Relative value of money
rickdugan
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I will do things like drive further down the street for cheaper gas, wait until I can get to my own bank to withdraw cash while avoiding bank fees and load up on meats when they go on sale at my favorite market. The actual savings are modest, but I simply hate feeling ripped off for stuff like this.
But when I hit the club, I feel no qualms about spending a wad of money on what really is, at its core, frivolous entertainment. This includes paying a girl an amount for sex that she would need to work 20-30 hours to earn in her best vanilla job option.
Anyone else find themselves doing something similar and/or pondering the relative value of money when dealing with strippers?
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But it’s not ME. I am reasonable. My dick is not. My dick is a very powerful thing. And when it’s making decisions half my paycheck seems like a reasonable amount to spend. My penis has also thinks that strippers are the greatest investment of all.
The reason why you always look for good value is so you can continue to enjoy good things. Saving a few $$ here and there over a course of a week allows you to spend frivolously on entertainment to keep you sane enough to go back to work and deal with family and life demands. I see nothing rong with spending some dough on this hobby.
I look at strippers like I view a good nurse. They keep me healthy(mentally and physically) so I can live to fight another day.
It's easy to see money as more valuable than merchandise but I value an experience more than money.
Thanks to all who include this info in the reviews, I try to pay it forward after my visits.
It helps to be focused on results rather than worrying about value.
Yeah, I've thought about this topic a lot.
I was such a tightwad in my 20s and 30s and the thought of blowing money on girls would have been unthinkable back then. I barely knew that stripclubs existed back then and didn't set foot in strip club until almost 40. I rationalize by setting a limit of <1% of net worth yearly, which has nothing to do with salary, and an amount I feel I can piss away without worrying.
Another rationalization is that I'm helping these college girls do something with their lives. This cute Asian girl I'm seeing this summer did well in high school and she has solid, practical plans for college. Her father left at an early age, so she really needs the money. She'd probably rather sleep with someone her own age -- but she makes more in an evening with me that a week working at her old job as a hostess. From a moral standpoint, sure beats paying a stripper in drugs or being a pimp. No?
Another rationalization is that I'm helping these college girls do something with their lives. This cute Asian girl I'm seeing this summer did well in high school and she has solid, practical plans for college. Her father left at an early age, so she really needs the money. She'd probably rather sleep with someone her own age -- but she makes more in an evening with me that a week working at her old job as a hostess. From a moral standpoint, sure beats paying a stripper in drugs or being a pimp. No?
Aside from amazing experiences, when it comes to luxury goods, I own a $75 pen (don't even ask how much the refill I'm using costs lol), but I'll still bias to buying my bread on sale, using the ATM at my bank, etc. Luxury goods and great experiences (especially sexual ones) definitely get motivated by a different part of the brain than routine goods and services.
Even on the grocery front, all the efforts I go through to drop sale meats into the freezer chest or load up on other sale goods might net me $2-300 per month in total savings (for a family of 5), yet I'd eagerly drop that same amount for a short time in my hotel room with a hot piece of tail.
Relative value is an amazing thing, as is how we rationalize what we do. 😉
i feel better paying for amazing experiences than for routine goods and services.
i’ve been cutting back on what I spend on my living expenses to the point of being absolutely cheap. i’d rather be spending my money on enjoying the beautiful young ladies.
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My biggest splurge are for things I consider inconvenient. Doing nails&other beauty related things, parking in a garage vs circling for street parking, food I don’t have to prep/cook (tho I’ve been improving on that last one)
And I have a tendency to overtip when it comes to services. Even if I showed up somewhere with a Groupon.
But on the plus side I don’t spend money on too much of anything else. My largest expense is easily Airbnbs, which costs $900-1550/month. More than I’m used to paying for shelter. But not too terrible compared to rent&utilities in many places.
I view the tuscl crowd pretty value oriented in comparison. Lol
Yet on another front, we can sometimes do irrational things with both time and money. Lately I've taken to spending more at nearer grocery store for some things vs. driving 5 more minutes to Walmart. Even though I'm spending more, I'm saving some measure of time by less driving time and less waiting in line.
I just think life is too short to waste it standing in line at Walmart.
Otoh, I've also driven 7 - 10 further miles to bypass an otherwise good club for one more of my liking. Bypassed club had license scan policy, a deal breaker for me. I'm hoping the later doesn't gain too much traction because I don't easily budge on deal breaking items. Yet I don't want to forego club going either.
SJG
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SJG
I'm not an extreme cheapskate to begin with but I generally want to get the best value out of my hard-earned money whether it is at strip clubs or shopping at a supermarket. Fortunately the clubs that I go to are not expensive in terms of dances or even VIP in comparison to other clubs in the country.
Yes, it is costly. And no, one cannot really do it without money.
But the girl you meet in the club, and give a lot of money to, you can also likely be seeing outside. And then all options are open.
Most of the time, men are getting paid more money in the conventional jobs market, and most of the time some of this money, or benefit from it, is flowing to the women they fuck. So really, no big deal.
SJG
The other is Recreational spending ; Season Ticket to our favorite sports team, that new Camper you've always wanted, That new Stainless Steel Grill that runs 12,000.00 , New Fireplace you've always wanted, New Home, Hott Woman or whatever. Sometimes I will over pay on this because I want to look, feel rich, etc. and brag how much she cost me !
i paid a hott babe for a couple hours of fun. $$$ about a Benny more than I pay anyone else because we had dinner, playtime at the hotel, and we walked arm and arm hand in hand around the Mall / Hotel parking lot. A true GFE date. I paid her more because #1 She was hotter and it boosted my ego. #2 Because she didnt rush me and said she would stay as long as I wanted her to. I was more than satisfied with what I paid because it had added value.
:) :) :)
SJG
Even on the grocery front, all the efforts I go through to drop sale meats into the freezer chest or load up on other sale goods might net me $2-300 per month in total savings (for a family of 5), yet I'd eagerly drop that same amount for a short time in my hotel room with a hot piece of tail.
Relative value is an amazing thing, as is how we rationalize what we do. 😉
SJG
Also helps that I don’t have a girlfriend and don’t date, not that there’s anything wrong with that. I’m perfectly content to pay for female companionship (essentially with the money I save from not indulging in those other things that don’t interest me).
As long as my kids are taken care (I pay their entire college tuition, buy them anything they need and plan on leaving them a hefty inheritance), that’s my No. 1 focus. Then it’s p4p.
Ideal? No. Not the life I envisioned 20 years ago. But I didn’t choose it. I had it shoved up my ass. And I’m trying to make the best of it.
LOL, the pervert life.
I recognized this here right off, Collin Wilson starts off his 1956 "The Outsider" talking about:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hell_(Barb…
SJG
SJG
Yet you shop at Costco for a reason. Buying items on sale does not preclude a quality focus. I am fussy about the quality of meats that go in my freezer and Mrs. Dugan is equally fussy about the quality of other items that go into our fridge and pantry. We simply buy in bulk when the prices are right.