Do I Out Another Monger?
PutaTester
West Coast. He who dies with the most memories wins.
Stumbled on a video of a woman that I see OTC fairly regularly. I know that she sees other mongers OTC, so it is not a big deal and I always play safe. However, his posting the video on the internet is not cool. Especially since she can be heard on the video specifically asking him not to share it. He has a few other girls he has videoed and posted and comes across as a boastful ass.
Granted, she was a bit foolish to allow him the video in the first place. Also, I hate the idea of outing another monger. OTOH I like this woman as a person, he shows a total disregard and respect for her, and she told him she did not want anyone else to see the video and he agreed. If he were just showing it and bragging to his friends, I wouldn't be concerned. However, he posted it on a public forum. (And do not ask me to provide a link. I am very concerned that his posting is going to attract other asshat types.)
Do I tell her he posted the video on the internet?
Granted, she was a bit foolish to allow him the video in the first place. Also, I hate the idea of outing another monger. OTOH I like this woman as a person, he shows a total disregard and respect for her, and she told him she did not want anyone else to see the video and he agreed. If he were just showing it and bragging to his friends, I wouldn't be concerned. However, he posted it on a public forum. (And do not ask me to provide a link. I am very concerned that his posting is going to attract other asshat types.)
Do I tell her he posted the video on the internet?
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But it’s to each their own and it’s no big deal if you choose not to either. I know that I’ve stood by passively when I’ve seen malicious stripper behavior before.
Keep quiet with a random stripper, or if guy's just being a minor dick. In this case, guy is being major major dick, so if it were with CF, I'd likely let her know
The other two didn't seem to care, never said anything and I have shown the vids to a couple close friends but I would never post them online.
The subject of the OP is an obvious asshole and I would not have a problem outing him. Guys like him ruin things for everyone else.
So with the proper frame of reference now in place, what's your upside in getting involved? Are you hoping to be her most beloved bestest ever John? More likely that she will always associate you, as the messenger, with the video and this will interfere with your entertainment.
So no, if I were you, I would fight off those "eager to please" instincts and stay out of it.
You're not becoming her best friend, lol.
Seriously, what is the downside here? I don't get it, I'm confused.
I agree with part of what Rick Dugan said - as this girl is not your friend. However, it’s a decent thing to do.
Decency is not always rewarded in this lifestyle. Sometimes decency can put you in the middle of a shit storm. So, since you appear to know this girl, think about how telling her could bite you in the ass.
If the girl has kids, and a douchebag monger is posting video of her on the internet, it would be rough if that shit got back to them. It’s a small world.
I was in almost this position with my ATF one time. It was a picture, not a video, but I told her. She said thanks and she and her then bf...dealt with the offending party.
If you’re worried about fallout from the other guy, send her an anonymous email or text.
The first thing that comes to mind when a celebrity has her account "hacked" and nude pictures posted is that if she doesn't want them shared don't take them. This doesn't seem much different.
Plus, we don't know what motivated the guy to post it. Maybe she later gave permission.
Also, there is a small chance that it may humiliate her to know that someone she knows has seen her fucking on tape. It may impact your experiences with her in the future.
Finally, what good does it do for her? She can't remove it. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. It seems to me that telling her would just satisfy a personal need to be a white knight, and that is selfish.
Whatever you do, I recommend you be introspective (how's that @Supra) and really consider what would be motivating you to tell her. To me, the possible cons outweigh the pros.
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LOL! Dugan's post above could be replaced by any one of his other goofy 17,000 posts equating any measure of human empathy with weakness and lack of masculinity. It's something he really should be discussing with his therapist.
"If the girl has kids, and a douchebag monger is posting video of her on the internet, it would be rough if that shit got back to them. It’s a small world."
good point. other wise I'd say flip a coin.
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She'll know she cant trust that mofo - especially w/ more vids or pics.
Best case, you don’t say anything, she never learns, and life goes on. Then, some day, the asshole will mess with the wrong person and Karma will fall on his head.
It depends entirely on the situation. If it could save her life and help her avoid serious physical harm, I'd certainly tell her anyway. Or if she was an honest to goodness friend (meaning not a paid stripper companion), I'd probably tell her then too. But this is neither situation.
