I agree with david, I find the kissing thing to be off the menu, it happened to me only one time. And I can't tell if it's just too personal for them, or if it is a health issue. Cold sores are very nasty and if they caught one it would probably mean no work for 2 weeks (I don't think anyone would be interested in dancing with a stripper with a nasty cold-sore. If it's a personal/attraction thing, I find it funny how some dancers/escorts will allow FS for $'s and not find FS too "personal", and take the kissing off the menu with no negotiation.
I have a theory on FONDL's quality comment. Correct me if I'm wrong, but years ago (10 say) weren't clubs primarily just for stripping and looking and not all of the contact lap-dance stuff that goes on today? I was only a casual attender back then. If that's correct, my theory is that the additional contact lap-dance business that seems to me to be more popular today has driven out the high-quality dancer that only wants to be paid for stripping, not contact lapping, and opened up the business to the lower quality dancer that is more willing to put up with the contact to get paid $30 for 3 minutes of work.
FONDL, I'm with you on last string but clubs I go to have girls that stay with the club for 2-3 years and after multiple visits, LD's, drinks, conversations about their outside life, etc with dancers over several years they no longer feel like strangers, they start to feel like the girl you wanted as a girlfriend 30 yrs ago. That's when I find it hard to resist.
Tessie, use and trust the eye-contact or body language approach. It's the primary communication I use. If I'm not interested I intentionally look or move away. But FYI if they don't pick up on a "not interested" signal I will sometimes get a little testy because I know they know the signal but decide to force a conversation anyway.
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