The answer is very simple, buying dances is a chump's game, and paying money for ejaculation services is simply exacerbating your own sexual frustration.
When I have been in situations like that, which I do not seek, mid level mileage, no way to get a front room makeout session going, not really conducive to FS, but dry humping is clearly on the menu, I have opted for DATYing dancers. And that has always gone over extremely well. A good way to go if seeing the girl outside is an objective. They respond strikingly well to it.
But with our local no touching clubs, that is okay, as it is very cheap, and the talk with the girls is good. Open ended potential for future outside contact of all types.
And at our underground circuit, things are very lose and the girls are constantly offering OTC, with either words or deeds.
Clip joints, 'wanna dance' places, are just for separating marks from their money. And San Francisco had not been like that.
SJG