What's the lesson here?
Lone_Wolf
Arizona
So awhile back I had a favorite that was sexy and fun as hell. She loved to party. We ended up spending a lot of time together and eventually she became comfortable sharing a lot about her personal life with me.
She told me she signed up on a popular dating site and met some nice young stud that took her out on a few dates. This dude went all out with flowers, gifts, nice restaurants etc...the whole chivalry thing. This is understandable, as I would have done the exact same thing had I met her in the civie world in my younger years as she is smoking hot with a boner making sexy flirtatious vibe.
Anyway, she said she never put out for the guy. Never gave up the pussy. Said she liked him but just wasn't feeling it despite all the fancy dating etiquette he employed. I tended to believe her as she wasn't shy about sharing her other sexual debauchery.
I felt her lack of putting out for this guy was somewhat ironic as I would often enjoy her company p4p anytime I wanted. No flowers required.
There's a lesson in this story and to most I know it would be apparent but to me its not that black and white. Sincerely.
One thing though, it would be easy for a civie dude to fall hard for one of these sexy honeys never realizing the kind of crazy p4p activity she was into previously. Crazy stuff.
Final note, thru the years I lost contact with this sexy baby doll. I heard a rumor she doing time in jail for something. I miss her. One in million this one.
She told me she signed up on a popular dating site and met some nice young stud that took her out on a few dates. This dude went all out with flowers, gifts, nice restaurants etc...the whole chivalry thing. This is understandable, as I would have done the exact same thing had I met her in the civie world in my younger years as she is smoking hot with a boner making sexy flirtatious vibe.
Anyway, she said she never put out for the guy. Never gave up the pussy. Said she liked him but just wasn't feeling it despite all the fancy dating etiquette he employed. I tended to believe her as she wasn't shy about sharing her other sexual debauchery.
I felt her lack of putting out for this guy was somewhat ironic as I would often enjoy her company p4p anytime I wanted. No flowers required.
There's a lesson in this story and to most I know it would be apparent but to me its not that black and white. Sincerely.
One thing though, it would be easy for a civie dude to fall hard for one of these sexy honeys never realizing the kind of crazy p4p activity she was into previously. Crazy stuff.
Final note, thru the years I lost contact with this sexy baby doll. I heard a rumor she doing time in jail for something. I miss her. One in million this one.
31 comments
As if women weren't already hard enough to read, now there's this story :-)
Nothing wrong with what the guy did - chivalrous or not, w/o confidence most guys are doomed (you can't have two pussies in a relationship).
It's not uncommon for women to hold out when they want a serious relationship, the pussy is their trump-card thus they'll hold it till the end - i.e. many dudes lose interest, and perhaps respect, when a girl gives it up right away
you can say that again
@JS69 "infinitely more reliable" - Amen, brother!
@Papi Yep. I'm friends with a girl that was a potential SB but backed out cause she didn't want to end up having feelings for a married guy. So, she's been trying to "regular date" and has been telling me about her progress. She's very sexual, so often ends up having sex with a guy on first date, and then rarely hears from him again. If she does, the guy is just wanting to skip the date part and go right to the sex.
I've never fallen in love with a woman AFTER I've had sex with her.
Ever have a woman change her mind? My guess is Kobe Bryant and several other athletes have found that out, and simply kept going.
Women's emotions can change on a dime, and are highly deceptive. They use emotions as a pawn.
As far as dating sites, why don't these guys just approach a girl f2f? These guys that use dating sites have something which is not right about them. That is how I see it.
SJG
i don't think there's anything wrong with someone who uses dating sites, but i agree that a face to face in person approach is a much better method. the problem with dating sites like tinder is the girls are gonna match with like every guy. in other words, they're trying to maintain like 9 conversations and that's not easy to do. too many people to compete with.
a face to face approach screams confidence and its also WAAAAAAAAY faster as opposed to the time it takes getting dates on dating sites
No matter how genuine and confident the guy may be, she often will attribute this type of treatment as coming from someone who is weak. They have come to appreciate and be attracted to guys who do not act as if she is up on a pedestal.
Papi was right. When it comes to street-wise ladies, NGFL.
I have heard it said in various contexts that obligation kills desire by removing the focus from the rapport and making it feel more like fulfilling a contract. Better to save the flowers for when she has had a rough time, some accomplishment, etc, instead of to express that you would like to fuck her. She should already know that.
And yea, I realize she was probably looking for a different type of attention/dude that what was happening in her reality but, damn, no man would have a chance against her.
I could only imagine what this young stud thought when he met her in person. Must of thought he want the sex lotto or something. Dude probably still thinks about her. I know I do.
"Oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck, how do I do this by the book and not mess it up"
Well said!
As far as the situation, Chris Rock had a great bit about women knowing every time a guy tries to do something for her it's his way of saying "how about some dick"
flowers, gifts, nice restaurants etc = how about some dick?
I would assume it has some merit if you really like the girl for a relationship; but if one just wants to bang-her then probably doesn't matter.