I've talked with a couple of strippers who have been at the game for years and who are "extras friendly". Both tell me that with rare exceptions any sex acts done at work are only ranked from bad to great based on how much money is paid. But outside of work both say they've been with some men who are clumsy and others who get them wet before their pants are off. Both mentioned physical fitness - great pecs, lats, slim waist, etc. one preferred big dicks (claimed to have the ability to "hit her G spot"). Both mentioned rhythm as a good quality for a sex partner. Hygiene is important to both and then they both spoke of personal characteristics - sense of humor ; self confidence, and things of that ilk. Do you all agree with their opinion of us men? Do you think they missed anything?
What constitutes being a good sex partner?
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Do you think they missed anything?
Moving your hands; it's the secret to great sex.
When you fuck them right the first time
Oral skills, specifically cunnilingus and kissing.
Face. More effective than even body or penis size. If you have a beautiful face than try missionary or cowgirl or any other position where they can stare deep into your eyes and touch your face, and you will likely give them an orgasm.
Strippers say that sex with me is magical, because after I fuck them I disappear.
How did you ever manage to get them to be honest about this? Anyway, I agree with Liwet, using your hands seems to be important.
The qualifications posted by the op appear to be a useful listing. As mentioned previously - hands - and the ability to use your tongue - can also enhance the experience.
For men - it can be more of a physical experience - and many of those physical components may help to move the sex from good to great.
For women - there may be more of an emotional component - and a strong connection may be important. That can be difficult to establish - if it doesn’t exist at the beginning.
To one extent or another, a lot of guys on here go to strip clubs as a function of either not caring about being a good lover or being broadly clueless about it.
Some PLs want to believe that they can rock a stripper's world (hence the frequently repeated 'do strippers ever orgasm in VIP' threads), but even that is more often motivated by bragging rights rather than being a generous, caring, and skilled lover.
Most guys go to strip clubs because they want some sexy time on the 'easy' setting without a lot of effort. There might be exceptions, but I don't see a lot of guys in the clubs who are tantra devotees spending 5+ days in the gym per week.
Both the PLs and dancers are a bit greedy and a bit lazy in their own way, but about different things.
Women who like me care less about technique and more about being with me; I'm the same with them. Women who just want money are probably better at judging performance since that's all they care about.
Gawker is a ledgend
I suspect that most extras friendly strippers have flipped the male- female dynamic on its head, at least as far as having a typical female emotional thing is concerned.
I’m guessing everything a guy wants is the same for a woman. Hot body, good oral sex skills, stamina.
^^^^ gets boners looking at male dancers in the dancer corner
In shape, helps. A lot of good tips have already been posted though to add:
- being attentive to your partner's needs more than your own.
- Having a good slow rhythm that you can keep up for at least 9-10 minutes, otherwise you're going to fast, or your out of shape and need to address that.
- Being rougher with you hands than with your penis (porn is not an instruction manual).
- Being able to read your partner's nonverbal cues.
- Use of foreplay or erogenous touching helps.
- Being able to build lust in a woman either before you start or on cue. :)
^^^ Yeah, that's too much work for me. Now I remember why I pay for it. Thanks for reminding me ;)
^^^ Like I said...
Mrs. 77 additions:
- V-shaped torso (shoulders wider than waist)
- strong upper body
- tall, dark, handsome.
- Handy: a man with a hot-rod or rat-rod that he helped build is sexier than man who bought a Lamborghini. Usually if he's handy he can find the g-spot
- will stick up for the woman, has her back, incl. dark triad revenge fantasies which she calls romantic.
- 6 inch dick with girth.
- at least 6 ft, preferably 6'2 to 6'4
@BHF, but you're 6'4. See the chart: goo.gl
Often I'm thankful I don't have the budgets you guys sometime do. Not being able to simply buy it causes me to be resourceful.
Haha, that's some funny stuff. I'm not sure if my height has ever helped me, but it can't hurt
I agree with that. Chemistry is also important but I think you nailed most of it.
Side note.. is that your dancer in your pic and if so where can I buy a pair of those shorts she’s wearing?