Customer Installed Tracking Device on SWer's Car and then Murdered Her
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Blow me. đ Pronouns: hoe/heaux
I can't find his Instagram now, so I don't know if it's still up or not. There are copies of the Instagram photos on the following link: https://www.reddit.com/r/SexWorkersOnly/âŚ
One of many news articles:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.texomasâŚ
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It wasn't that long ago that a dancer showed me several videos of guys who have tried follow her home from the club. Their risk is very real.
My CF has a regular who is very good $-wise, but very obsessive about her. She recognizes the danger, and shuts it down right away whenever he starts talking about them being in a relationship.
I know a few dancers who have done a good job at protecting their privacy, but I know more who really haven't.
But, to be honest, it's not a "dancer" thing. I have more than a few friends who will complain that their [whatever] app got hacked again, and then I'll ask if they changed their password (answer: no) or if they turned on two-factor authentication (answer: also no). And in those case, I have no sympathy at all.
But those friends aren't sex workers (that I know of...), and aren't as prone to have creepy guys creeping on them.
But how could he get away with putting a tracking device on her car. That should be a huge red flag for the cops
Okay ... so how does that law get enforced? Don't get me wrong. I think strip clubs would be better off with those guys not inside of them. But, a lot of guys here won't put up with a driver's license scan at the door, so a background check is a non-starter.
Part of the problem here is the stigmatization of sex work. If sex work was legal (or at least decriminalized), then it becomes easier to pass laws to protect sex workers.
But the girls know what the guys are like. The risk isn't worth it. They need to know real game. I'd say this wouldn't have happened if she was on a winning team
She finally had the club take her off of the published roll so he'd think she had quit and gone somewhere else. She told her trusted customers what night she'd be there after explaining the situation.
We donât need more laws to protect sex workers. There are already laws against making threats, stalking, assault, battery, rape, murder, etc. But yes, it should definitely be decriminalized/legalized, and then the sex workers would have less hesitation about reporting incidents to the authorities.
>www.google.com
Despite him posting this info on instagram and being on reddit, I read several articles and none of them mentioned how they knew each other, that she was a sex worker and how much he had paid her.
https://www.fox4news.com/news/police-manâŚ
I read in another article that she did report the device to police, at least two weeks before she was killed.
So why post about the tracking device on social media while police are investigating? The psycho guy probably saw it and became even more crazy. Sheesh... I really have no idea how young people think these days.
This obsession with putting everything on social media is a very dangerous thing.
I don't mean to put any of this on her. She was already the victim of a despicable creep even before he killed her. That's certainly not her fault, nor could she have imagined it would lead to cold blooded murder.
But from the video, it's obvious this was before she reported it to police, or else they would have taken it as evidence. Meanwhile, if there was anything like fingerprints or trace DNA on it, she was degrading it by handling it that way, just to film her video.
Regardless of her noble intention to inform others, I just don't see how you find something like that and your first thought is to make a video and post it online.
https://www.star-telegram.com/news/localâŚ
After looking at the reddit pics again it looks like he paid her $10,000 in 2 months from July 28 until September 29th using Apple Pay although the article only mentions him paying her $3,000 through zelle.
Unfortunately, police departments have a poor track record as far as interactions with sex workers. Whether itâs handling them fairly themselves when making arrests or taking seriously complaints sex workers may have about anybody when they try to come forward and itâs their word against a man.
If she hadnât posted this stuff online, most likely she would have just been a mysterious body and no news article would have gotten published in the first place.
You wrote and I quote:
âI'd say this wouldn't have happened if she was on a winning teamâ
Question for you; how would you say you and your âwinning teamâ would have prevented the shooter from killing her while driving her vehicle?
I ask because you and your âwinning teamâ ware unable to protect your âstripperâ âex-girlfriendâ from a half Boricua/Greek, pusher/drug dealer âbikerâ that was able to get her hooked on drugs and take it away from your âwinning team...
Would you have used your Dodge to run his Texas truck off the road?
A shot of truth in that denial cocktail đ¸...
:D
LinkedIn lists a âStan (Stanley?) Szeliga whose picture resembles the mug shot of the perp:
A Software Engineer...United States Marine Corps veteran.
Education: Bachelors - Computer Information Science
https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-szeligaâŚ
Sad thing to happen in any case.
A lot of dudes got serious issues with women, but it usually doesn't escalate to murder.
That might be true where you are, but not here and not in a lot of places. In a lot of places, they only ask for an ID if you look like you're under the age limit. As I said above, many SC customers will write off a club for scanning IDs. If it's going to made a law or a requirement, then it's going to hurt the SC industry.
The other issue that you'll run into is the fact that if someone is convicted of a violent crime, and they serve a prison sentence, they have paid their debt to society. Now, it's absolutely true that a fair number of these guys come out of the prison system more violent than when they went in. But a lot don't. And the moment you put a visible tag or mark on their driver's license, then there will be a lawsuit, because you're essentially branding them with a scarlet letter.
And, whether or not you agree with that, an effort to visibly tag a driver's license like that will almost certainly fail.
