Intentional ignoring text games
rickmacrodong
Do you know dancers or even other people, guys or girls who engage in this? Basically they intentionally ignore someones texts in order to get the other person to chase after them more, or ask them out, give them attention.
I think some dancers are doing this to clients and it works on some, i think some who aren’t aware or experienced get crazy over the ignoring stuff.
Right now there’s lots of dating coaches, articles etc who are advising people to do this. So, there’s literally 2/10 guys and girls who are intentionally ignoring people thinking it will get the other person to like or chase them.
Its also used by narcissist types as a psychological weapon, control tactic, to show anger etc.
I think some dancers are doing this to clients and it works on some, i think some who aren’t aware or experienced get crazy over the ignoring stuff.
Right now there’s lots of dating coaches, articles etc who are advising people to do this. So, there’s literally 2/10 guys and girls who are intentionally ignoring people thinking it will get the other person to like or chase them.
Its also used by narcissist types as a psychological weapon, control tactic, to show anger etc.
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I don't think they are doing this to try and get you to make more attempts.
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pro-tip: play the game. wait 2 hours, then ask them 'whats up' and make them beg again.
There are many people engaging in this as well as many people falling for it. People are being advised to do this on the internet. They’re being told if they like someone, to intentionally ignore them because itll make them more interested.
To unsuspecting people, they can wonder what’s going on, why they weren’t responded to. It can cause some people to chase after the person and think about them more.
The behavior itself was modeled after ceos, presidents, royalty, and wealthy powerful people. Imagine if you tried reaching out to some ceo or celebrity or president? You’d basically be ignored. Even if you had their personal info, chances are youd be ignored. People are essentially trying to replicate that sort of behavior to appear to be busy and in demand. Even if they’re in reality on the phones all day.
I have seen and known extremely ugly guys and girls engage in tjis behavior. Even with people they were obsessed with. Its possible people with lower self esteem do it more.
Some people take it as far as copying your response times or exceeding them. Like if you reoly after 2 hours they do the same. Some even intentionally wait a full day in order to “punish” you for replying after 2 hours.
Some people even copy the length of your texts. Like if you have 50 characters they try to do the same or less.
It’s probably miore common in the younger crowds who grew up texting. People in their 20s now maybe early 30s. Older people don seem as familiar with these
For instance if you double text them, and they respond very quickly and enthusiastically.
Or if you flirt with them and they flirt back.
If someone is genuinely busy I wouldn’t take it personally. Same as if they didn’t wanf to maintain a connection.
There’s certain clues and context that tells you if they’re intentionally doing it.
And if they are doing it intentionally there can be like 10-15 reasons. It can be to test your confidence, your interest level, how needy you are. It can be used to get you to chase after them, either for genuine reasons or to stroke theur ego. It can be a subtle indirect way to tell you you’re worthless, dumb, inferior to them. It can be used to show anger, or control you. Narcissits are renowned fir using silent treatment.
The reason i dont like it is even if it’s done as a test or try to get someone to chase you, the indirect message you’re telling them is still that they’re worthless, inferior and/or stupid.
So what you end up with is only super desperate guys will still continue talking to that person, or players who are familiar with it and are willing to take the hit to the ego because they want to get the girl.
I think the reason ignoring can be regarded so badly by many is cause it can be worse than rejection. There’s the uncertainty factor, and the fact it isn’t just a rejection its a refusal to even be connected in any form.
You still owe nice spice 10 grand you cheap fuckn queer.
Some people with low self esteem feel compelled to do this, to feel better about themselves. If you think about it, the ignore game is a subtle way to hint to someone “you aint shit”. Its an insult regardless, but some people are desperate enough, or don’t care about it so they still continue.
For instance in some cases I double texted and the girl replied back with crazy enthusiastic or flirty responses within like 2 minutes as if she was waiting there for me to get back to her. I didn’t want those two girls but was still able to run tests to look for clues on the ignoring.
Yeah, it really is. Whether it's because they don't have time, are busy with something and forget, or really just don't want to talk, it's just that simple.
Do strippers selectively respond? Sure. A now-former dancer I've known for years will go quiet when she doesn't want to tell me no. So if I put something out there and don't hear back, then I'll treat that as a no lol. And if I really want an answer quickly I'll call her and give her a chance to say "no" or "can't" etc because she has no problem saying the words but doesn't like typing them.
Or there's another dancer with a pre-paid phone plan that she's terrible at keeping paid up. If I'm only getting calls and she's not responding to texts, then she's probably due to re-up her plan. Or pick your own reason. To some of the other comments, there are dancers who don't respond because they think the customer might show up at work looking for them and spend money. It happens.
Bottom line is you as customers get to decide what you'll put up with it.
Sometimes people are genuinely busy, genuinely forgot, or genuinely didnt get the message. And then, especially with these younger people, its a game. Youre giving too mucj benefit of tje doubt, people in their 20s and 30s are playing text games all the time. You may not be familiar with the games. You cant deny their existence and say it means theu dont want to talk to you.
