How do you handle aging?
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This past year I have aged tremendously. My hair is already beginning to gray, thin, and recede. I have begun to develop nasolobial folds. No wrinkles or crows feet (knock on wood) but I think my skin has lost a bit of elasticity. I thought I had at least a few more years before I hit The Wall. Some of it is probably from all the stress I’m under and my recent weight gain, but some of it has to be from the vagaries of age.
It is all so very depressing.
I went to the doctor and asked him to prescribe me finasteride. He ran his hands through my hair and told me I was fine. I told him I really needed it, and he still refused. He warned me of the potential side effects, including suicidal thoughts. I half-jokingly told him that if I went bald I would be suicidal anyway so I might as well be suicidal with hair. No dice, and no prescription. At least I have been exercising and am slowly starting to shed the pounds.
A part of me wants to dig my heels and do everything I can to fight the ravages of time; but a part of me knows that all the medications, poultices, treatments, and creams are foot soldiers fighting on the losing side of a war where the outcome was already decided the day I was born. I know one day I will be dead, but does my hair have to die first?
How have you guys dealt with aging? Has it been with grace and forbearance, or does Father Time have to take you away kicking and screaming?
It is all so very depressing.
I went to the doctor and asked him to prescribe me finasteride. He ran his hands through my hair and told me I was fine. I told him I really needed it, and he still refused. He warned me of the potential side effects, including suicidal thoughts. I half-jokingly told him that if I went bald I would be suicidal anyway so I might as well be suicidal with hair. No dice, and no prescription. At least I have been exercising and am slowly starting to shed the pounds.
A part of me wants to dig my heels and do everything I can to fight the ravages of time; but a part of me knows that all the medications, poultices, treatments, and creams are foot soldiers fighting on the losing side of a war where the outcome was already decided the day I was born. I know one day I will be dead, but does my hair have to die first?
How have you guys dealt with aging? Has it been with grace and forbearance, or does Father Time have to take you away kicking and screaming?
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Exercise, bicycling, it really does make a big difference. Try to use the bike as your primary mode of transportation. Driving in the car is a waste of time.
Diet, need to do much better here.
Yoga and meditation, so much of it is in the mind, including sexual capability as far as I can see.
And then just continuing to learn new and challenging things and continuing to make and implement new plans. Growing in my perspective every single day!
Great Topic!
SJG
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Im basicly bald myself these days and ive got not grey but white all in my beard and hair on my head. Im going to be 37 this November.
It bothered me more in my twenties but i was lucky and went bald slow. I say by the time im actually ill be finally bald and damn near white haired and beard lol
Ive done a lot to shed off weight.. Down 100 and have at least 100 more to go from my weightlifting football day's.
Aging hasnt got me down and i think im doing it gracefully but i do spend lots of time in prayer and meditation trying to make my peice with things.
My biggest issue seems to be how to save and spend money... Im not materialism guy but i do want a comfortable retirement if i live that long
Honestly dont think i will but just in case lol
I also want to make sure im having has much fun as i can before its to late... Hard part is trying not to go broke in case i do live old
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Blacks do crack! Haha, get it?
Anyway, on a more serious note, a study was conducted to see if the whole "black don't crack" thing was a myth or not. It was discovered that dermatologists found that blacks "age" at a rate about 10 years slower than whites.
A lot of the reason black people age so well is simple science, looking at the pigmentation of their skin etc. The oils and melanin help protect against "aging" moreso than white people.
SJG
Bingo! I gained a lot of weight when I was recovering from having 3 vertebrae removed, but once I started exercising and watching my diet, I quickly shed the pounds.
Now the model quality civie hotties I date (FWB, not P4P) say I look 10-15 years younger.
So keep it up, EP, and soon you'll be me (er, figurately speaking).
I can influence how I age via exercise, getting enough sleep, managing stress, etc. That's something I'm doing both for now and for when I'm truly elderly. I want to be active for as long as possible.
The hair thing... I know a guy who fought male pattern baldness for a good long time. Then he lost his patience and just shaved his head. He later told me that he wished he'd done that and saved the money and stress that he'd put into his hairline.
1) Eat healthy and drink less than you did in your younger years
2) Exercise
3) Shave your head with clippers every few days - girls like confidence better than they like hair, so just don't let it bother you
4) Act sophisticated and dress nice, maybe even dress ten years younger than you are, but if you dress any younger than that it will appear kind of sad
5) Pay hot, young, naked girls to sit on your lap and treat you like a king . . . or pay them to do even more if you have the wherewithal
6) Don't spend all of your money on strippers. As you age you should accumulate more assets, and perhaps you can eventually start spending a bit of your dividend income to better your strip club experiences . . . but don't let yourself turn into an old broke dude . . . the older you get the clearer it becomes that strippers couldn't give a fuck how young or old you are, so long as you're spending . . . so do all of the above and allow yourself to gracefully grow into a sophisticated gentleman with both income and investments working to help him stay happy at the strip club.
