Have any of you guys been enthralled by a dancer/stripper/whatever you want to call us and been disappointed when meeting her outside the club? I ask because I don't look a day under 35 and I have this young cute custie who thinks I'm a gorgeous 25 year old. I'm not saying I'm ugly, but I just don't see how he thinks I look so much younger than I am. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this one JS;)
"Enthralled" versus "disappointed"? Not really. Or at least not recently. Most (successful) dancers soon learn how to use makeup and clothing to take advantage of the lighting in their club.
Have any of you guys been enthralled by a dancer/stripper/whatever you want to call us and been disappointed when meeting her outside the club?
Yes, but only to a very limited extent. For example, on the first date with my ATF OTC, I noticed quite a few imperfections when exploring her body that had not been apparent in the low lighting of the club. But still, she was a gorgeous 31 year old (yes Diva I do also enjoy "older women"), and who the hell am I to complain (or even notice) just because she has a few small physical flaws. So it was not, and never has been, a big deal when I see everything in the full light of day and it's not quite up to what I remember from the club. If a dancer turns me on ITC she will do the same OTC.
While the club lighting does sometimes hide some imperfections, it cannot hide a woman's fundamental appearance. If this guy thinks you're 25, and you're really 35 or whatever, it's not because of lighting. It's because the guy is really into you and you turn him on. Even if you get OTC and it becomes obvious that you're not 25, my guess is it won't matter much to him. You're still the one who turned him on massively ITC, and you'll still do so OTC as well.
I think you should not be insecure, be glad the strip club gods have sent you this cute young customer, and go show him a good time while making a bunch of money too.
Interesting topic. I'll relate a quick story about my ATF. As I've mentioned before, she is Asian. Thai and Chinese, as I recall. Been many years since she old me. Anyway, one afternoon in the club, she asked my if I would go with her to buy a new vehicle. Of course I agreed. Now I had never seen her outside the club and without her club "face" on. I got to the dealer before her. I knew what she drove at the time, so I saw her arrive. She parked some distance from me. As we walked toward each other, I saw soon struck by how lovely she looked in her civilian form. So much better then inside the club. To this day, I still picture her in that moment.
If he was sober when he saw you then I don't think you'll look that much different outside the club. Most likely he wasn't checking out your complexion :)
I know people can look younger in a strip club. I remember just a few years ago I hit things off good with a dancer who I thought might be in her twenties. She was a lot more interested in me. I found out she was the same age as me.
Being carded the other day to buy beer, apparently I look a whole lot younger than my age even in brighter light. Strip clubs have dim light and can hide a lot of imperfections. I would probably never even tip several dancers on stage if I saw them in brighter light.
Hmmmmm, people always guess I'm 10 years younger than I am. Maybe under SC lighting the strippers think we're another 10 years younger than that and just out of college still dating or something. Yeah, I'm gonna go with that.
Strip club lighting must make you look 10 years younger because I get that all the time too.
Yes, I think just about every stripper I've had relations with liked better inside the club than out. Wonder if they thought the same thing about me? Lol
Diva,
I think you are giving too much attention to looks. Looks are only for first impression. You are beyond that now. You probably have other skills that will offset a couple points in looks. To me it's more important in how a girl makes me feel than how she looks. I'm not saying she can be ugly and I don't care I'm saying as long as she can make me feel fulfilled as a man it doesn't matter to me if I originally thought she was a 10 and now she's only looking like a 6 or 7 in daylight. As long as she makes me feel good and satisfied sexually that is more important.
@Jestrite50 isn't like most guys so take his advice with a huge grain (mountain size) of salt. Feelings? Most of us get a ego stroke hitting a fcking a hot girl, just because you are as hot OTC as you are ITC doesn't mean he'll be so disappointed he won't want to see you again. But their might be a slight fall of in his interest level if you don't come correct OTC.
About fifteen years ago I hung out as a regular at a strip club in a small town, was friends outside the club with many of the bartenders and a few dancers so I would still be there after closing. The dancers themselves would joke at closing "It's time to turn on the ugly lights". In some cases, all to true, but I hung out with some of them in broad daylight and they still looked good.
In the few instances I've been somewhat “disappointed” is when I meet a dancer ITC and she's all dolled up and looking sexy and then meet her OTC and she has no makeup; hair in a ponytail; and wearing the equivalent of sweatpants and a t-shirt.
IMO it is not the case that every man only finds women 25 and under attractive – if he was into you in the club enough to want to meet you OTC then most likely he is not in the “they gotta be under 25 to be sexy” camp; even if he is a young guy himself.
In my professional opinion; when you meet up with him just show a lot of cleavage and he probably won't notice much else – we men are simple creatures :)
Nope. New York strippers care less about looking the part and more about how to get your money fast. At least these days. And can't forget with as little effort as possible
I have now met the second of two women who are absolutely the sexiest women I have ever met in a strip club, actually pretty much anywhere. One is a brunette slim build, nice enhanced breasts. The one that I just met is a blonde, medium height, thin framed, A cup (approaching a B, firm, shapely), what I would call sexy thin. The first is 45, I'm not sure how old the second one is, but from talking to her, I'd say that 40 would be the minimum.