Things that could happen without legislation and the follow-on lawsuits is that clubs could be more proactive when dancers report that a customer is trouble. Also, there needs to be a shift in police culture when dealing with sex workers who are reporting stalkers or other dangerous interactions.
You wrote and I quote:
âI'm still waiting for when it becomes trendier for women to kill men instead.â
You are going to continue waiting for a long time, women kill like 50% less than men and get even less publicity.
In today internet-news-media Americaâs killers are treated like celebrities and some women are unusually âsexually attractedâ to them.
It might be because some women âloveâ the media attention they get from their association to someone so ânotorious/famousâ.
It might be also something to do with some women believing that they will change a man that committed murder, as a form of âself-validation/self-worthâ.
A good fictional example exists in the DC universe; Dr Harleen Frances Quinzel aka Harley Quinn infatuation/love for the crazy criminal Jocker.
Many famous murderers have a lot of women âfansâ and some hav even married a few.
In any case, in my humble opinion, in this particular case; two people tried to play this hobby/game and one of them ended up feeling/believing that the exchange/experience was not a fair trade and went crazy.
I also don't blame her for a second. He was in the club and willingly handed over his money. He also should have known how ridiculous his fantasies were given the age difference alone.
The sad reality though is that a romance hustle rarely ends well with lonely and emotional guys who can't easily replace the money. Over the years I've seen guys cry, follow girls around the club like lost puppies and hang out in the parking lot looking to stalk them. I've also heard countless stories about guys trying to follow girls home. IME and IMHO girls who run this type of hustle eventually learn, often the hard way, to target guys who: (1) don't seem so emotionally invested that they might do something stupid; (2) have other things in their lives keeping them grounded (families, jobs requiring long hours and travel, etc.); and (3) don't need the money as much as they do.
But to be crystal clear, I'm not blaming her. She was young and while she probably made some mistakes (missed warnings signs, chose her target poorly, antagonized him on the back-end), none of that remotely justified him murdering her.
â>âBut to be crystal clear, I'm not blaming her. â
That is 100% blaming. Lots of romance âhustlesâ are the customers hustling their own selves. Seriously, peek in dancer threads about how to get regulars and the answers are usually that the customers decide that of their own accord. You canât âmakeâ somebody like you moreâaside from the basics of looks and personality that only helps to cast a wider net.
Need to respect dancer's privacy absolutely.
SJG
And once again you need to be reminded that -- for the dancer, escort, or whatever -- there's not a shred of mystery or romance. It's just a job. Hence, 'sex work'. The sex work industry doesn't exist to coddle your fantasies or ideas about 'mystery' or 'romance' regarding the work. You need to do that all on your own.
Also, that term evolved to face outward to the majority of the public who would normally refer to sex workers as "dirty whores" or some other dehumanizing term. It exists to communicate to people who are aggressively insensitive to sex workers (because they're "dirty whores") that they are people working jobs and trying to make a living, like everyone else.
So, you not liking the term "sex worker" isn't relevant. It's not about you.
"Risk and danger come with the job. Like police or fire jobs, its an assumed risk. Thats (sic) just reality."
So ... speaking of people who are aggressively insensitive to sex workers...
It's interesting that with one breath you want to wrap sex work in the guise of being romantic, mysterious, and poetic, and then in the next breath you're shrugging off things like stalking and murder as "assumed risk." And sure, there is inherent risk involved in sex work, but as customers we can be disgusted by the worst guys operating on *our* side of the sex work equation. We can also be proactive about protecting dancer privacy (especially here) so that we don't inadvertently put a dancer in danger.
Also, it's not remotely like police or fire jobs. Both of those jobs are about purposefully running directly towards danger and dangerous people with the goal of providing help and improving society. I'm not sure there's a lot of women who take jobs as strippers to help flush out the stalkers, rapists, and murderers of the world. There job is to give horny guys a little fun and relief (and then we pay them). They shouldn't have to be in danger from the creepshow guy sitting next to you at the bar who has been staring at a dancer for 10 minutes straight without blinking. So, no, it's not like that at all.
I can't believe I'm saying this, but perhaps you should stick to posting about politics.
The "reality" is that the major reason for the danger in sex work is the fact that it's illegal. Stalkers and rapists *know* that the women (and men) they stalk and rape are much less likely to go to the police. Even those that do go to the police are routinely ignored or de-prioritized. Our alleged justice system is to largely to blame for the risk and danger experienced by sex workers.
And comparing sex workers to police is just ludicrous. When was the last time you heard of a sex worker killing an innocent person and getting off with barely a slap on the wrist?
"Lots of romance âhustlesâ are the customers hustling their own selves. ... You canât âmakeâ somebody like you more"
True with most people but pickup artists and con artists do exist and they know how to manipulate people. There are also people that lie about promises they don't intend to keep to get what they want.
Are you delusional? Sex worker is an all-encompassing definition of anybody who works within the sex industry. Literally nobody gives a fuck if you like the term or not. It's an adopted term that is recognized by everybody in the industry worldwide. Suck it up and deal with it and then shut the fuck up.
