T.M.I...I think
rickdugan
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I'm also not fazed by much of anything, including the all too common loser SO stories, general pity hustles, stories about historical rape and abuse, confessions about mental health issues, jail time and criminal records and various other things that come up surprisingly often. But I finally came across something that's making me pause.
As is my custom after a first time club to OTC adventure, I googled her number to make sure that I didn't find her advertising on one of the low rent escort sites. She wasn't, as I suspected. But what I did find is that she's also using the number in a vanilla commercial side venture. From there the breadcrumb trail quickly led me to her personal FB account.
And what did I find that so disturbed me? <strong>Wholesome nuclear family pictures and videos</strong>, along with posts regarding a couple of commercial ventures she and her husband are obviously trying to get off the ground. I won't get into further details as the local club scene seems to be getting smaller by the day, but obviously those ventures can't be going so well if she was out in a notel room with me trying to make ends meet.
I don't know why this bothers me so much. It's not that she has an SO and kids - they all have SOs and I've always viewed kids as a positive motivating factor. I just don't know what I've stumbled into, which honestly is unusual for me after so many years of this. By all appearances the guy seems like an involved father and husband and she a devoted mother and supportive wife, but obviously something isn't right if she's bent over a bed in a notel room with me.
Again, I'm still trying to put my finger on why this bothers me. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Maybe she (like many here) likes strange every now and then and a monetary boost!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uy0t868_…
I obviously can't answer this question for you, but I might feel the same way in your situation. If it were me, I'd be wondering if I was reacting to a small degree of one of the following...
- does seeing a "nice mom" doing sw make me wonder if other nice moms in my life do it too? Neighbors? Family? Mrs C? My own mom?
- do I in some way feel more comfortable treating a woman of one social class differently than a woman of another social class?
- does all the damage in a paragraph 2 girl make it more ok to buy sex from her, ie its more ok bc she's used to rough treatment?
- is there some made for tv movie backstory where she's holding it all together by secretly doing sw to save her or her husband's pride, and I'm playing the role of the bad guy?
Don't get me wrong, I buy sex and think the practice is perfectly fine between consenting adults. But that doesn't mean I'm 100% immune to these mainstream moral narratives.
That's not remotely it. They're all real people with real lives and I often get to know a lot about my favorites. IMO anyone who needs a fantasy to enjoy a woman is a delicate pussy.
I think rockie is onto something. They all also have SOs, but that doesn't usually faze me as they are often losers who can't pull their weight. But she didn't present like a lot of these girls do on social media - her FB presented more like other families I see in my real life social circles. A lot of the posts came for a decent piece of property that they own, so he must have had his shit together more at some point. Idk.
It's entirely possible that her husband knows all about what she's doing. I know that my ATF's husband knows all about what we did, if not every little dirty detail, then at least in general. And there's at least one other girl in town who does shit with her husband's knowledge. While I was in the VIP room with her, she called her husband on speaker to make sure it was alright to blow me.
I suspect that the source of your discomfort is, at least in part, rooted in <em>your own</em> attitude, and likely reaction were you to find out that your wife were doing such, along with your inability to understand how a "real" man would allow such a thing.
Q1: does seeing a "nice mom" doing sw make me wonder if other nice moms in my life do it too? Neighbors? Family? Mrs C? My own mom?
A1: Not this, at least not in my social circles. The guys all have at least decent to very good jobs, which means that their wives do not come under extraordinary pressure. Some (but not all) of those wives do work, but they are regular jobs.
Q2: do I in some way feel more comfortable treating a woman of one social class differently than a woman of another social class?
A2: Maybe I feel more sympathy for a girl has legitimately made good choices and tried to do the right things, but still came up short. Idk - still trying to unpack it lol.
Q3: does all the damage in a paragraph 2 girl make it more ok to buy sex from her, ie its more ok bc she's used to rough treatment?
A3: This isn't it. I treat everyone with respect and dignity.
Q4: is there some made for tv movie backstory where she's holding it all together by secretly doing sw to save her or her husband's pride, and I'm playing the role of the bad guy?
A4: This is probably closest to the truth, as silly as it may sound. Again I am trying to fully unpack it, but this guy couldn't have always been missing the mark given how far they've come. Again Idk.
and shame on shadow for linking clips from that vulgar disgusting poor excuse of a movie.
(i've watched it 50 times.)
I ran into this with an escort that was also a high profile porn star. She had a big family and an innocent appearance. She just liked sex and got paid for it in several forms. It's kind of refreshing knowing women ca be horndogs too. Whether you would want your SO to do that is a separate matter. Just enjoy.
I can think of several reasons for a spouse not to advertise their spouse's sex work, and none of them are any kind of <em>real</em> "shame". Avoiding confrontation with self-righteous prudes. Keeping CPS or other agency from poking their nose where nobody is actually being hurt. Not giving bullies any ammunition against kids who don't understand. Protect business interests from previously mentioned self-righteous prudes. And of course, the simplest one, it's none of anyone else's business.
I know, I know…you’re sayin’ to yourself “yeah, I’m glad the apelings appear to be well-cared for and she has the luck of gettin’ some rickin’, but I feel guilty that she’s cheating on a male hairless ape that is, by all appearances, a stand-up guy.” Well, don’t sweat it. Just be glad that the apelings are provided for. And be glad for the rick fun time.
And…who knows…she and her husband may be perverts who dig a little side action and income generation. If so, everybody is happy. ROAR!!!
Honestly you're right and I don't know why I care. But for some reason it's just sticking with me.
SJG
i ain't paying to listen to that shit.
I am not saying you actively looked her up, but one more click and it’s easy to open a can of worms that might not help your desires.
I hope you can move past this unusual feeling, and simply enjoy this girl.
This is kind of less about another woman to fuck and about your journey into learning something about yourself that might be useful to understand
Me too Cash. I think I can, but we shall see. I may be a little more motivated than normal considering that lately I've been spending too much time drilling dry wells instead of developing promising ones, so my roster is starting to thin out.
Unless, of course, it is fun to do so. For instance, if he starts texting her about her activities. That’s when you should say “hey babe, let’s have some fun” and start texting back with the details of your adventures, share some random thoughts about the wife, etc. ROAR!!!
But still, the rick has to say that “I fucked your wife wearing Gucci flip flops” is kind of a rickish burn. Imma use that one in the future, even if it isn’t true. I mean really, funny is more important that true. ROAR!!!
SJG
The Pretenders - Hard Rock - 1998 ( quite good and they added a keyboardist)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4jIhy6m…