Stop crying like a pussy.
just shave your head, bitches love that.
i get more teenage girls looking at me now than when i was a teenager, im 27. so i dont really care. still get carded too.
And trim your head, your back, and your pubes. And get back to wearing tights whiteys so your balls don't dangle. Always commando in the club tho.
1) denial
2) anger
3) bargaining
4) depression
5) acceptance
Many will say "change the things you can change and don't worry about what you can't change"
A2) learn to become less vain
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Well, at least we have a title for the 10-volume anthology of Papi's reviews.
And Papi_Chulo, good one. That should be a tuscl tagline.
Thankfully I never got fat, still in good physical shape, have all of my hair, and it’s even gotten naturally darker over time. With a fatter wallet and experience under my belt I feel the I got the world by the balls more than ever, because my health is still such a great asset of mine.
I don't necessarily disagree with this statement, but I'm going to offer a refined version: "If you're on a strip club website then worrying about what civies may think is optional"
The great thing about strip clubs - for those of us who can afford them and choose to in a responsible manner - is that they provide an opportunity to escape the outside world. But it doesn't mean we can't continue chasing civies, unless we simply prefer not to. There's something to be said for a cute girl in her twenties that just smiles and pretends to like everything I say. But scoring with a civie is a completely different stroke to my ego. And even if they aren't always the hottest civies, there's also something to be said for real conversation with a woman. I say make every effort to grow old with sophistication, see where it can get you, and keep strip clubs in your back pocket for when you simply want more.
or be grateful.
One of the ways I dealt with this was working out. I had it in my head that being in my forties with a couple of injuries meant I couldn't work out any more. Well my ass found a way to workout when I was desperate enough for something to shift my feelings. Watching your muscles grow will make you feel better. EXERCISE MOTHERFUCKER
If you are having to get up too many times at night to piss, see a urologist. An enlarged prostate(BPH) is very common after age 50. The urologist will give you some tests and the probably put you on Floxmax(tamsulosin). If that doesn't work then he'll add finesteride to it. Mine had gotten so bad that I had a minor surgical procedure called a "Urolift" and I'm still have problems. I'm now on a new medication to retrain my bladder since my prostate has been fixed. Depression is not a problem. Now testosterone treatment can cause more problems than it cures and urologist advise against it unless absolutely necessary.
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I shall wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.
Shall I part my hair behind? Do I dare to eat a peach?
I shall wear white flannel trousers, and walk upon the beach.
I have heard the mermaids singing, each to each.
I do not think that they will sing to me.
----T. S. Eliot
I only worry or stress about things that I can control.
Last night I was feeling about 26.
Health after age 50 is mostly habits.
And people must learn to feel their feelings, like on a daily and hourly basis.
And when it comes to having the cool, as an aging male, no one has it like musicians do! I try to emulate them.
SJG
The Urban Agenda: Katherine S. Newman on the low-wage labor force
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@ MisterWonderful - Feeling good is important.
To me that was a car payment and an absurd sink of money. I replied to them, I'm good. I'd just get a Porsche when the time comes. I agree with twentyfive and PinkSugarDoll above.
I have started to notice just a bit of thinning at the crown when it grows out a bit. The benefit of a shaved head is that if you are going bald, it's not a major transition. And maintenance becomes even easier.
Dumping a bunch of money into preventing hair loss seems like a waste. But hey, it's your budget.
This is a nice advantage, and I agree. Even if my hairline and fullness came back, I would still buzz my hair short. I wished I had done it earlier, in fact.
You shouldn’t have cheated on their moms.
Also, I’m not in a competition with you. I want you and your family to have the nice things you worked for, but it’s glaringly obvious you are someone who has become accustomed to justifying his behavior while judging others.
SJG
I think you are noticing this. I notice it too. He would look better with a full head of hair instead of what he has now. He's a good example to illustrate your point.
I take it though that the real reason for this is just to impress women, to have a visceral effect on them.
SJG
Don McLean - American Pie
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I have rock star hair, but there is truth to stress damaging your hairline as there was a period of time mine was thinning from stress and was concerned I was showing age.
Now stress is gone and the rockstar hair has come back. Too bad I got to keep it trimmed nicely for professional standards. :(
SJG