Romance and mystery? This is a fucking job you stupid ass. I'm wondering if you're going to be the next trick who's going to hunt down and murder somebody since you seem to be delusional over what sex work exactly entails and the expectations behind a sex worker.
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My God. What a piece of shit you clearly are to make that comparison with sex workers. Please go on unalive yourself because you are already absolutely clueless and mindless, you dumb fuck.
What personal stories do you have dealing with pick up artists and con artists? Just out of personal curiosity.
I am interested in hearing your perspective. But in the meantime excuse me while IâŚ
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Spoken like someone who struggles to connect with other people. Not every girl is like you though. Some become very good at getting in a guy's head and goosing his imagination a bit or even a lot. Of course it requires him to suspend disbelief at some level, but the most skilled romance hustlers make it easy for the mark to do so.
Now to be fair, I don't run across as many girls who can run this hustle as I used to, but they still exist. Too many of the girls nowadays have the attention span of a fly, which is not conducive to making connections with their targets.
But not remotely blaming. She didn't deserve to die just because she hustled him.
The only risks and dangers that come with stripping are greasy poles, rickety stages, and defective high heels.
Thinking that getting stalked is part of it too sounds like something a creepy stalker would say.
Whatâs the safety spot where a man wonât get violent, because if he has enough money, he wonât be tempted to murder when he gets grumpy, 5million net worth and own two properties at bare minimum?
Or if we are supposed to track how much meaning (or lack of it) is in their life, like you also suggested, and that is regular common sense due diligence to make sure we donât get murdered: okay yeah letâs figure out their home situation.
Sure maybe the dude who hangs out at the club every Friday night all night (and even more than that) and âeveryone knowsâ where he clubs doesnât have much of a home life, and the club is his substitute for the emptiness he faces. THAT is obviously somebody who doesnât have much keeping him grounded outside the club in their personal life and could be prone to getting emotional. Okay I can see the point there.
But otherwiseâŚwhat can one do? There are others who slip under the radar more than that. Maybe call up the school PTA or neighborhood HOA to see how much the customer volunteers? Verifying how much they volunteer at the animal shelter?
Feel free to give more insight on that front.
I am interested in hearing your perspective. But in the meantime excuse me while IâŚ
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??? I don't know what you mean by your last sentence. I wasn't commenting on the validity of the term sex work(er).
I don't have any personal experience with con artists. I've just seen examples on shows like 48 hours. Sometimes the story includes the victim stating how charming the other person could be and how they knew what to say to make them feel special.
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And to give sex workers rights as workers, so that they will not be seen as victims or persons needing rescuing.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_LeigâŚ
SJG
I don't think it's wrong to say that risk comes with the (stripper) job but it's more like the risk faced by other entertainers, athletes, musicians, and actors who also have stalkers. Maybe it is more likely to happen with a stripper do to the more personal interaction in a strip club.
Decriminalization makes sex work safer all around.
SJG
But when you're dealing with a potentially adversarial situation, you'd better have enough situational awareness to figure out the facts on the ground. Just like I don't go strolling past drug corners in South L.A. yelling racial epithets, neither should a dancer choose a lonely broke ass psychopath to run a romance hustle on and then taunt him once she cleaned him out. In neither case does anyone deserve to die for the offense, but that doesn't make the activity any more safe.
Oh, and don't be obtuse. She had been dealing with him for some time, more than enough to get a handle on his emotional state and overall financial position. Again she didn't deserve to die just because she was stupid, but sometimes it happens whether it's right or not.
I can't speak for every sex worker out there, only for my own experiences and what I have witnessed with my friends. Many of my stripper friends have boyfriends or are married. When it comes to my stripper friends who do extras though, they either don't talk about relationships or they probably aren't in one anyway.
I think it would also depend on the individual's sexuality and how open-minded their partner, if they have one, is.
I used to work with this really beautiful 20-year-old stripper who was engaged. She's bisexual and her fiance didn't mind her seeing other girls. Their compromise was to hire high-end escorts from Eros and Slixa so they could both enjoy themselves and support sex workers at the same time (and remember, she is a sex worker paying other sex workers with sex worker money). That went on for several months until she stopped dancing and became a high-end escort herself. And then they finally got married and she recently moved to Chicago where she is still a high-end escort and, simultaneously, happily married. Her husband doesn't go with her to any of her dates or drop her off, etc. She does report in with him so he knows she's safe though.
Unfortunately, that's the only story I have to tell about any escorts in a relationship.
As for my escort friend, the last I knew she was seeing male clients and couples. I know she's happily married because she's my best friend. I don't think I need to answer any more questions about it because it's actually none of your business.
Most strippers I know do get offended and quite pissed off if a customer asks them to meet outside of the club. If they don't insinuate or offer that those services are available in the club or outside of the club, then they most likely will not be happy to be asked that.
I'm not sure if you're trolling or if you're just completely oblivious to what happens within this range of sex work, but I think I'm done answering your questions as they are becoming out of line and asking me to invade my friend's privacy.
His goal is you wasting a lot of time trying to answer a non-stop list of inane and/or off-topic questions.