Do you care how they spend your money
rickdugan
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A comment Papi made in another thread made me think about this. I've heard complaints like this before, with guys expressing regret when they hear about strippers spending their money to support loser BFs or on other foolish things.
Truth be told, I don't give a shit how a girl spends my cash. not one little bit. once she has performed xyz, the money is hers. For all I care, she can take it in back and light it on fire. But I seem to be in the minority.
Truth be told, I don't give a shit how a girl spends my cash. not one little bit. once she has performed xyz, the money is hers. For all I care, she can take it in back and light it on fire. But I seem to be in the minority.
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If she asks for money (loan or gift) to get out of a spot and uses the money for something else I'd feel taken.
BTW, yes I know that a loan to a stripper is a gift.
However, if a stripper with a known drug issue, asks for more money to buy shit for her kid, I think twice because I know it’s going to buy drugs.
I’d rather she just say - I need a fix.
Like Warrior said, I've got clients and have had employers who strongly objected with how I spend my earnings that ultimately came from them. So much so that those relationships were terminated. So, based on my limited experience I'd say those of us who don't care are probably in the minority.
I'd also add that I think a fair amount of it is appearing to care more than really caring. Some of the same employers pushing morality clauses have Sr. Execs and board members who're knee deep in hookers and blow too.
However, if I find out they’re buying crack, meth or hank with it, I’m unlikely to give them any *more*.
My CF tells me how broke she is all the time, shows me screenshots of her overdrawn bank account. So we have a few hundred bucks worth of fun and the next day I see posts that's shes out on the town buying her friends dinner and wine, getting messages and whatnot. It's her money, she earned it, but I just shake my head at some of the waste I see a day after shes got a little money in her pocket.
I don't like when a dancer gives me a sob story (rent, bills due) to try to get more money.
The only way she is going to get more money is if we he hook up again in about an hour.
My comment in the other thread was based on a single experience @ Follies - as I mentioned in the other thread I have not noticed dealers in my local-clubs, only @ Follies.
Anyway - about 2 years ago on a Follies visit I was getting dances from a slim-ebony - not really my type but she was sexy enough - she actually turned-out to be kinda low-mileage and was kinda reprimanding me for my groping (unusual for Follies).
We were getting dances on the DJ side - after my dances a bouncer came up to me and told me I had to move b/c someone had bought my table (next to the DJ) - so I had to move to the other side of the club to find a table and ended up two-tables away from one of the dealers - about 20-minutes later I see my slim-ebony dancer walk over to the dealer's table in her street-clothes (it was end of her shift) and be all flirty and smiley w/ the dealer and talks to him for a little-while - I'm thinking to myself here I am giving her $$$ while putting up w/ her "don't be too-handsy" attittude and then she goes off to the dealer and is all lovey-dovey w/ him while he's not giving her any $$$.
Yes - it shouldn't matter as she is free to act how she wants w/ whom she wants - but for w/e reason it rubbed me the wrong way - kinda analogous to you giving a dancer $$$ and her telling you "thanks - now I can buy my BF those $250 Air-Jordan sneakers he wanted" - or as another analogy - we all know most dances don't give a fuck about us and we accept that and understand they are just doing a job - but it probably would not sit well w/ many PLs to overhear a dancer you spend/spent $$$ on then talking about how she really feels/thinks about you - i.e. it seems different when you see it w/ your own eyes.
w.r.t. Dugan's post in the other thread about cutting off a girl he sees interacting w/ a dealer I don't see as it really-mattering - i.e. seems drug-use is pretty-prevalent among dancers so just b/c one does not see her interacting w/ a dealer does not mean she doesn't do drugs - most of us don't know how the strippers we meet in the club live their lives outside the club - and just b/c they use drugs does not necessarily mean there'll be drama - sticking to drug-free strippers seems kinda analogous to sticking to dancers that don't smoke cigs, or don't have tattoos, i.e. likely one is probably seveerly cutting the dancer-pool - plus Dugan says in one thread he'll cut-off any dancer he sees talking to a dealer, but then in this thread says he doesn't care what they do w/ the $$$ he gives them - he seems to be saying he doesn't wanna deal w/ dancers that do drugs and then saying he doesn't care if they do (by saying he doesn't care if they buy drugs w/ his $$$ meaning they are drug-users).
ITC only is just for married men and other PL's. Any girl I meet in a strip club is always potential long term OTC.
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Seeing her use it to support a drug habit in front of me would kind of kill that. So yeah, in that scenario I wouldn't like it much either.
SJG
Whether you care or don’t care has nothing to do with whether it was ‘your money.’
E.g., two mongers each pay a dancer $100 for dances. She spends $100 on heroin and $100 on baby formula. Do you really care whether it was ‘your money’ she spent on the heroin? Do you feel better if it was ‘your money’ she spent on the formula? No. You want to control the girl you just paid to fulfill some fantasy in your head that what you are doing is good for society. You paid a young girl to rub on your lap and pretend that she liked it. Accept it, enjoy it and move on. Then do it again and leave with a clear conscience.
That's the type of thing that would get her cut off from any charity giving in the future.