T.M.I...I think
Normally I'm the last guy to complain about this. I don't need a fantasy to enjoy a girl. In fact, learning about these girls and their motivations has paid off handsomely over the years in helping me get certain situations to the right place. On the flip side, it has also helped me dodge more than a few bullets. All intel is good intel, whichever way it points.
I'm also not fazed by much of anything, including the all too common loser SO stories, general pity hustles, stories about historical rape and abuse, confessions about mental health issues, jail time and criminal records and various other things that come up surprisingly often. But I finally came across something that's making me pause.
As is my custom after a first time club to OTC adventure, I googled her number to make sure that I didn't find her advertising on one of the low rent escort sites. She wasn't, as I suspected. But what I did find is that she's also using the number in a vanilla commercial side venture. From there the breadcrumb trail quickly led me to her personal FB account.
And what did I find that so disturbed me? Wholesome nuclear family pictures and videos, along with posts regarding a couple of commercial ventures she and her husband are obviously trying to get off the ground. I won't get into further details as the local club scene seems to be getting smaller by the day, but obviously those ventures can't be going so well if she was out in a notel room with me trying to make ends meet.
I don't know why this bothers me so much. It's not that she has an SO and kids - they all have SOs and I've always viewed kids as a positive motivating factor. I just don't know what I've stumbled into, which honestly is unusual for me after so many years of this. By all appearances the guy seems like an involved father and husband and she a devoted mother and supportive wife, but obviously something isn't right if she's bent over a bed in a notel room with me.
Again, I'm still trying to put my finger on why this bothers me. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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last commentIt would seem you are struggling with a convenient loser narrative for her spouse.
You’ll probably get there!
Maybe she (like many here) likes strange every now and then and a monetary boost!
You’re definitely overthinking. But I can relate to seeing a pic of a stripper with her kid and losing the fantasy by suddenly thinking of her as a…
Now this is TMI:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uy0t868_Oaw
@rick: You are probably bumping up against a bit of your own unconscious bias wrt sex workers. You are used to thinking of them in the terms…
One of the hazards of living my whole life in the same town where I grew up. Many many years ago (think Miami in the late 1980’s -early…
===> "But I can relate to seeing a pic of a stripper with her kid and losing the fantasy by suddenly thinking of her as a real person…
Following on Drew’s line of thought, does it actually bother you? Is she less attractive or are you less wanting to repeat? Or, is it a distraction because…
There's nothing inherently wrong with a married woman fucking you for money, despite what church and societal brainwashing says about it.
It's entirely possible that her husband knows all…
@Drew: Interesting theories. My thoughts are as follows:
Q1: does seeing a "nice mom" doing sw make me wonder if other nice moms in my life do…
@GMD: You could be 100% right on all fronts, but I am very skeptical that he knows the full extent of her activities. One because IME…
Why do you care that's the question, it actually sounds very judgemental
wish i could help rick. never dug that far and only really care about their paid-to-behave club persona itc and otc.
and shame on shadow for linking clips from…
Another thought that hasn't been brought up is that some women, despite social appearances, have a wild side and just like sexual variety. If she can…
@rick: "One because IME SOs often don't but, second, because of what I've seen him post on the FB account."
I can think of several reasons for a spouse…
rick my brother, you should be happy for her and her little ones. Remember, cubs and apelings are the future so it is a good thing if the…
===> "Why do you care that's the question, it actually sounds very judgemental"
Honestly you're right and I don't know why I care. But for some reason it's…
It’s spelt “hotel”, not “notel”! Lol..
I'll admit I find it somewhat comforting that my favorite had a long time on again off again boyfriend that I was able to piece together didn't mind…
I probably would not want to partake with such a girl. Prefer ones who are unattached. Though she would not be totally excluded, just not preferred.
SJG
^^ I’ve had faves like that, too. Don’t want to mix my personal life with their chaos. I manage my life differently than the providers.
i use a 'don't ask don't tell' policy. she mentions hubbys/bfs after a warning and it's a dealbreaker. i ain't paying to listen to that shit.
Clearly her Facebook page is a sham. She couldn't possibly be good enough to be the faithful, submissive wife of a Rick, yet choose not to be.
He doesn't like humanizing hookers. He gets off on coercing desperate women
My CF was at my house this afternoon and we discussed this. She has a FB account and 3 IG accounts. I commented to her that I know…
There's also the very real possibility that what she presents on social media is a facade. It's not like that would be the first time that's happened.
@dolfan: good point. This is generally true to a certain extent, so maybe she's just bullshitting a bit more than your average facebooker...
I try to avoid overthinking and investigating the lives of my OTC connections.
I am not saying you actively looked her up, but one more click and it’s…
Rick I think I'd ask her. Bring it up with her. She won't be shocked you googled her number of course. I find when I…
===> "I hope you can move past this unusual feeling, and simply enjoy this girl."
Me too Cash. I think I can, but we shall see. I…
@Jimmy: There is an unwritten rule when dealing with a stripper who is seeing you for p4p: Never bring up SOs. She knows you have one and…
Yep I know the rule. I've broken it if it's someone I know. Maybe I get closer to them than I should tho. It's definitely…
I think it's an indicator of how main stream p4p has become in our society. It may also be an indication of the simpization that's happening to men…
The married thing is weird for me too.
As usual, the dugan is right regarding the general rule: Never bring up SOs when dealing with a p4p female.
Unless, of course, it is fun to do so.…
Also, this rapper named Future Ape has this thing about mentioning that you fucked the wife while wearing Gucci flip flops. Hell, this rick didn’t even know Gucci…
Reality check: we had to elect a senile assclown to avoid having a mega assclown fuhrer. But we single out strippers as the ones who have "issues".
One good reason to fuck married women is if you knock her up you don't have to pay child support. If she has a kid it's her…
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SJG
The Pretenders - Hard Rock - 1998 ( quite good and they added a keyboardist) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4jIhy6m5tk
My diagnosis from a minor in psychology: It bothers you as the usual scenario is flipped. You are used to being the one that is somewhat normal and…