'I think she's sugaring'
JAprufrock
Did desertscrub's mom suck you dry, too?
Sunday, October 14, 2018 11:00 PM
Ever see a couple so mismatched you immediately think it's an escort-john or sugar daddy-sugar baby arrangement?
At the gym last week, a beautiful, young black girl with real dark skin was accompanied by a gentleman who was at least twice and maybe even three times her age and whiter than Dr. Ben Carson has ever dreamed of being.
For that matter, for older guys, ever been out somewhere (not a strip club) and had a young, good-looking gal look like she was checking you out, and if so, did you think she's a sugar baby who views me as a potential sugar daddy because I'm old, appear lonely and desperate and look like I have money?
This hasn't happened to me, but it has happened to my friend.
I haven't dabbled in sugaring yet, but it's probably inevitable.
At the gym last week, a beautiful, young black girl with real dark skin was accompanied by a gentleman who was at least twice and maybe even three times her age and whiter than Dr. Ben Carson has ever dreamed of being.
For that matter, for older guys, ever been out somewhere (not a strip club) and had a young, good-looking gal look like she was checking you out, and if so, did you think she's a sugar baby who views me as a potential sugar daddy because I'm old, appear lonely and desperate and look like I have money?
This hasn't happened to me, but it has happened to my friend.
I haven't dabbled in sugaring yet, but it's probably inevitable.
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Oddly enough nobody noticed it besides me and my pals.
Why does it need to be either/or? There are plenty of girls who do some of both. Heck, there are girls who sugar and escort and dance, in any combination as opportunities strike.
But in this particular instance, assuming a sugar relationship is highly speculative given where they were. A nice restaurant late at night, a theatre event, a hotel bar, a strip club, etc.,etc., would all be natural places to run into this and I've seen it more than a few times over the years. But at the gym? it's much harder to say what that might have been and assuming a sugar situation is highly speculative without more to go on.
As for the gym, my youngest has a Y membership, and she takes me as a guest as often as permitted so I can use the pool. So I’m not sure that’s particularly indicative either.
Also, we all people watch to some degree, of course. But I’m more focused on where I am and who I’m with.
No. More often than not the likely explanations are father/daughter, mother/son, (family friend), or boyfriend/girlfriend. All of those are more common than sugaring, IME. It's only on here with the insecurities and judgemental biases inherent on here those anyone would leap to that conclusion.
The real reality is that a number of people take care of themselves -- body, mind, personality, drive -- and are able to pull this on their own in the civilian world.
Maybe the one combination where someone might leap to that conclusion is where the young companion is attractive & dressed to the 9s whereas the older companion is slightly below average, frumpy, and visibly exudes little to no outward effort or does not appear to take care of one's self. Still a family or friendship relation is more likely than sugaring. That's when they look mismatched, romantically. But that's because we're being judgemental about them.
Quite often in my younger days, I was on the receiving end of this judgemental attitude. So I'm quite familiar with it.
Speaking of platonic SDs, funny quote from the Reddit sugaring forum about a "platonic" sugar daddy:
"...he was very conservative. Had no social skills and came in his pants twice from feeling my tits through my shirt.
We've stayed in touch and he has been dating successfully for the last few years vanilla.
Nice guy just very reserved about getting it on!"
It’s odd, but in NYC, I’ve noticed gay male couples with large age gaps. One appears young and the other is usually gray and much older.
I rarely notice looks with an SB or OTC either, although number of looks goes up drastically if:
- there are public displays of affection. I keep these to a minimum, unless we're in a pretty dark corner of a bar, etc.
- she is dressed to kill, ultra sexy.
When we go out to party at night, my ATATF usually dresses for maximum sexiness; she draws attention just by being there and her ability to command a room. I notice looks when she's dressed like that, I don't think anyone will assume "dad and daughter". We still tend not to engage in any PDAs, but her dress and body language by itself is enough.
That said, this was the same girl that I found doing VIP's in a strip club. We actually were going somewhere to fuck after drinks :-)