To LDK or not to LDK?

28 comments

• Muddy

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  5 years ago

  No dude that’s the goal. Asking as you can do that you can never really lose too too bad in the club.
• SergeD

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  5 years ago

  Some dancers expect it, some don’t want it. Everyone is different. I’m sure there’s some truth to what you said about the younger dancers just trying to get it over with. I actually wish I could go all night on a great grind with high mileage and not LDK sometimes but alas... I’m just a PL.
• MackTruck

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  5 years ago

  Cum in your pants all day every day. The sensation of the swimmers tickling you is the best
• Countryman5434

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  5 years ago

  Is this good or bad?? It's ridicolous but so is most u.s clubs. To have any chance of stopping the endless cycle of cumming in your pants you must learn the art of the front room makeout session.
• TFP

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  5 years ago

  For me it depends on the club and the girls. If the club is an extras club then I don't even bother with an LDK since you don't have to deal with any cleanup. If it's a club with high contact lap dances and very expensive extras then I usually go for LDK instead. I used to be like you OP and get dance after dance being highly stimulated but always stop myself from going past the point. Till one day having dances with a sexy ass asian at Treasures in Vegas and just couldn't hold out any longer. That first time LDK felt so good! And two of my fears about LDKing before then luckily went my way. 1) The dancer didn't totally berate me in disgust like I always thought would happen. Instead, she acted as though she expected that result, even knew when to stop dancing. I guess I got lucky because there are plenty of dancers out there who I'm sure would have the reaction I feared. 2) There was no big, visible, wet spot in my crotch. When I went to the bathroom after the dance I found that my cotton boxers had soaked up most of the mess and prevented it from reaching my slacks for the most part. I didn't mind the mess in my shorts because I had a nice buzz going from my drinks. I decided from that point on I'd LDK every time. At first it wasn't all that fun because after an LDK you feel so satisfied that you want to leave the club. Sometimes that could mean a short visit and I usually like to spend a lot of time in the club. So nowadays my MO is to have that first inevitable LDK early on. Then try out dances with some other girls my preference to let them get me worked up again. Then finally end with the best of those girls for LDK #2.
• Cristobal

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  5 years ago

  Unfortunately, I have LDK Disfunction, the inability to LDK regardless of how hot the dancer and how good the lapdance. I was only able to LDK after my first nude fully lap dance but since then nothing, zilch, nada. This, I am forced to resort to going FS VIP.
• gSteph

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  5 years ago

  Wow, we humans are variable. You must be a better (go to) sleeper than I. If I had a dozen or more lap dances, was aroused as fuck, I wouldn't be waiting until next morning for happy times.
• Baller70CA

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  5 years ago

  Just make sure you wear dark pants. Enjoy pushing it to the edge.... Keep it there for as long as your bankroll permits and then it's your call. Do not let anyone shame you. Ever
• Book Guy

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  5 years ago

  Yes, it's the goal. Unless it isn't your goal, in which case, it's not the goal. It's up to you. LDK is fun, isn't it? So, having fun is part of the goal, isn't it? Anyway ... Preparation, context, intent ... 1. Be prepared: wear darker, smooth-fabric pants (f.e. Haggar "Cool 18 Pro" slacks; not jeans!), no belt, only one layer of button-down shirt (no undershirt) because if it's button-down then it's also unbutton-down; a smooth stretchy pair of underpants, or go commando no underpants; and (if this is anywhere within your kinks) pre-adorn mister Willie with a condom, lubricated on the inside. Seriously, life-changer. :) 2. Context: some clubs are full-service clubs, where achieving only a high-priced LDK is a disappointment rather than a laudable accomplishment. Other clubs are understaffed for hotties, so figuring out how to get an LDK with the best of the bunch is in itself probably the most sexual service you're going to get in that location on that evening. Some dancers are excellent at mimicking a highly intimate interpersonal dance in such a way that the stick-shifting which gets performed during that dance can indeed be a deliberate quest for causing you to LDK; whereas, some dancers think they're there to be looked at, so, even at a higher-mileage higher-contact club, they will back away from you to pose and be all frivolously princessy at exactly the wrong moment. Eschew frivolous posing princesses and all other girls with Golden Pussy Syndrome, but, if you think they're hot enough, you can instead educated them, in order to turn them into stick-shifters of the best variety. 3. Intent: don't want one? Don't try to get one. Then if she does make you LDK, it's all the more pleasurable since you got more than expected and without your own effort involved. Do want one? Well duh, then, look at items 1 and 2 here in this list and be prepared and in the right context.
• NJBalla

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  5 years ago

  I am amazed at the thought you guys have put into whether or not to LDK. A better question is should you leave the club after 1, 2, or 3 LDKs? Remember strippers/dancers just see you as a dollar sign. There is a category for men who prefer mind games, blue balls, and masturbation. They are called husbands.
• wallanon

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  5 years ago

  It sounds like there's more going on in the OP than whether or not to cum in pants. No stripper is walking away from cash mid-dance unless there's something that put her off or someone she "couldn't" ignore walked in.
• ArtCollege

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  5 years ago

  I like to cover up. some places girls will help with that, but some places you're supposed to stayed zipped. In those, I head to a stall when I arrive or just before I'm ready to get dances. Position can make a big difference. A stroke down the leg can work, or cowboy against upward position. Try them all. Don't be embarrassed to say "give me a moment to adjust myself." Sometimes it just happens. Sometimes the dancer helps it happen. In that case, I add a tip. And sometimes I just want a bit of arousal and no LDK.
• Darkblue999