So you're damned right that I'm not going to ruin a good p4p outing - not with something as borderline as this with a p4p girl who was foolish enough to let herself be recorded in the first place. I see strippers OTC to be entertained, not to get sucked into silly drama, which is all that would come from spilling his guts. It's human nature for people who receive bad news to associate it with the messenger. No thanks. I'd let some other eager to please type run his mouth instead, which will inevitably happen soon enough anyway.
Tell her it is the right thing to do. It sounds like "revenge" type porn. Which is a big issue and becoming a huge legal issue.
#2... Post a link of it for the rest of us... LOL
I cant believe it took that long for anyone to say that. HAHA
It would not be so bad if he had not included her name, where she works, degrading comments, and the price he paid. He has a few other videos of him with other women that he has posted. Some look to be done without their knowledge.
I am not in White Knight syndrome. I have been invited to her home (which I did not accept and that she lost recently), and she has introduced me to some of her family. I know she is pretty open about what she does and that she has been generous to some family members. I have come to know her over the years not as a friend, but at least someone with a good heart who deserves respect and compassion. At the end of the day it is just business, but I would also have to consider it if it were a video of the woman who cleans my house.
Just now I am leaning toward not telling her, as she knows the risks when she agrees to let someone video her, despite the verbal promises made. And I don't have an easy way of telling her anonymously.
Finally, I doubt the poster is on this forum, which is one of the reasons that I felt comfortable seeking your collective advice.
Again, thanks for giving me perspectives that I had not thought about.
@tahoe . White Knight Syndrome is the guy who doesnt LDK and treats dancers like saints. This is clear cut doing the right thing. The internet is an area where rules are made and broken each day. If it was me id politely take her aside and let he know and not use an internet forum for advice.
Well, yeah. This is new info and is more evidence that it was in fact a douche move, whether for revenge or narcissism.
That would have to be factored in.
It would depend on the relationship I had with the girl and whether I truly thought she would benefit from knowing. MYOB would be my default position unless there was something to move me otherwise.
She'll know she cant trust that mofo - especially w/ more vids or pics."
And why is that any of the OP's business?
Standing by while a wrong is being done to someone else and at least not letting that person know, sounds as self-serving/Dugan-ish as the dude doing the wrong.
If a guy cheats on his wife and feels guilty about it, should he confess to her and ask forgiveness?
I say no, because it wouldn't be to benefit her, it would be to ease his guilt. That is selfish.
No, it's none of your business.
To be honest, I don't know what I would do here. But I believe my default would not be to get involved in this one.
A number of years ago, I let a co-worker know when her profile popped up as the featured dating profile on the local newspaper's site with prominent placement on the entry page. The profile said she enjoyed drugs, so I figured it would be better for her to get the heads-up from me instead of having her manager find it first. She kept her job, so I assume she was able to make it more work-friendly before anyone else noticed it.
But I wasn't put on this earth to protect every moron from the results of his or her own stupidity. Just like I would steer clear of this drama, so too did I once steer clear last time I saw a fucked up hammered dude getting his CC bell rung by a stripper and her waitress accomplice. Stupid is as stupid does and she only has herself to blame for being on his recording.
If it's the former, I'd stay out of it. Lest you freak her out. either by coming off as a pervert (how and what are you doing watching/finding her videos) or scare her away (hard evidence of recording potentially everyone has access to an hence creating paranoia of what else might be out there too.) And this one doesn't sound bright enough to know the scope nor difference. IE it'll create more trouble than fix.
The way your framed it makes it more the latter (out the asshole) and what I'd do. Tell her there's a local creep videoing and posting videos and for to watch out for him. Send her a link to the forums and let her follow the bread crumbs... It allows you to tell her about it without directly getting involved, and up to her to decide what she wants to do.
He outed himself when he posted something on the internet that clearly identifies himself to her.
She obviously did not want the video posted, and even though she was naive to think this wouldn’t happen, that doesn’t mean all’s fair. If the guy was an actual friend, I’d tell him it was a dick move and try to get him to take it down, even if I didn’t know her.
If I don’t know him, fuck that Puto! I doubt he’d loose a moments sleep thinking about how he could harm her or anyone else, and I’m sure he probably doesn’t adhere to any honor amongst mongers.
If not, I'd tell the woman. Otherwise, cock breath is liable to do it again.
Knowing this, I'd absolutely tell her.
If she invites you to a BBQ tell her
If no BBQ then keep it to yourself