Pedophile by Proxy?
rickdugan
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Does a 47 year old man become a pedophile by proxy when he fucks a 21 year old girl who he knows was sexually abused by her father when she was 9? I have no idea why this girl felt moved to share that with me, but she did. It makes my feel uncomfortable somehow to wonder whether she was reliving that experience with a guy 26 years her senior on top of her.
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This one must have been in between boyfriends and needed the cash real bad, so she figured why not?
Like most every other stripper or sex worker, she has baggage, and if you can't handle her particular baggage, move on.
If the girl shares this info you should have taken a moment and asked her if you reminded her of her assaulter (father or other person) And ask she was comfortable before going further.
I would just tip well and run.
Lol!
Are hey saying it to make you feel sorry for them so they'll give you more money? Or do they say it because they feel a connection with you and want to share their darkest secrets?
It's all hoseshit anyway.
In your case I say no it doesn't. They ALL have stories to work on that wallet just they've never met a garbageman or mom's basement dweller at work. All the dudes they meet while working at a club are Fighter Pilots , CIA agents and Investment Bankers .
By your standards, all practicers of Abrahamic religions (not just Islam), are pedophiles by proxy.
If you're going to avoid having sex with strippers who've been abused, molested or raped as children, or adults, you're not gonna be having a lot of sex. In fact, given the statistics on the subject, you're not gonna have many *civilians* to have sexy with either.
Every single dancer I've gotten to know well has had some type of problem with their father, although not necessarily physical abuse. After all, that's what we mean by "daddy issues." My theory is that they look at us older guys as surrogates and spill out their emotions. Last example for me was a dancer whose father drank himself to death when she was a young teen. She spent the first hour of our OTC date gushing about how not a single day had gone by without thinking about her father. How her father abandoned her. She considered therapy, then chose to see a psychic who could contact her dead father.
In @Dugan's situation, men with normal levels of empathy would say "I'm sorry about your past" and express that they will not push any boundaries during the sex. However a text-book narcissist like @Dugan is only concerned with notching another one on his belt and bragging about it online. Congrats @Dugan for paying for sex. What a stud!!!!!!
Rich stud paying for sex!
A. He didn't want to make his goat jealous.
My hat is off to the guy for writing entertaining posts. But his posts are so over the top as to be unbelievable. I'm sure there are girls that were molested stripping. Maybe there is some probability that they'd confide in the weirdo paying them for sex. Who knows?
But think about rickdugan's post. He never posts about a simple "had a good strip club visit, set up OTC (since he claims that is his thing), here's what happened: brilliant time, no hitches."
It is always some weirdo story about disasters occurring where he discovers the girl has felony warrants and then is worried about the fact that he's driving drunk. And so forth.
Either he's the unluckiest bastard on the planet or he's making up 90% of his posts.
That said, his posts are entertaining. Even if they are fictional!
Now he'll spend plenty of time attacking users he doesn't like, even if they've never said anything to him. In particular he seems to like to zero in on those he thinks have fallen for a stripper or, otherwise, aren't acting according to what he thinks "a real man" should act like. Kind of funny given that he did admit that he once stayed home for months on end b/c he couldn't figure out what to do on nights when both his favorites were working. After all if he talked to one it might offend the other.
Guy is a total homo. Don't know if I ever mentioned that before.
That's honestly fucked up
Yet one more reason to seek AA
Your going broke over alcohol