I have made the ultimate mistake. I am too closely involved and confused
Monday, March 27, 2017 5:38 PM
I have been using this site for a while now and read lots of cool advice and stories but I have only signed up to an account today.
I have recently turned 20 and live in the UK. I started visiting my local club just under a year ago, just once a month but since December i've literally been going every evening that they are open (THU/FRI/SAT) Thursdays are quiet and cheap and I spend EVERY weekend down the street at the nearest regular night club anyway, I love partying.
I get on well with many of the girls there but I only show up to see one in particular and everybody knows it. I exclusively recieve dances from her and only her other than like 3 other times.
The dancer I see is just 3 years older than me and we have sat down and talked for hours (There is no charge/tipping for girls chatting to you or anything like that)
The problem is, I really like this girl. I know I am sounding like the ultimate "PL" as you guys say but i'm just confused. I spend a fair amount but not anywhere near the amount that I could do. There have been many times where she has stopped me from buying more dances and told me that I should save my money and that she doesn't want to scam me for all i'm worth (even on nights where theres basically zero other customers)
She even limits me to VIP once every few weeks, despite me wanting to go more frequently and being happy to spend.
She finishes work at the weekends 90% of the time and meets me in a couple of the local nightclubs where she will spend a good amount of the evening close to me. We have kissed OTC but never anything sexual. Yes I have purchased many drinks for her OTC but she has honestly purchased just as many in return, we have fun together. She is very fun to be around and doesn't have any of the stereotypical drug, BF, Money issues etc. She lives comfortably alone in our small quiet town. We have shared taxis home after nights out and she even paid a very expensive fare for me after I drunkenly lost my wallet the other night (preventing me from being stranded 16miles from home with 0% phone battery at 5am)
She told me her real name months ago as well as plenty about her life and family. I have even met her Sister. and we regularly speak on Facebook, and never about work or cash. I have been invited to her birthday gathering at her place where there will supposedly be only personal friends and absolutely nobody from the "stripping world" so to speak. Of course I must remain quiet about this when at the club as she would get into a lot of trouble. And the manger even knows me fairly well from OTC.
I used to like her, but of course the ultimate goal was to sleep with her, but now I dont see her like that at all. I certainly wouldn't say no, but I just have more respect than that. If she ever offered me sex for money (I honestly don't think she would) I would actually be heartbroken and decline it. Not in a sad lonely way, but I honestly recieve similar levels of enjoyment by just talking to her over a drink, as opposed to her nakedly grinding on mh lap.
Overall I just wanna know what you guys think of the situation. Do you think i'm being taken for a ride? Or are we legitimately "friends" of some kind. That would be enough for me at this current moment, she just seems cool.
Ps. I only ever leave the club with a smile on my face, I never feel scammed or have any regrets at all, I love it. And she knows full well, that I will be in the club every weekend regardless of OTC encounters or not, so if she is just keeping me happy in order to reel me in, it would be completely pointless and not required.
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