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20 years ago
Hi. Female here. Always wanted to go to a men's club. I've been ready to apply dancing a few times--the now-ex fiance said no way in hell. Chuckles.
I want to watch, basically. I'm not lesbian, and the man I'm currently with works as a bouncer in a club. I think the female body is an artform. I have several reasons for wanting to attend.
First, I my man as aroused as anything. Whether that's a movie, my own talents, or having a stripper give him a lapdance in front of me, I know he'll be rock-hard and raring.
Second, I think there are things that all females can pick up from watching. Subtle moves that will make a man be happier with the relationship.
Third, like I said, I do wish I was dancing. Since I had my son, a bit of exercise and toning is needed but by going, I can see what the dancers do and what rules they abide by.
So I'm strange. Maybe. I'm just normal, I thought.
D.
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20 years ago
What about perfumed shampoos? Are they capable of transferring odor to the men you dance for, or are they ok?
I'm asking as a possible-future dancer. I prefer myself fragrances dealing in Vanilla. I know that this scent is a variable one with men I've met (some can't stand it, and I understand that--a few others go nuts with it), and I have found Suave shampoo that leaves a clean, vanilla scent to my hair. I add a hint of vanilla extract, or Bath and Body spray, and I am out the door. Would this be overwhelming, or ok?
Thanks guys.
D
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20 years ago
Clean and Sober,
I apologize; I mispelt the word, but here's the link to prove it does exist: http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=rubenesque
I'm what is considered in today's trend a BBW. I belong to the Y, try to not eat badly, and such, but I have had a kid. That has made things so difficult in getting back in shape.
Oh, on a note for being lazy from the other board--I'm a graduate student with a degree in Computer Science and working on my LAED/MAED. I don't want to dance because of the $, but it is more than McD's; I want to dance because I have always wanted to dance. :)
D.
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20 years ago
Thanks Tom.
Actually, the handle is my "alias" only to hide the me behind the female. :) An ex was into the BSDM scene, and I adopted the name as sort of revenge. I am Dee, though. Mistress is simply the long version for "Miss".
Mistress
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20 years ago
How does a female go about getting started in a clue? I don't mind going and watching, but I'm not sure I could do a private dance/lap dance. That just feels weird. Is there a way to get over the weird? Or is that just a personal thing?
(I have no problem watching someone else get a lapdance, btw...)
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20 years ago
Thanks, but my question was geared more at being a customer! Grins.
I did check out the facts. My first goal is to slim down just a bit (exercise, diet, carefulness) then I can practice on my guy. He's getting to see a great many of them so maybe he can critique! :)
Dee
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20 years ago
Anything in North Eastern Ohio guys?
D.
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20 years ago
I've been photographed by polaroids once. The gentleman asked for a memento of me, and I was happy to give it. I do not regret it. As for what I personally like, in a one-to-one (not necessarily being filmed, etc!) I do enjoy swallowing. I can't explain why; it's just something that I am willing to do when I care for a guy that I'm with. It's not something I'd do with a total stranger or in a social type setting. I believe sex is based on trust, committment and some love and caring. I prefer the term "Making Love" to F**king because I like gentle touches and knowing that my partner and I are meeting halfway. This doesn't mean that there aren't episodes of animalistic lust, however! Oral pleasure is something I am into big time, though. I've amazed several of my ex-fiances and my current lover with the degree of participation that I am willing to do.
Now as to if I could be filmed, etc doing this. I've thought about it, and decided that only I had total control of the tape. I would not be comfortable with it in the hands of an outside, but it would be interesting to see what I look like through a "third eye" so to speak. I have no problem with the women who need to earn a living doing movies and mags--from what I've gathered the features tend to fall into this category at several strip clubs (like Candee Apples, who is current at the strip club that I know about (FlashDance).
I guess once again, it's a question of person beliefs.
Mistress D.
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20 years ago
I just added a review for FlashDances in North East Ohio. From what I've heard, it's average, but it does seem rather nice and cosy. There are the pool tables, a stage show (with 3 songs), a feature, and couch dances (20) and easy chair lap dances (5). The girls seem to be skimpily dressed to nude. I learned a great deal watching the ladies tonight. The gentleman I was taking him (coughs, bouncer, coughs) seemed surprised that I didn't get a lap dance for myself. :)
Mistress D.
