I have yet to find a good discussion anywhere on how to read when a dancer is actually enjoying her dance with you. I have been experimenting recently with different types of pants and cock pulled through the fly of boxers or not as well as wearing rings or not.
I wanted to match my experiences with others so we can accurately guage if dancers show a difference in reaction to each condition.
First off I'll say I'm not super hung . I might be slightly above average at best (7.5 in length at peak and pass the toilet paper roll test so greater than 5.5 in thick)
When I first started this experiment I just wore pants and boxers like normal. These typically ranged from jeans, khakis, or soft dress slacks. Lap dances I received seemed adequate but the khakis and slacks got marginally better griding. Most women did their 2 or 3 songs and hopped off.
Things got more confusing when I began wearing my cock and balls through the fly of my shorts. So I'm still showing up in non creeper pants and underware, but my size is far more obvious and when I'm aroused. Also especially in the softer thinner pants like slacks more individual features of my cock can be seen or felt.
Jeans with this method did not seem to net any difference in a girl's reaction. After 2 or three songs they hopped off.
However with khakis or soft slacks with the cock pulled through the shorts I felt I was getting more similar aggressive behaviors from different dances at different clubs.
The most common behaviors were:
*Crotch grabbing/groping before asking for dance or VIP.
*Micro lap dances (dancer sits on your lap in general area but before asking for a dance she rubs herself and ass on you during conversation)
Behaviors when dances started:
*Very aggressive grinding early into songs. I explicitly told one girl stop or slow down I was going to pop. She responded by grinding harder and I had to literally lift her off of me to gain control back, or slouch/sink in my seat to put distance between us. Needless to say I gave her what she wanted when she did an extra song. And it was huge.
*More bouncing and exotic positions such as leg lifting, back arching or splits. Just in regular lap dance areas.
*Moaning from the dancers became more frequent.
*in places I could touch the dancers more freely(vip/champagne room), with such things as biting the earlobe or spanking I've seen dancers get goosebumbs, and convulse once or twice followed by a grabbing or groping of crotch.
At particular clubs where it's allowed during stage shows, I've had dancers point to me and coax me into standing stage side so she or her partner can rub themselves on me in front of the audience for more tips.
These are things I had not experienced in my control condition of jeans and cock under shorts. Even with the size I am.
The most obvious difference I've seen across many dancers in lap dances is the addition of the going into "BJ position" and either biting, nuzzling, or rubbing my cock with her tits if she's well endowed in the chest.
I have never tried to whip it out at this point because.
1 its just weird having your dick out among other guys especially if no one else is doing that.
2 I'm not confident I'm reading body language right if she's signaling me to "let her see it" and thus the reason I wanted to compare my observations to others'.
Conclusions: There's a lot of misleading old posts around the internet on the topic of do dancers enjoy lap dances and when do they become fun or how to make them fun for the dancer. It would seem from my observations that many online claiming to be dancers weighing in on this are probably prudish non dancers.
The women can definitely tell the size of your junk if you wear some reasonable trousers and your cock over your shorts. Cocks to women ARE in fact like round asses and big tits to men. They like them, they like touching them. Their difference in interaction with them contradicts the verbal or written paradigms that women don't "notice " or care if a cock is above average or presented well. I will go as far to even postulate that lesbian women admire a well presented cock of even average to above average the way gay men can and do acknowledge when a woman has a nice pair of tits.
So yes if they can tell dancers will be more aggressive to a larger cock. If you act decently and not just obvious you want to pop on them or in your pants asap, A significant number will actually try to give themselves clitorial stimulation at your extent.
What guys can do: Be nice. Treat her like your gf. Touch her how she likes if you can touch.
Don't make it obvious you want to pop in your pants. I think the majority of women working know this is an objective of many guys. Who wants to walk around on edge? Women don't like it when it happens to them so most know its uncomfortable for a guy especially if you're above average.
I've had women look me in the eye smiling while I popped against their inner thigh or ass, and THEN double down on the wet spot at least while it was warm. The dancers are human . human sexuality is still in play though they are working.
Those dancers that claim lap dancing is an "art" are just being delusional and are having a hard time really coming to terms with their job description. Its SIMULATED SEX not ballet. The penis is a muscle/organ and doesn't know the difference. It just knows friction or no friction so popping will happen eventually especially during an aggressive dance.
Has anyone else seen smiliar differences in behavior between types of pants and particularly if you are above average below the belt?
Let's get to a real biological answer of this age old strip club debate, not some sexually repressed mindfuck answer.
Holy shit, SJG length post.
My dick also doesn't fit inside a toilet paper roll. Congrats! That's all the further I read on this.