How much leeway ...
Papi_Chulo
Miami, FL (or the nearest big-booty club)
Saturday, July 29, 2017 7:16 PM
How much leeway do you give dancers you are not interested in but come sit or stand by you?
I have a low EQ and thus often a bit low on patience especially if "I have something on my plate (e.g. getting w/ the dancers I wanna get with)" - but at the same time I'm very cognizant about not being rude and/or hurting anyone's feelings - thus I try not to choo-away a dancer I'm not interested in as soon as she approaches me but in reality is what I feel like doing.
As I've often posted, I like variety and getting w/ as many dancers as I can afford and find desirable; thus I will often miss out on some of the dancers I wanna get w/ either b/c I run out of time in the visit, I'm busy getting dances from someone else, or she's busy - thus I feel I can't afford to entertain in convo every dancer that approaches me just to be polite when I am not interested - especially in the small black clubs I visit where lots of dudes just hang and don't get dances, dancers will often park themselves next to me, and sometimes just not even talk after an initial opening line, and they just park themselves there waiting for me to say yes.
Often times I just have to tell them something along the lines of "i'm not getting any dances right now" to get them to move along so I can be free to be w/ the various girls I want - and even worse is when a dancer I've gotten dances from b/f makes a beeline for me as soon as she seems me - liking variety I will often have to tell them somethng along the lines of "I wanna get dances w/ other girls today" - some take it well and others put a face as if I punched them in the stomach.
Cutting them off soon after the approach me feels rude although doing that is how I enjoy my visits best; not saying I enjoy cutting them off but that i enjoy being free to to do my thing - if I was the type to just wanna get w/ one particular girl on a visit, I think I would feel I could be more patient w/ other dancers talking to me b/c I only have to try and get w/ just one girl - but liking variety I like getting w/ often half-a-dozen girls on a good visit and being cock-blocked severely decreases my chances.
I feel that I'm in the right to club as i please but I still feel-bad about sending a chick on her way soon after she approaches me b/c I don't like them sitting next to me effectively cock-blocking me (at times I'll just grab a dancer I like even if another girl is sitting beside me b/c o/w the cock-blocker will just stay there and no other dancers will approach me).
So - do you often feel exasperated like me - or this does not happen much in the clubs you visit (some clubs are more of a seller's market) - or if you do experience this and it bothers you, how do you try and handle it (just wait till she goes away on her own or are you proactive about getting to move along)?
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