Both of them attract men like a bowl of sugar water attracts flies. They exude sex from every pore without any apparent effort. Pheromones?
Maybe. Bedroom eyes? Absolutely.
Both talk freely. Both appreciate nice guys and abhor creeps. I knew before meeting them that they would be a blast in the lap dance area and they were. Both of them genuinely enjoy our sessions.
One is a grandma, and the other is a grandma in waiting - her daughter is expecting.
They are both gems, with beautiful faces and brains perched atop the bodies of twenty year olds.
I like the fact that they are both in their 40s! I like their mature sexuality. I like that they are not girls 1/3 my age and younger than my daughters.
Anyway, Diva, it strikes me that you are probably like these women. Enjoy it, embrace it and be glad you have it!
Lighting makes a huge difference!! After seeing some of the girls in the bathroom I'm like Yikes!! I'm always pretty tipsy too so the alcohol effect doesn't make the difference.
I've always been baby faced, but, like a lot of people, I got lazy about exercising and keeping my weight down after I turned 30. If you don't have serious weight problem, unfortunately that's getting to a "young" characteristic.
I knew as escort in her 30s who I thought way underestimated her beauty. I use to tip her over $100 because I though she had her rate way too low. I think she filled out after she had kids and preferred her younger petite self. She really didn't look old, but maybe she thought she did just because she looked different from when she was younger. What specifically makes you say you look like your 35?
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Yes, but only to a very limited extent. For example, on the first date with my ATF OTC, I noticed quite a few imperfections when exploring her body that had not been apparent in the low lighting of the club. But still, she was a gorgeous 31 year old (yes Diva I do also enjoy "older women"), and who the hell am I to complain (or even notice) just because she has a few small physical flaws. So it was not, and never has been, a big deal when I see everything in the full light of day and it's not quite up to what I remember from the club. If a dancer turns me on ITC she will do the same OTC.
While the club lighting does sometimes hide some imperfections, it cannot hide a woman's fundamental appearance. If this guy thinks you're 25, and you're really 35 or whatever, it's not because of lighting. It's because the guy is really into you and you turn him on. Even if you get OTC and it becomes obvious that you're not 25, my guess is it won't matter much to him. You're still the one who turned him on massively ITC, and you'll still do so OTC as well.
I think you should not be insecure, be glad the strip club gods have sent you this cute young customer, and go show him a good time while making a bunch of money too.
You know - us distinguished TUSCLers are experts on "women matters".
My guess is what your custie says, even at 40 this year, you look 25.
Being carded the other day to buy beer, apparently I look a whole lot younger than my age even in brighter light. Strip clubs have dim light and can hide a lot of imperfections. I would probably never even tip several dancers on stage if I saw them in brighter light.
Yes, I think just about every stripper I've had relations with liked better inside the club than out. Wonder if they thought the same thing about me? Lol
I think you are giving too much attention to looks. Looks are only for first impression. You are beyond that now. You probably have other skills that will offset a couple points in looks. To me it's more important in how a girl makes me feel than how she looks. I'm not saying she can be ugly and I don't care I'm saying as long as she can make me feel fulfilled as a man it doesn't matter to me if I originally thought she was a 10 and now she's only looking like a 6 or 7 in daylight. As long as she makes me feel good and satisfied sexually that is more important.
No money from me. She was making more than me. :)
She just wanted a guy with her, and honestly, I was more her father at times.
Not everywhere is smokeless. :)
, @wipe, @cjoe
IMO it is not the case that every man only finds women 25 and under attractive – if he was into you in the club enough to want to meet you OTC then most likely he is not in the “they gotta be under 25 to be sexy” camp; even if he is a young guy himself.
In my professional opinion; when you meet up with him just show a lot of cleavage and he probably won't notice much else – we men are simple creatures :)
I've had this happen more than a few times.
I'd have to say though, the amount of alcohol (mostly when drinking Jagerbombs) had more to do with it than the lighting in the club....
Both of them attract men like a bowl of sugar water attracts flies. They exude sex from every pore without any apparent effort. Pheromones?
Maybe. Bedroom eyes? Absolutely.
Both talk freely. Both appreciate nice guys and abhor creeps. I knew before meeting them that they would be a blast in the lap dance area and they were. Both of them genuinely enjoy our sessions.
One is a grandma, and the other is a grandma in waiting - her daughter is expecting.
They are both gems, with beautiful faces and brains perched atop the bodies of twenty year olds.
I like the fact that they are both in their 40s! I like their mature sexuality. I like that they are not girls 1/3 my age and younger than my daughters.
Anyway, Diva, it strikes me that you are probably like these women. Enjoy it, embrace it and be glad you have it!
I knew as escort in her 30s who I thought way underestimated her beauty. I use to tip her over $100 because I though she had her rate way too low. I think she filled out after she had kids and preferred her younger petite self. She really didn't look old, but maybe she thought she did just because she looked different from when she was younger. What specifically makes you say you look like your 35?