Do I go to far?
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Keep it in my pants when I do OTC. If I were a stripper it would stand for I like big bucks and I can not lie.
A dancer recently remarked to me that her long term goal was to be high school science teacher. I asked her, if there as a really hot guy in her class, was she worried she might end up being the next Mary Kay Letourneau. She did not find my question humorous, and also seemed a bit offended. A DJG told me her day job didn't pay enough to cover the costs of keeping her two cats, so she started dancing. I ask her if that meant her cats were her pimps now. She didn't get mad but also did not find any humor in my inquiry. Should I just stick to asking them what their favorite Olive Garden entree is?
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Well... this suddenly makes sense.
Just because a woman doesn't like hooking up, that doesn't mean she doesn't like smutty jokes. You won't find that out, until they know you well enough to know you won't stereotype them for liking smutty jokes, or call them freaks.
Since her goal is a high school science teacher you should have asked if her favorite Olive Garden entree is the "Petri Dish" and then wait for the uncontrollable laughter.
That being said... This is probably one of those things where it's all about the deliverer. If she's attracted to you, maybe she will fall on the side of it being more of a playful joke. If she's not attracted to you, well...it will not go over well...at all.
But I guess that's just me...
And while the cats joke was essentially harmless, it doesn't take a lot of insight or empathy to understand that even grazing up against the topic of pimps is unpopular with some dancers. So, I wouldn't.
I think there's a fair number of customers who believe that their money obligates a dancer to at least pretend that all their jokes are funny.
Except that's not true.
Seems like totally separate issues, whether a joke lands flat/is not funny to someone, and whether it is offensive. What is it about social media that makes people so desperate to find a reason to scold?
I think, for the majority of people, if they are going to teach high school, they have to anticipate the fact that they will find some students attractive. So they can be conscious of it, be careful to disguise their attraction, make sure it doesn't influence how they treat the students.
Sting was a briefly a high school teacher, he wrote a song about this problem: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNIZofPB… . If it's true to life, it shows why some people can't handle teaching, too tempted to abuse their position.
If you're going to start a topic titled "Do I go to [sic] far?", then you probably shouldn't pout when people answer that question in a way you don't like. You asked for judgement on a topic, and you got it.
Holy shit this whole thread is giving me the heeby jeebies. That's enough internet for the month see you weirdos in January.
In a high school class with a younger female teacher, all hell broke loose at the sentence "she got a prick in her hand" (meaning a needle prick). But she brought the hardass to us swiftly and intensely.
Knock knock
Who’s there
My jokes suck - let’s go to VIP…
Just because she is a dancer doesn't mean any sex joke is fair game. Especially one about her dream job which has nothing to do with being in this business. Many girls grit their teeth and strip to achieve a goal outside this business because its short term money they need. They may not like the sexual aspect of it or really be proud of it. She may also just feel like you are reducing her to being just a sexual thing instead of her what she sees her true calling. Namely being a science teacher and educating young students (not fucking them).
1. Sorry I don't know I'm a vegetarian.
2. NONE OF THEM! MEAT IS FUCKING MURDER!
She (the dancer) could have said:
1. Yeah, I was really into the football players when I was HS, I'll have to watch myself!
2. I've never been very attracted to guys younger than me.
3. I'm Lesbian/Asexual.
When I'm at work, I'll at least smile at a joke I don't think is funny as courtesy, if it's not denigrating anyone. And, I'll say it again, I don't think there's anything denigrating about saying an adult might feel attracted to an adolescent in some cases. If someone told you they worked in a candy bar factory, and you said, damn, how can you not weight 300 lbs.?, I don't think it would be reasonable of them to seriously think you were accusing them of stealing candy, and get pissy.
Someone tells you about the career they aspire to after being a stripper, and you lead off with a 'joke' about her potential to become a teacher convicted of rape. That's denigrating ... to her. Maybe, when someone tells you about their hopes for the future, you don't lead with statutory rape humor. Maybe take a half step and don't lead with statutory rape humor with complete strangers.
"And, I'll say it again, I don't think there's anything denigrating about saying an adult might feel attracted to an adolescent in some cases."
It's pretty common knowledge that most people have strong (negative) feelings about sexual attraction to children. And the whole 'It's okay to be attracted to a minor...' line of thought is pretty much the opening sentence to NAMBLA's mission statement. So, if you think that helps your argument here, then you're wrong. Because it's more of a red flag than anything else.
And, again, if you're going to launch a thread with "Do I go too far?", and you're not prepared to get responses you don't like, then maybe don't start that thread. Honestly, you're the one who seems to be triggered.
Yes.
Pro tip- High school teachers that are attracted to their students and fucking them is considered to be socially unacceptable.
Because if you're the guy struggling to not offend women who are motivated by money to put up with extraordinary amounts of our horseshit, then the problem is you.
I mentioned something about OTC, maybe going back to her place..
Started telling me about living in an RV on her mom's driveway...
I was good with that....
But we'd apparently have to not rock the RV, so go inside her mom's house...
OK, no problem. As long as she's not going to watch. But really, I'm fine if she does.....
She goes off on how sick I am bringing her mother into this. I'm really pretty sure by now, she's really just pissed she spent 5 minutes sitting and talking with some asshole who's not buying dances.
And in the middle of her outrage, points out how I'm not buying dances from her (and takes a moment to call the girl that I pointed out I did just buy some dances a slut for doing whatever it was we did that she wouldn't do...), and then stops to offer some again before storming off angry.
Ya, I guess I went too far...
When telling a joke, it’s important to read the crowd - or in this case the person.
So chalk this off as Rookie Dancer
It's believable to me that a stripper would want to end up as a high school science teacher. But the fact that see told me that so fast makes me suspicious. I'm sure the PLs who score high on the rick-o-meter would just smirk at that. Some dancers, when they see you're being careful to try and touch them in a way that's comfortable to them, see that as meaning they should shoot for a "I'm a good girl who needs a white knight" hustle. But any beautiful woman who can tolerate my fat old self is a good woman in my book.