Use to be the reg of a dancer who was half white and half East Asian. One of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. I initially followed my general rule with her. Next time I saw her in the club, she complained that I had stopped texting her. I said I didn't want to be pesky. She insisted that she read all my texts, even if she didn't answer them. Yeah, I know, almost certainly her way of making me feel I was getting attention from her, without her actually having to bother to give me any. But, regardless, I texted away. Worse ways for a boring old man to fill his ample spare time. Anyway, I helped her once with her Calculus homework, so the bitch owed me.
Your reading comprehension sucks. I never said that, and I don't mean that.
I started a discussion on this a while back, and not much has changed. I’ve resigned myself to the fact that some dancers are great at responding, and some aren’t. Some are prompt, some aren’t. I’ve stopped reading too much into whether they respond, how long they take to respond, etc. If they are interested in communicating, they have the means to do so. Having said all this, my biggest annoyance is when a dancer with an intermittent work schedule can’t take 2 seconds to let me know whether they will be working or not, especially if my visit to the club is based on whether or not they are going to be there.
Humans aren’t robots or machines. Things aren’t as simple as somebody doesnt respond, always means they arent interested. Its also not as simple as didnt respond, always means they’re secretly super interested and playing games.
Some dancers are actually doing this intentionally because they think it will get guys to chase after them more and spend more money. And to susceptible guys it can really work. To an inexperienced gullible guy, he might wonder why shes not replying, think about her more, chase after her more.
Theres dating coaches and youtubers with millions id views advising people to do this. Its about pretending to be busy even when you aren’t. Showing you have other options. Pretending you dont care even if you care a lot. Its related to the fake society, fake behavior, narcissism etc. some people will actually use it if they’re angry, the silent treatment.
People also do it to people they think are arrogant or out of their league, as an attempt to bring down their ego. When i was in university, there were literal 2/10 girls doing this thinking it would make me want them more. They would be just a classmate for example, but would ask stuff on text, intentionally ignore etc. if I flirted with them just a little bit they would flirt a lot.
Georg then what did you mean? The way you worded it, that’s what it seemed.
Where did I use any version of "never speak to them again"? You're reading more into my words than the words say.
Icee who’s playing texting games?
I didn’t say I’m playing texting games. Theres dancers who play them to attempt to get more money and attention. Regular people play tjese games for validation attention or to get someone they want. The unfortunate reality is a lot of people play these games, even in professional settings, for a variety of reasons.
Jimmy its cool you said that, so youre willing to double or triple text someone who doesn’t answer your messages?
I most certainly did not. Once again, your reading comprehension sucks.
“Yeah, it really is. Whether it's because they don't have time, are busy with something and forget, or really just don't want to talk, it's just that simple”
So yes, you didnt explicitly say one text, but you stated if they don’t respond to X number of texts you assume they dont want to talk
It's your money friend. Simply use it in a way more beneficial to you
Can we meet outside of the club?
No.
Let’s meet up at the motel 6 on I95 tomorrow.
No!
I have a coupon for 30% off a room.
No!
I know you like me!
Go away creep!
I got my work bonus today - so I’ve got an extra $200 to spend!
No! No! No!
You said you liked me when I was prepaying for a dance.
I say that to every guy who buys dances - loser!
Fuck you whore! I tipped you $20 after that dance! I’m a big spender and you can’t treat a whale like that!
Bye bye….
Obviously that was a fictional characterization of the text interaction. But, it’s likely close to the reality of this twisted fool’s existence.
This isnt about dancers or other people ignoring texts from someone they dont want to talk to.
This is actually a widespread thing people are doing for different reasons.
Also cashie, your examples are of a dancer repeatedly saying no to otc invitations... not the same as an intentional ignoring game, i wouldnt expect filth to understand.
It was hilarious seeing champ call you generous. He doesn’t know you stole all tht money you tipped for Christmas
And of course you can make someone “feel good” giving hundreds of dollars free lulz
Good luck with that.
But i did notice you dont like admitting when you’re wrong...
You stated people have to ask founder permission to change account names, not true
And you mixed up debit cards with credit cards. It was pointed out, then you switched over to saying “well what i said still counts since credit cards have cash advances”
His maturity level appears adolescent. He is either underage (and should therefore be banned from this adult site) or he has no unpaid contact with women, and he is obviously afraid of them.
Whether its inane or not is up for debate.
But you dont even really understand the idea Cashman
You may be too old, or just too ignorant
I won't speak to the civilian side of it except to say that, if anything, it would backfire with me. If she blows off my text, then I'll assume that she's either not interested or simply lacks basic courtesy. I'm not the type to blow a girl's phone up for any reason.
With a stripper, there can be too many reasons to count. Do you know how many guys some of these girls give their numbers to? She might be burned out from dealing with guys, or just not interested, or she's not in the right mindset, or she is busy with real life stuff, or [insert other reasons here]. I don't read anything into it if I text and she doesn't respond except to assume that she isn't looking to interact with me at that moment. Next. I can very much assure you that she does NOT want to be chased and will probably block you if you blow up her phone.
On the flip side, do you know how many strippers I've given my number to over the years? I do the same thing that strippers do when I'm busy or just don't want to deal with them - ignore the messages. And I'll quickly block someone that blows up my phone. I've never had any of them take it personally the next time I saw them - they know the score.