You're old, fat and ugly.
shadowcat
Atlanta suburb
Ever had one of those dancers that won't take no for answer. You try to be polite and nice but they just keep at it. Why Not? Because you are not my type. Why? Because I like em petite. I'm only 5'2". You're still not my type. Then the race card. So you don't like (fill in)? I finally just refuse to speak any more for fear that I am going to tell them WHY!
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I always think of the staff as the go-to if I have any problem that involves a dancer. They prefer it that way too I'm sure. You don't want to get into a heated dispute with a dancer or other customer because you never know how it will end up. Too many people carry guns these days.
Fortunately, I've only had to resort to blunt force trauma to the ego a few times. Being fat and ugly myself, I prefer not to go that route.
* totally ignore them as if fhey are not there
* if they stay there cock-blocking me I'll either get up and walk-around if I don't necessarily wanna hold that seat or just grab a dancer I like as she walks by
"If you want to rub my cock, that's fine, but I'm saving my money for someone else."
She actually worked me up to a nice hardon that another dancer finished off. Only dancer 2 got paid, and she got a tip.
Anyway, yes it has happened, but rarely. In one instance, I was sitting at the bar and said to the bartender "If she doesn't go away, I'm going to stop spending money." The bartenders rolled her eyes sympathetically, and quickly chatted with a bouncer. The bouncer gently coaxed her off the barstool next to me without much drama (I got glared at... shrug).
I got a free drink.
One time @ Inner Room 2+ years on a slow early Sat dayshift, had an old, very unattractive, meth-looking chick, wrap herself around me at the bar like a boa-constructor for 5-minutes+ thinking she was being sexy - I didn't wanna be rude and tell her to get off of me so endured it for 5-minutes+ until I finally said something along the lines of I didn't want any dances right now - but yeah the ones that literally jump on your lap and wrap themselves around you can be even worse (these days I get them off of me pretty-quickly but still uncomfortable to literally choo them off) .
This actually happened on two straight visits with the same dancer, but it was much worse the second time than the first. I did not see this dancer during my last trip to Follies. I am hopeful that she is gone.
One time a girl asked me for a dance and I said no and then she said "we'll can you at least give me and dollar or two tip" and I said no and she went away
Sometimes a dancer I'm not interested in will sit down, and looking away and stage tipping while not showing any attention to her usually works.
Last time something like this happened, I was at a new club and the hottest dancer there who had been sitting with a customer was up walking around looking for her next victim. Once she got about 10 feet away, turning my complete attention to her and telling the one who was with me that I was waiting for her got the job done.
It was briefly awkward because me "waiting for her" came out of nowhere, but I explained that she was the cutest girl in the club and I didn't want her to think that I had already been taken by someone else. Everything worked out as I had hoped for that visit, so being up-front without enumerating the flaws of the potential CB dancer did the trick.
I do wonder, though, if my M.O. does cut this kind of behavior off, the first times it's started up:
1. Clear, direct, respectful, confident, eye-contact "No thank you" that leaves no room for doubt about how resolute I am in my reply, without coming off asshole-y. I do think that SOME of the time (not always), the hyper-aggressive strippers get triggered by either weakness or someone who is obviously uncomfortable.
2. I don't engage in the hustle-spiral. The hyper-aggressive hustlers go from "wanna dance?" to "why not?" to "aren't I your type?" to "don't you like X?", etc. The goal is to either make the customer so uncomfortable that he relents, or perhaps have him fall into a verbal trap so he has to relent so he doesn't look bad... or worst case, she's humiliated him and made him feel bad, which makes her feel good and is just as good an outcome. Once I answer "no thank you", depending on the vibe I get, I might do anything from just repeating "no thank you" and turning away, to playfully asking her questions back ("no, you're not my type, who do you think is?") and simply always turning my reply into a new question for her, until she gets frustrated and leaves. In any case, the thing I DO NOT EVER DO: just simply answer her one-after-another questions while she spirals deeper and deeper
I don't remember ever telling a girl she straight up wasn't attractive. I've walked away, though.
I remember a conversation with a dancer about me being nervous sometimes and she thought that very funny. To her, it was just a bunch of young girls in their underwear!