Dancers Asking You to Smile . . .
Probably it is just that I'm an old sour puss-- even when I was young. But, I receive that request too often. Once is too often, imho.
So anyone else being asked to smile? Or, if you're a dancer do you make that request and why, why, why? :)
Sometimes a perceptive dancer can feel the cold and will comment on it. That usually doesn't bother of late for whatever reason and sometimes I think it as a little funny. Like I'm at a club where 2 men essentially had their lives ended over very little and if it were just the club, then fine don't go to the club. I see the same filth in court--at least to me it is filth. Given the number of people that support "torture" it just seems in my mind the in the club or in the court expect filth. The church is depressing too! So I'm supposed to be warm and fuzzy? Maybe if the dancer is good enough over an extended period of time, but I don't even think that is desirable.
So anyone else being asked to smile? Or, if you're a dancer do you make that request and why, why, why? :)
Sometimes a perceptive dancer can feel the cold and will comment on it. That usually doesn't bother of late for whatever reason and sometimes I think it as a little funny. Like I'm at a club where 2 men essentially had their lives ended over very little and if it were just the club, then fine don't go to the club. I see the same filth in court--at least to me it is filth. Given the number of people that support "torture" it just seems in my mind the in the club or in the court expect filth. The church is depressing too! So I'm supposed to be warm and fuzzy? Maybe if the dancer is good enough over an extended period of time, but I don't even think that is desirable.
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Once in FanasyLand West (Bucyrus), a dancer told me to smile and I said that it was her job to put the smile on my face. Sure enough, two LD's later I was smiling.
I should use the line more often.
The "are you happy tonight" doesn't bother me at all and I've heard that more than a few times. Probably in part because it is not a command or judgement (depending on how she says it). Also, it just seems like other service businesses where they genuinely want to know if you're satisfied.
I get it from the uglies and there is a good reason I don't smile at them! The neon sign analogy!!! (Excellent.) But, I also get it from the hotties and usually (better than 90%) they're a ROB. :(
Smiling (even artifical) is supposed to release a feel good endomorph (?) and at least for me it works--yet I don't like it. I'd rather have something real to smile about-even most "happy" drugs are better than the forced smile. Hot nekkid ladies, ain't enough to a smile on my face. I can see super hot on the internet. It is getting what I need that will make me happy--not sure if I will smile.
If I am happy, then the best way for the dancer to get me to smile is to do a lot of smiling on her own. If she has a good smile, then it is super attractive. :) I also notice that I smile (symbolicly) much more over the internet than IRL. :)
you say you smile more over the internet babes than with flesh and blood naked women surrounding you in mass via the SC experience???? Hmmm...maybe I need to spend more time looking at porn on the internet- I must have missed something.
I typed that "I also notice that I smile (symbolicly) much more over the internet than IRL. :)." Wasn't even thinking about the internet babes when I typed that.
Flesh and blood naked women surrounding me in mass doesn't do much for me unless they're available. I'd rather watch internet porn. :)
Fortunately, this request to smile is limited almost exclusively to stripclubs, ime. At that it normally doesn't seem friendly. One exception was a sweet girl, non-stripclub & non-sex, who practically did back flips to try and get me to smile. I didn't believe in smiling so I didn't smile. :)
Although in a modern context smiling tends to associated with the smiler having some degree of happiness, except for example when a car salesman. flight attendant, or politician and so forth is giving the obvious fake smile, the actual derivation of smiling is not known. The evolutionary basis seems to be an expression of weakness or submission, perhaps used to avoid a physical confrontation by a superior foe.
This might explain why its possible some women (subconsciously) can be turned off in the "chemistry" sense by men that are always smiling, it could be an indicator of the unwillingness to use physical force or just general weakness. Consider that Jimmy Carter likes to smile and note that James Bond rarely does.
The whole manners and smile routine seems so forced and fake. I don't mind faking as long as it seems completely real. The best dancers, imo, are the con artists who can reel you in hook, line, and sinker. :)
which of course = I personally won't be spending any money on THAT girl.
Today we call that a "smile". Starting from the threat position, this change is a very minimal and subtle difference, which avoids a mistake in a hair trigger situation possibly having a life or death impact to the weaker party. For example a handshake could be mistaken for an attack, so a very minimal but important change can unwind the threat w/o mistake.
Obviously humans being the most intelligent of primates began to understand over time that last second backing down from threats, depending upon the foe, at certain times could be a very logical option.
Now if women happen to be subconsciously turned off by men that smile excessively (which may or may not be the case) - it probably has a primordial basis as being associated with weakness and submission
So just ignore any dancer chick that tells you to smile in a club
Next up, strippers who ask if you're having a "good time": Obviously scheming to rip your heart out of your chest, drain your corpse of all its blood and feed your remains to jackals.
Granted, I haven't heard it many times, and usually I am all smiles. It's also probably not a coincidence that most of the times that I have received this comment it was spoken by a dancer that I had absolutely no interest in. This can be attributed to me being very quick to smile at a hot dancer that I am interested in, upon initial - and successive - eye contact.
I didn't think most customers smiled at the stripclub unless they already knew the dancer. You know that whole dealy about dancers planning and plotting to rip out hearts and drain wallets. Not very conducive to smiling for most customers.
I see experienced dancers approach customers who are giving out all manner of negative body language. The old rule you don't know unless you ask. Sometimes the customer is just shy or has had a bad day or feels rejected, or etc. It isn't that reading body language isn't a helpful tool, it is just that it isn't a universal truth.
Female customers watching male strippers seem to be 100% opposite in their behaviour. Smiling and going wild. Of course, clubs featuring male strippers aren't too prevalent. Women for all the big talk generally aren't too interested in strip clubs. An exception might be bisexual or lesbian women going to see naked women strippers. :)
We gay gals are much more subdued and classy when we are in a SC. ;)
Yes, definitely seems so ime in a regular strip club. But, I'd love to see that tested in a lesbian nudie club. :) And, you did say you smiled like *crazy* due to all nekkid women surrounding you. :)
I don't know if I've mentioned this before, but in the black clubs I've occasionally been seeing some of the "boyfriends" of the dancers. Wow, are they hot even though they're dressing up in "guy" clothing. Maybe it is the lack of makeup, high heels, and the realness they display. Anyway, those couples seem much closer than the couples where the dancer has a male boyfriend.
I have only had the pleasure of seeing one partner of a dancer actually enter a club and hang out there while I was there. She was VERY protective of her girl, and they left shortly there after. I have interacted with several lesbian dancers, and it never fails that every one of them has told me that their girlfriends didn't mind them dancing for men, but it was strictly a no-go for dancing for other women. How weird! But I respected it (usually) and just kept our interaction at chatting only.
And it's true - some of the dancers girlfriends were quite hot!
My ex-girlfriend has a strong preference for women. It didn't bother me even a little bit because I consider it like comparing apples and oranges. Another man, however, would be whole different ballgame because it is more like comparing oranges to oranges. Unless, he was a paid provider (paid fantasy) and then I'd be wondering what should or could I do different or maybe she just likes variety.
Being surrounded by the hot girlfriends not only would take the smile off my face (if there was one) presuming they weren't available, but I probably be worked up. Like being surrounded with delicious food, but it is reserved for the beautiful people. It is frustrating when they're looking better than the dancers. When the dancers are as hot, then it is just more eye candy. :)
I once yawned openly while right at the railing back at a club in RI called The Playhouse Theater one night a looooong time ago (I was tired after a long day at work I guess). The stripper onstage said something like, "Oh no, we can't have that!" and did this reverse spread-eagle move like 1/2 an inch from my face...I woke up... :)