Stealthing FSSW - DON'T
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Happy belated Valentine's Day to all of the really awesome and respectful guys on this site. I think I speak on behalf of most females here that we all appreciate your understanding and consideration when you come into our places of employment and treat us, and our co-workers, with respect and dignity.
With that said, I do want to briefly mention the activity of "stealthing" is illegal and considered rape (at least in my two states of residency). If you don't know what's stealthing is, it is the act of removing a condom during intercourse without the other party's consent. While on this subject, I am not confessing or admitting to being a victim of stealthing, but I did hear an awful lot about it happening tonight at the club I'm working at (at least three girls complained throughout the night). And the stories I did hear pissed me the fuck off. this isn't an argument on whether girls should feel the removal or not. This is more of an argument of (and demand for) consent and how important it is to communicate that with your chosen entertainer.
I know this one little miniscule post on the Internet isn't going to stop it from happening, but I do hope you guys will speak up when you read about it in reviews or if you (hopefully you never do though) consider doing during your next outing, that you stop and reconsider. Regardless of this post, I hope you all had a splendid Valentine's Day and stuff and stuff.
And for my fellow dancers on this site who may read this, I suggest you look up Lydia Dupra's 'free' videos on YouTube. She has one specifically on preventing stealthing as well as one on 20 ways to screen clients (for escorts). Both videos come in handy if you are a FSSW. And even then, it's still incredibly useful information to have as a non FSSW for your couch dances and VIPs.
With that said, I do want to briefly mention the activity of "stealthing" is illegal and considered rape (at least in my two states of residency). If you don't know what's stealthing is, it is the act of removing a condom during intercourse without the other party's consent. While on this subject, I am not confessing or admitting to being a victim of stealthing, but I did hear an awful lot about it happening tonight at the club I'm working at (at least three girls complained throughout the night). And the stories I did hear pissed me the fuck off. this isn't an argument on whether girls should feel the removal or not. This is more of an argument of (and demand for) consent and how important it is to communicate that with your chosen entertainer.
I know this one little miniscule post on the Internet isn't going to stop it from happening, but I do hope you guys will speak up when you read about it in reviews or if you (hopefully you never do though) consider doing during your next outing, that you stop and reconsider. Regardless of this post, I hope you all had a splendid Valentine's Day and stuff and stuff.
And for my fellow dancers on this site who may read this, I suggest you look up Lydia Dupra's 'free' videos on YouTube. She has one specifically on preventing stealthing as well as one on 20 ways to screen clients (for escorts). Both videos come in handy if you are a FSSW. And even then, it's still incredibly useful information to have as a non FSSW for your couch dances and VIPs.
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And here is her video regarding 20 ways to screen a client/customer: https://youtu.be/auc3vDu34hg
I don't know if the other two girls had it happen on the same night as the first girl though. Regardless, it's shitty and I feel bad for them all. I wanted to speak up, but minded my own business and just kept getting dressed to leave.
It's very rare, but I have seen some TUSCL users brag about stealthing and worse.
And then there's the not-ambiguous matter of consent. That one's easy. Either it was agreed there would be a wrapper or no wrapper.
So wrong on all fronts. Saddens me to hear of this happening to another human being.
Here's the problem with the dancer going to either club management or the cops. In both cases, the dancer has to confess to being a full-service sex worker (FSSW).
The stigma of rape causes a large percentage of rapes outside of sex work to go unreported. Add the stigma of being a sex worker, and it becomes increasingly complex and difficult for the victim.
Also, at many clubs I wouldn't blame the dancer for not trusting management to do the right thing.
Well, most guys prefer sex without a condom. And a small subset of those guys are horrible raping pricks.
Can girls not feel the difference between a penis with a condom on and a penis without? I know I can feel the difference between bareback versus with a condom. Is there not a lot of nerve endings in the vagina or something?
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I have only had a few girlfriends that I was willing to risk going without a condom and I doubt I would ever find a p4p companion that I would risk it with.
SJG
There will always be ghetto assholes and none will be reading this.
While I agree there should be punishment for this bait and switch - but it is mainly for dancers to "read" their clients and not agree to anything solely for money. Your links are really useful.
I have visited a lot of clubs. A majority - I'd say 90% of patrons are quiet, shy, peaceful people. i.e., Gentlemen.
Heck a lot of TUSCLers don't even drink alcohol.
The one or two that are forcing themselves on dancers - are giving away way too many clues - that even me as a guy can spot such a person.
And a vagina is just as sensitive as a penis. Even with a condom, female knows exactly when guy is about to climax.
Yeah makes my blood boil when our wonderful hobby is tarnished by a few assholes.
Besides, it's not like most girls won't do it anyway when presented with the alternative of not getting paid. Maybe not the high volume girls fucking and sucking 5-10 guys a night ITC, but in many decently paid OTC situations it is often a cursory discussion if they bother to bring it up at all. If I did not of course insist on protection or stop them at a BBBJ, I'd be raw doggin' routinely.
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