Another PL attachment issue.
I am new to this shit, and I think that I've become very attached and have strong feelings for a dancer. I'm 29 and she is 22 and I have known her for a couple years, but recently in the last few months have seen her in the club every other week
And the last couple months talk to her on the phone or text or both, every few days. Yes I have spent a good amount of money ITC and haven't met up OTC yet.
She doesn't do extras, and she doesn't do stripper shit either, no problems, doesn't ask for anything, never any stripper shit in the whole couple years I've known her in terms of problems, never. She is single and she has kids but again she doesn't have stripper shit problems. Does Not.
I suppose the question is, should I confront her about liking her, or not say anything? Is there any way I could go about it or any thing I could do to convey that I like her more than just seeing her in the club. I would like to do normal activities/dates with her, basically I like her and want to convey that message
And the last couple months talk to her on the phone or text or both, every few days. Yes I have spent a good amount of money ITC and haven't met up OTC yet.
She doesn't do extras, and she doesn't do stripper shit either, no problems, doesn't ask for anything, never any stripper shit in the whole couple years I've known her in terms of problems, never. She is single and she has kids but again she doesn't have stripper shit problems. Does Not.
I suppose the question is, should I confront her about liking her, or not say anything? Is there any way I could go about it or any thing I could do to convey that I like her more than just seeing her in the club. I would like to do normal activities/dates with her, basically I like her and want to convey that message
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Moment your non extras girl will become an extras girls. Somebody with better game , bigger wallet, bigger dick ... Whatever it is. Mayne just a lucky bastard at the right time will get her to suck his dick in the club. Or meet in a hotel for a big payday. When this happens it hurts. It also makes you grow up and realize what the real world strippers are exposed to.
Have a great time. Have great sex. Learn new tricks in bed. Don't fall in love. Just Have fun. See others in the same club. Did I mention don't fall in love ??
Some variation of your story pops up here repeatedly. It always ends in a mushroom cloud.
Well, not *always*, but often enough that "proceed with caution" tends to be an understatement.
Even if it ends well, it's gonna hurt.
If you pursue her there is a 99.9 percent chance that it will turn out badly. If you decide to go for the .1 percent chance, which you probably will, just hope that it turns bad sooner rather than later.
Seriously, I'm happy that you're happy.
BTW, just so you know, there's likely a BF banging her for free and taking a cut of her earnings.
This will accomplish two things. First, it will tell her that you're an alright guy, and second, it will give you a bit of a reality check as well. Good luck - turbulence ahead.
I think I'll search for an appropriate YouTube sing I found for this thread.
This isn't her is it?
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ctFH4DQQnY…
as far as how to convey the message, ask her to lunch or dinner. that's a good starter and it won't come across as creepy/weird
Keep in mind, though, that even if you get an answer you like, there's a statistically high chance that she's lying and stringing you along. We may complain about a number of stripper deficiencies, but one thing that they are generally fantastic at is manipulating men. I mean, that's pretty much the first line in their job description.
So, I say rip the Band Aid off fast. Who knows? Maybe you have found the rainbow unicorn of strippers.
But remember that you were warned and that the archives of this discussion board is an elephant graveyard of lovestruck customers.
I'm not suspicious of the " What is the best club in East Puddfucker ?" posts. I do wonder about the "I'm in love with a stripper, does she love me back ?" posts.
No matter how many of us tell our horror stories, every new PL thinks "it won't happen to me" and "she's different."
Lessons learned the hard way are usually the ones that stay with you for life.
You already have her number, just ask, and re-evaluate as you go along.
He's been texting and chatting with her for over a year - and she's not offered to fuck him (for $$ or for free?) He's either friend zoned or she's looking for a whale/sugar daddy to come along (or she's kept her BF hidden).
No stripper shit has come up in your conversations or texts - which means that she's keeping it hidden from you. It's there - you just haven't been let in far enough to catch a whiff of it.
She's got kids. This is a young girl who probably has made lots of questionable decisions about men in her young life. Shes most likely impulsive about who she wants to date/fuck and if she hasn't jumped on you yet - it's highly unlikely now.
You could tell her that you like her, and that's fine. However, the chances of it working in your favor are very very small. She could then see you as more of a PL and start stringing you along with the carrot being a chance at seeing her outside the club on a civilian date.
It's really not worth saying anything. If she's not yet banged you - it's not going to happen.