After reading the responses regarding buying drinks (and talking with a dancer), I’m wondering if anyone finds it difficult to have a conversation in a club?
I find that the loud music makes it a challenge. The lighting can make it difficult too. Also, I am not sure if the dancer can hear me. If the dancer normally speaks another language - it can also be difficult.
The only advantage of the loud music is that the girls have to get very close to you to be heard. It's very nice when they are leaning in to whisper in you ear while their boobs are pressing against you.
Forget the damn Cubans!
Yes
Yeah, the loud music doesn't help. But if they sit on my lap instead of the next chair it's much easier to hear them.
@shadowcat: What do you have against the Cubans? There's three or four of them at a local club, and they're very accommodating. Without being horribly expensive.
GMD - The ones at my favorite club can only speak "Wanna dance". Which makes it pretty difficult to negotiate VIP services, etc.
I have trouble hearing when there is a lot of background noise. Most of my faves realize this and face me, and speak clearly, when they talk. Every other dancer whispers and mumbles, and I ask them to repeat everything they say.
I find it difficult to understand what they say when my dick is in their mouth. I think you have to be a dentist to be able to understand it.
I think a mix of the loud music - and the dancer’s native languages - can create difficulty understanding what is being said.
I’ve had better talks when in vip - but that’s probably not the place to talk. It’s a more expensive place for a chat!
I don't engage in extended convos much - if I do I try to keep the convos simple and generic; don't like to get into any heavy stuff (politics, etc) b/c many a dancer IME tend to get defensive when one does not share their POV.
I go to small black clubs where many of the girls are young and from the hood thus not the best orators nor do they have much in common w/ me - there are times we are waiting for the next song and it feels a bit awkward just standing there w/o saying much either b/c I'm not in the mood to converse or she's not comfortable doing it - but man can they communicate w/ their bodies once our song starts LOL - they may not know how to hold a conversation but they sure can hold a grind - def doesn't apply to all of them (not being able to hold a convo) but many of them.
Well said Papi. Their ass-ets say what needs to be said.
About the only thing I want to talk to a dancer about is what we can do in VIP, comparisons to other clubs in what goes on, and what time she wants to arrive at my hotel. I don't want to talk about what I do, where I'm from or any of that stuff. On the off chance she is a hockey fan I am happy to discuss issues of the ice, preferably after recovering from a romp in my hotel room. :)
The music is always just a few decibels too loud. It's so annoying and it does make it hard to have a decent conversation. This is unfortunate because if I only wanted a quick roll in the hay with no convo I would just call an escort instead. I like to talk for 10 minutes first before I do any LDs, but that's just me.
And yes, definitely the language barrier is a problem for me. I almost always go for American girls, or at least girls from an English-speaking country. Chicks from Western Europe often speak flawless English so they might be ok, too. Eastern European, Asian, and Latin American girls, not so much. There are these little idiomatic things about the English language that just don't seem to translate well to people from certain parts of the world.
But one of the biggest problems is that dancers are often not the sharpest tools in the shed. Some of them are as dumb as a bag of rocks and almost as useless. Having said that, I do know and have known half a dozen dancers who were surprisingly intelligent and they tend to be the ones I choose. They know who they are.
Well said BurlingtonHF. I enjoy a short conversation before getting down and dirty with a dancer. I want them to think I’m not just a filthy old pervert!
I find it difficult to have a conversation with my wife. So yeah
Only after about 2-3 tabs. It's hard to pay attention to a conversation when her vagina is breathing and sticking its tongue out at me.
A lot of it depends on the environment. I have been to clubs where most dancer ages range from 18-25, and with the majority of them the first words out of their mouth is "wanna dance?" I have also been to clubs where most dancer ages range from 26-35 and a lot of them like to sit and talk for a little bit before asking for dances. With the latter, I believe it is because the older a dancer gets, the more it really does become a career for them. With the younger ones, a lot of them tend to be strictly business because a lot of them think they will only be dancing until they can move onto some other type of career.
I agree with those who say that music and background noise in general can be distracting. Most of my recent strip club visits have been to clubs where the music level isn't loud to the point where it is difficult for me to hear people talk to me. For me, it seems to be more common at a regular bar for the music to be so obnoxiously loud that you have to shout when talking to people, and even then, it is still hard to hear people when they are talking to me.
