Rejection
crazyjoe
Colorado
Thursday, October 17, 2019 9:52 PM
This is a question for dancers as well as customers.
From a dancers perspective/ Dancing is a high rejection occupation. You can be rejected based off of things you can not control, like anything that has to do with your looks. This can be real or perceived. Sometimes I see dancers sitting in a corner by themselves and seem to refuse to circulate, like they may be afraid of rejection. If I go talk to them, they sometimes seem to loosen up and I end up having a great time with them. I am sure there are dancers who have done this same thing with "shy" customers. I know for myself I may reject a dancer because they are too pushy, not sassy enough, or just seem to be in a negative mood, or talking shit about everyone, bad hygiene.
My question for dancers is... When you are having a night where you are having a high fear of rejection, what do you do to overcome that?
On the other side of the equation, many patrons have complained about they did not get any dances because no dancers asked them. I would seem that fear of rejection may have something to do with this also. Why do customers and dancers let fear of rejection get in their way of getting what they want?
This thread is a spin off from my last thread as well as a book I am currently reading...
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