"Finishing" a Lap Dance

Well, I've never shot a load at the club. I think I have had plenty of pre-cum experiences, but nothing that has been apparent. Usually, I have to readjust my pants, put my belt back on, tuck in my shirt, zip up my pants, and straighten up my hair. I must look like one of those dumbass guys in the Axe commercials.

I had a great dance one time from a stripper who was at her last night on the job because (I found out later) she had gotten pregnant and was dropping out of school and moving back home. She got very wet and into it and was grinding so much that she tore my suit pants at the crotch (still need to get them fixed). There are some freaks who really see it as a challenge to get the guy to pop and God bless them for that. Most of the girls I know can tell that you are highly aroused and they try to help you out, but know that you appreciate the effort. I can usually convey to them that I was very, very close and that I thoroughly enjoyed my time with them. And, of course, padding the green a little tells them all they need to know.

fuckhead_dancer has lots of experience dealing with this (more than discussing the rise of fascism anywhere, at least), might want to get her insights.

Douchester can't quit me.

Usually they'll push me away gently and I'll get the hint. I'd rather you didn't cum on me, thanks very much, and no one has. A tap or a verbal warning so I can move out of the danger zone is appreciated. Outfits are expensive and it seems like the guys that I go back to the VIP with understand this on some subliminal level.

Once had a dancer promise me two pops during an hour-long VIP session. After number one I went to restroom and cleaned up. Once back in the VIP she delivered number two as promissed.

I prefer a heads up if you are going to finish. I usually will ask a customer if they would like me to keep going after they finish. They usually say no and head to the bathroom. I don't assume that just because someone finishes that the dance is over unless they tell me they are done.

stilleto, if you had to give an estimate, about how often does this happen with the customers you interact with?

fetish_dancer - "outfits are expensive". Yes but washable. Most dancers have several outfits with them at work. In fact they keep changing them all night long, trying to fool customers into believing that there is new meat available.

@govikings- With the types of clubs I'm working in these days I would say once or twice a shift on average.

damn, it happens that often? more than i expected.

this has never happened to me. and i'm glad it hasn't, i just can't picture cumming in my pants to be fun.

but at the same time, when i read about stuff like this on TUSCL, it really makes me wonder if i've ever gotten a really good lap dance

never busted a nutt in my pants. pecker has always been out side being jerked off, sucked on or between a pair of juggs.

Dammit 10, you're killing me. If I whipped it out during a LD here in cbus I'd end up castrated or in jail or both!

@shadowcat: I understand that, but I'd rather not have to clean cum off my clothes. Js; give me a heads up :P

I've never even come close to finishing cuz of lapdances. It doesn't appeal to me at all, the mess in the pants. Reading this site makes me think theres something wrong with ME lol.

samurai: No, you're not alone. I don't get off on grinding, either, though there's been a very few times when I thought I might if it went on long enough. Like you, though, jizzing my pants holds no appeal.

@stiletto:

Once or twice a shift on average? Really! Who are your customers - super horny 18 year old virgin nerds?

You need a clientele of elderly Canadian oilmen.

"I've never even come close to finishing cuz of lapdances. It doesn't appeal to me at all, the mess in the pants. Reading this site makes me think theres something wrong with ME"

Um, dude, I hate to say it, but there really is something wrong with you. You're a man, man. Our lives revolve around sex. We're sexual animals. Enjoy it. No room for worrying about a freakin' stain. Don't care what others think. Be proud of busting a nut.

You worried about other customers seeing the stain? Who the hell cares? Do YOU stare at guys crotches in the club? Of course not. Neither do we. Customers are too busy staring at dancers, not you. And if they see a big stain, so what? Be proud of it.

And I hope you aren't all concerned about whether the dancer gets any on her. That's her problem. They're professionals. Change into a new outfit and she's fine.

By the way, just look at PrimO's icon/avatar. The perfect lap dance. Damn. If having a girl do that to you doesn't make you bust one, then you got some problems.

Reminds me of years ago I was walking thru the parking lot of a club during the day, and a guy was coming out of the club with a smile on his face. In the daylight it was hard to miss the fact that he had a HUGE dark wet stain in his loose, light gray shorts, and a tent in his shorts from a post-lap boner. The guy was walking proudly, he head held up high. I smiled, and gave him a thumbs up.