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20 years ago
Applauds! Perfect for the working woman!
Mistress D.
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20 years ago
When J. started as a bouncer at FD he was intitiated by Lydia for free.
He said it did get a rise out of him. :)
Mistress
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20 years ago
Staff at clubs,
Do you think that the bouncers, 'tenders, etc get "freebies" and extras because they work there, or do you think since they haven't the money, they don't get a thing?
D.
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20 years ago
LE?
I have a reason for asking btw. Mom brought up the issue when I told her the man I'm dating is a bouncer. I know that he has been honorable since I met him, and has a rule about "dating a stripper"--he states he must maintain a distance from the girls to better protect them from the folks who would prey on them.
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20 years ago
LE's not in the glossary. Would be a good addition to it. :)
D.
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20 years ago
Thanks Cat.
Side question: what are the two abbreviations in the phrase "ymmv -with some dancers even offering chj's."
Thanks!
D
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20 years ago
Hmm. wonder. What would be considered a "religious" film? A movie about Mohammed that detailed his life and times (like the Passion) that was rated R? Something on the old-testament level that was equally as violent--say David and Bathsheba, which wouldn't upset the Jews like the Passion does? A nice little old movie like the Wicker Man?
All these in my book are "religious movies." Then again, my religion isn't normal either. We're accepting of other religions. Maybe that is why I can be open minded about Strip Clubs, Dancers, and sexual preferences. Hmm. Something to think about. I KNOW I'm not a Jerry Falwell. I actually like Tinky Winky.
Grins.
D.
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20 years ago
Thank you all for the input. I'm learning a great many things, plus having my mind relieved.
D.
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20 years ago
How different, though, are other fetishes? Someone, say, who likes to suck toes or someone who is into anal sex--are they different from the fetishes that are pictured here (beastality is always odd, I'm not referring to that but to rather the other items described above)? How about BD/SM? Shrugs. There's a fetish for everyone, and a reason that the fetish exists in the person's mind in the first place.
Who are we to judge if sucking toes is a bad thing?
D.
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20 years ago
OK, TGG. Now that just made this lady shiver....
grins.
D.
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20 years ago
Some, and some girls looking for input about becoming dancers.
D.
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20 years ago
The club my friend bounces at offers $5 armchair dances, and $20 couch dances, fully nude, no touching by the gentlemen. There are 3-for specials at various times throughout the night (it is a state university town!), there is no reason to buy drinks for the girls, and the music tends to be kicking and add to the "grind" of the ladies. Hopefully this helps.
Mistress
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20 years ago
Critique please.
I've asked before, but no one's helped. I'm slow, I admit--mainly due to funding and childcare, it's that mom thing you know, lol--but I have given one review. Is this review something that is appropriate and gives enough information, or would you guys like me to upgrade my technique a bit and add more information and if so which bits of information are lacking? I admit, I cannot vouch for extras--being female is a downplay there, grins, as well as this particular club is really above board (according to the bouncer friend I have there) and doesn't allow them.
Mistress
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20 years ago
Thanks Shad.
Not sure if I can think like a man--there is a great deal of estrogen there. However, I'll revise what I watch for. That's one reason I wanted to ask--FD was my first ever Stripclub that I went into and after the few months that I've been dealing with it (still helping bouncer get to and from work), I've been learning more of the little things.
Mistress
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20 years ago
Good ideas. Also looking for a means to conceal them--they show up in the spotlight, and she'd like to 'low-key' them until they go away.
Thanks!
D.
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20 years ago
I'll add to this discussion as a female. I have a very sensitive body, and it takes very little for me to get off. Just by stroking my breasts, I have cum for my exbf. His toe while I was attempting to read a book was magical and we both kept our clothing on the whole time! Some females are capable of a highly sensual experience just from touch and others need the more intense stimulation of the more normal sexual advances. Neither female is better than the other--each are made in their own way.
However, if a dancer says it, I do agree with the person who said above that there is a difference between faking it, and just having a bodily reaction. I don't say much, my body just quivers along with me. It amuses folks greatly.
Mistress D.