miami?

I actually LIKE my ATF and I enjoy her company even if it's just a lunch/dinner date. I pick up the tab but I don't pay her to be with me when there's no sex.

Is it OK if dancers take you out to dinner? One took me to a Japanese steak and sushi place. She wanted me to dress up(suit & tie)so that she could "watch the tongues wag when I kiss you and call you daddy".

Gentlemen

Stop. It's cringeworthy.

Am I the only one here who utilizes strip clubs for what they are--a type of entertainment? I suppose so. And it isn't a fantasy for me either, either. The money I withdraw from my checking account sure is real. Her vagina sure feels real.

What is apparent is that many (most?) of the people posting here seem to have the perspective--and I could be wrong about this--that strippers are basically surrogate girlfriends.

There's nothing wrong with wanting companionship and intimacy, and certainly strippers are people too, but here's my question to you gentlemen: if you want a girlfriend, why not just get one? That way you can avoid dealing with the baggage of strippers and have someone return the affections.

Perhaps many of you are not sexually attracted to women your age. That's fine, but at least be honest with yourself about the nature of the transaction, being that

a) it's business for her, and

b) your affections are unrequited

As I'm writing this, I have come to understand what you guys mean when you refer to a fantasy...fantasy in the sense that you want her to be your girlfriend. But she isn't.

@ Hard4Dancers: My ATF is a surrogate G/F; what's wrong with that? I see her on my terms and I can dictate the relationship to the extent that she's not really a g/f. I don't have any obligations except to have some cash.

I also now have a civi g/f that's my age, and it's a very 'normal' relationship where I DO have some of those pesky obligations. We have a lot more in common than I do with the ATF, but I'm not giving up the ATF. I like 20 somethings too!

rockstar666

Fair enough. I have to ask, though: what were you doing as a younger man? Surely you had your share of twentysomethings back then. Seems kind of unfair to your actual...um, girlfriend.

Because I'm hungry and she won't leave.

@Hard4Dancers

If I’m out and about in the world I sometimes hire a car. If I’m out and about in the world I sometimes hire a companion. I have no desire for anything beyond the convenience they each provide.

No affections, no GF, no fantasy. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

I have to agree with Hard4.

I guess as long as the PL sees it for what it is then “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander”.

Whether one is paying the dancer for dinner; or taking her shopping; or buying dances; if you are enjoying yourself then that is what you are paying for – you are paying for her time and attention; whether that is dinner; shopping; lap-dances; etc. – one is paying and the dancer is providing the service.

But IMHO; just as when the dancer is giving one dances or FS; it is for the $$$ and not b/c that it’s what she really wants to do – IMO when a dancer goes out with a PL to dinner etc it is about business/$$$ and not b/c she really wants to or thinks you are special – you are a customer – IMO.

@Hared4: When I was in my 20's I was a faithful married man. So you can make a case I'm now having a midlife crisis to make up for all the 20 somethings I didn't fuck when I was that age. As for my G/F I haven't fucked anyone else since we met....we'll see how long that lasts. BTW she's married!