I was proud of that guy.

There are, without a doubt, better places to blow a load than in your pants. I have partaken of my fair share of those as well. But sometimes you have to play the hand you are dealt. If that means choosing between Cummings in my pants or going home with blue balls, I'll lather up the pants every time.

Jerikson, eh? Considering that avatar has two nekkid ppl in it I guess you agreed with me while you were disagreeing? At any rate, my final sentence was meant to be taken lightly, hence the "lol". If it got you worked up then..uh...I guess check this out: youtube.com

lol

@farmerart- I agree

The reason I don't cum in my pants isn't because of embarassment, or the mess, or what the dancer thinks. It's because making trouser babies ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH for me. It's that simple. If I can't get off someplace better than my pants, I'm doing something wrong. Don't get me wrong; if you're OK with getting off to simulated fucking, that's fine. It's just not what I want out of the deal.

trouser babies!!!

lol! deeply amused

Got it. So having a really hot girl rubbing and stroking all over you while you grab her tits and she talks nasty in your ear isn't good enough. Okay. That makes sense.

And I'll bet you don't need to get off like that, either. Because you have a line of much hotter girls waiting for you at a moment's notice. And anyway, who wants to get off all the time? I mean, really, it's just sex. And in your pants? Gross. And certainly not sanitary.

Now I understand. Thanks.

jerikson: No, obviously you don't. I no longer have unlimited nuts to draw upon. And, in point of fact, there is, if not a line, a fair number of girls willing to do more than rub my crotch. Considerably more. See any reason for me to settle for less than actual sex, rather than something I consider inferior?

Like I said, if that's your thing, go for it. Have fun.

fetish_dancer: Yeah. Coined by my current fave (at least, she's the only one I've hear use it) when she was talking about some of her customers on the very subject.

cum on her tits or mouth avoids the mess

Jesus H. Christ, jerikson, why does it matter where GMD gets off as long as you're getting off, too? Personally, I wouldn't want to cum in my pants either -- it's why I stopped dating teenage boys when I was younger -- but whatever floats your boat. Lapdancing isn't a one-size-fits-all thing; some guys get off on the sleaze of being ground through pants, others have more options.

*I should edit and add to my odd wording that I stopped dating them because they came in their pants, not me in mine.

god, fail.

thesamuari- what you said in your first post applies to me. i've never even come close either. that's what i was getting at in my previous posts in this thread

"Here's the deal: what the hell am I supposed to do when I finish at the end of the dance?"

Take your dick out of her mouth.

"Jesus H. Christ, jerikson, why does it matter where GMD gets off as long as you're getting off, too?"

Umm, fetish, baby, guys rag on each other. It's a thing we do. I was ragging on him. Girls don't get that. They think we're being mean to each other. I was pulling his chain. I was also ragging on the guys here who seem wound up tighter than a drum. There are a few.

Gotcha. And no, I didn't get that, lmao.

Never have. Never want to. And I suspect "most" customers don't. Otherwise there would not be such an extended discussion of extras.

Well, younger guys rag on each other. I don't have time for that shit anymore. I'm too busy trying to squeeze my nut into some lovely's waiting embrace.

@lapdanceking82 So your telling me after sticky pants your not interested anymore. Lol its funny how that happens. Thats happened to me a few times and its nothing to be ashamed about. The girls actually wanted to make me release it. The last time it happened the girl unzipped my pants and pulled her thong to the side. She wrapped her lips around it and started grinding. Five minutes later we were both sticky. She was so turned on she said she had and orgasm. The club was closing in 20 min so we both cleaned up and went back to my hotel for more action at no charge. That was a lucky night for me.

Lucky night, indeed. I might have to find a club like that. And sweet avatar, dabiggtipper.

I'm not into extras usually but finishing off would be great except for going home with the mess. I've been trying to figure out the proper protocol for slipping a condom on somewhere in the middle just to keep things contained. The lube would sure help. Putting it on beforehand seems tricky since it would likely slip off before I'm hard. Of course, I don't go regularly enough to have an ATF who would allow my pause to cover.

But maybe I'm overthinking