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  5 years ago

  I experience same as OP. Many dancers asked me after 2 or 3 dances did you come. I say no. It takes time for me to LDK. Usually I dont do LDK I can go all night with dances. Exceptional cases like a dancer with all natural DD tits allow me to squeeze and same time she has good ass .it depends on the girl. Recently one girl giving me hot dance we were in cuddling position. I was rock hard. Heater expression during dance was speechless. After 2 dancers she said 2 dances I asked for one more she wasn't happy and said I need to go. She didnt even allow me to squeeze the tits but she was pretty and gor hot body. Sometime they think they are gettinf into us. Not sure. Dancers see customers who LDK in 2 or 3 songs. It's very rare they see guys who dont LDK in 2 or 3 songs
• TFP

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  5 years ago

  ^^^^^what the hell are you trying to say in your last 4 sentences??? I don't understand your point at all.
• Darkblue999

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  5 years ago

  You mean about the girl or about LDKIng in 2 to 3 songs.
• TFP

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  5 years ago

  About dancers mostly seeing customers who LDK in 2-3 songs. And it's very rare for them seeing guys who don't LDK in 2-3 songs. Are you starting your opinion or what you believe to be a fact? It just sounded so wrong that I wanted to make sure I was understanding what you were trying to say. OP says he can usually get 5-10 dances or even more with heavy two way contact and still not cum. That's totally believable for me, since I used to be the same way. I could do VIP after VIP without cumming. Usually I'd just hold back if I was getting too excited. However after one session where I was tired of holding back I just gave in and exploded in my pants. It felt so good that ever since then I just don't hold back anymore. I find it a lot more enjoyable, despite the mess in my underwear. Some guys say they just can't LDK no matter how hard they're trying. I think those folks can't be aroused enough by mere clothed grinding. Some folks, like myself, can. Nothing wrong with either. Enjoy your club visits the best way you can and it is what it is.
• Darkblue999

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  5 years ago

  Yes. Even if you try to hold back if the dancer is giving you very hot dance you feeling the dancer you will explode. That's the dancer skill. Several dancers told me most of the custies cum in 2 to 3 songs. It's rare if you cant come even after 6 or 7 songs nonstop even if you hold it.
• 4got2wipe

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  5 years ago

  GhostOfHell, two things: Yes, LDK is the goal. And why not? You get the joy of cumming in your pants and get some laughs when people criticize you for wanting to cum in your pants. Seriously though, I can see why a lot of folks say LDK = brilliant. If you’re married or in an LTR it isn’t really cheating to keep your dick in your pants but cum. And even if you aren’t in a serious LTR who doesn’t like to cum? Second, you might want to consider using paragraphs. Or better yet, just short and sweet declarative sentences with lots of space. If you make your posts hard to read nobody will want to invite you to the Algonquin kiddy table! ;)
• TFP

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  5 years ago

  Darkblue999 I don't buy that. Most guys can control when or if they cum. No girl is gonna make me LDK if I don't want to no matter how many dances I get. I suspect those guys that cum in 2-3 dances are just trying to get off as soon as possible so they don't spend a lot of money. Nothing wrong with that. But for me I like to spend a good amout of time in the club. So I either do more dances, or go with the LDK twice option.
• prevert

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  5 years ago

  I’ve almost done it a few times, but didn’t want to because of the mess. I have other options now.
• TFP

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  5 years ago

  @prevert having options is the best! In ultra high mileage or FS clubs there's not even a need for LDKs unless you really only want that. In those clubs I'd rather cum inside or on tits, ass, or back of the dancer. Makes for a mess that's much easier to clean up with a few napkins. Vs soiled boxers that only time will dry out.
• reverendhornibastard

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  5 years ago

  LDK is NOT the goal. It is only a fall-back or, occasionally, an accident while in pursuit of the Holy Grail: a full service, deep pussy desploogination. Other fall backs include: * bare backed vulva-pussy rub & desploogination * bare backed cum in mouth BJ * bare backed cum on face or tits BJ * condom BJ * slow, loving hand job * a one-handed Jiffy Lube Express hand job while she uses her other hand to play with her cellphone.
• Jascoi

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  5 years ago

  LDK is a nice option in a regular lap dance or low mileage VIP. I have not experienced LDK since I was a young man. but I do enjoy the attempt by the girl.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  5 years ago

  If LDK sounds like fun to you, then that's goal. If it doesn't sound like fun, then don't do it. Fun is the goal. 4Got2Wipe said "If you’re married or in an LTR it isn’t really cheating to keep your dick in your pants but cum." If it's something you can't tell your wife / girlfriend about without getting in deep shit... it's cheating.
• PaulDrake

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  5 years ago

  CIM by your definition that would make looking at porn cheating for a lot of guys.
• JohnSmith69

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  5 years ago

  Do whatever you want. If you want to get sticky pants then do it. Almost every stripper will be cool about it. But if you don't enjoy it then keeping doing what you’re doing. Or if you want sex then find an extras club and get what you want. It’s not a one size fits all activity.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  5 years ago

  PaulDrake... If the magnitude of trouble a guy might get into for looking at porn is exactly the same having a nude stripper grind you until you blow a load in your pants, then that guy made a really bad marriage decision. Without the splitting of hairs, if you're with someone who isn't your SO having sexy time and you know you're fucked if you're SO finds out, you're cheating. A lot of guys go through the mental contortions to convince themselves otherwise, but they know (deep down) that cheating is not dependent on inserting Tab A into Slot B.
• IceyLoco

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  5 years ago

  I don't have much of a view.... its your shot, literally lulz