For the most part, I like the loud music, it means we'll have to practically snuggle to talk. I have been to clubs where the music was so ear-splitingly loud that even up close, we had to scream. I don't know what they're thinking; I walk out of those
w.r.t. music-level, I often find it the worst in the small-clubs since the massive-speakers tend to be in close proximity, vs large clubs - some dives I visit seem like a converted old-house vs an industrial building and have low-ceilings meaning the speakers hang low nearer one's ears and the music-level is negligently high.
One small black club I go to one could feel the walls vibrating when one parked next to the club, they've toned it down a bit but at times I still leave w/ my ears-ringing.
I have no problem talking with strippers at a club. Like shadow I like it when they are close & there chest is pressing against you
It can be, but strip clubs are good place to learn to talk with young women. If you learn, and if the club is not too restrictive, you can often end up engaging in intense front room makeout sessions with them, and then following on with all which would be expected.
SJG
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I haven’t been getting close enough - and I think that’s something I’ll work on next time I’m chatting with a dancer in a club. My hearing isn’t good as it is - so I’ll get closer - to see if that helps.
Young women are familiar with musical groups and television programs that I have never heard of. I basically quit listening to popular radio around the year 2003 and have not owned a television since about 2007. Sometimes I muse to myself that I should spend a weekend googling fads and trends over the past 15 years just to fake my way through conversations.
i get 'star struck' sometimes... :)
and yeah... the music's too loud.
and i trying to learn spanish. definitely an advantage in mexico.
Depends on the dancer. Some are natural talkers and others it takes leading questions to get information from them. I try to avoid questions which require a one word answer.
Like Subraman says, the loud music can encourage snuggling.
SJG
@san_jose_guy said "It can be, but strip clubs are good place to learn to talk with young women."
This is one of the most sane and accurate things that SJG has ever written. The rest of it is nuts, but this one thing makes sense to me. Strip clubs are actually a decent place to learn how to talk to women. I never thought of it that way before.
^^^^ You have to be willing to try, to experiment, and to give up some money. But the results can be awesome. Soon you will never be buying dances again!
SJG
Hmmm...the loud music might make it hard to have an easy conversation that goes smoothly without having to always put our faces close to each other's ears. Not as sexy as it sounds. The dark lighting doesn't really make too much of a difference. Haven't dealt too much with the dancer with poor English. The Eastern European chicks with the semi-sexy accents are usually pretty good with English as long as you aren't having very deep or sophisticated, intellectual conversations. That would be a hoot. The Latinas i've met didn't seem to be (what's the equivalent of an FOB Asian for Latinas?) bad either; i've ran into a few that weren't fluent in Spanish, or maybe they pretended they weren't when the Latino customers tried speaking to them, although there are some Latinas that have been here for years and years that still don't know much English. Now the age gap and social adeptness of some of these girls is a different story.
WHAT?
I don’t need a dancer to break down her thoughts on NAFTA but she needs to be able to hold a conversation. One time I talked to a dancer and we started talking about blackjack and card counting techniques. It was actually an interesting conversation.
YEAH! OKAY!
I have no problem speaking with dancers as long as they speak english, as I speak no other language other than a bit of spanish. Age, status, ethnicity, none of it matters. Speaking with strangers is a job skill and it translates well to the clubs.
FUCK TRUMP!
THATS NOT WHAT I SAID! I SAID CONVERSATION WITH STRIPPERS IS FOR CHUMPS!
I don't mind lack of convo. Moments of silence and tease by body language is sexy. I'm usually preoccupied giving my stripper a back rub so constant convo isn't necessary. I view civie time as tease time and for buildup to doing dances/VIP later. Conversation is merely a means to that end. I like it best when it's about how hard and horny she is already making me.
Nope, conversing (or, as they would say, "conversating") with a stripper comes easily to me as long as she has a few brain cells and is at least in her early 20s . . . though I have a new favorite who just turned 21 (yesterday!) and is fascinating to talk with.
I gave a shit review for a club (on another account) because the music was so loud that it prevented me from negotiating dances with the girls.
Even though I've played in rock bands for 50+ years, I don't like clubs with oppressively loud or poorly/overly equalized music. I prefer conversation with a dancer to be more intimate with music in the background.
Sometimes the music is too goddamn loud.
Yeah, maybe the DUMB FAGs on here are different, but I don't really go to strip clubs for the conversations with strippers.
Depends on the dancer. I have found some girls much better at conversation than others. Older more experienced dancers are usually better at conversation than a 19 yr old new dancer. The music does cause some difficulty especially if there is a language barrier. But to be honest it is my hearing that limits conversation when music is loud. I spend way too much time asking " What did you say? "