Guilty by association ?

I sometimes go to a local (Miami) black dive where dances are UHM and out on the floor in view of everyone.

I often get dances from anywhere b/w 6 and 8 different dancers at this club and some dancers have made some sorta negative comments to me b/c of the other dancers I’ve gotten dances from.

This is a very catty business

How do you feel about it Diva? Are you put off w.r.t. some custies b/c of whom they have gotten dances from?

It has happened for both dancers and escorts

Yes. It goes with the territory.

Yeah, when I was in jacksonville. I went to that pony club. Where it look like you can contract a disease pretty easily. I told her I'm going to silver foxx, she informed me that I would be right back because them hoes are disgusting. I guess she forgot to look at where she was working

No I'm not that picky lol

The dirty dancers are always the "other ones".

I've had dancers tell me who I've gotten dances with, like I needed a reminder lol.

Good question, Papi_Chulo, and the answer is yes. It's such bullshit. Do some of these girls think we come to the club to be judged or put on guilt trips? I was friends with a beautiful redhead at a nude club, but I got to the point where I hated seeing her there because she always complained about the girls doing extras because she claimed it made her job more difficult. I happened to like these other girls, and all the awesome stuff they did, but if she saw me with one I always got a disappointed, hurt look from her. FYI--she eventually had to retired from dancing after pushing out three babies from three different, useless, broke ass baby daddies in five years, but I was the one being judged.

^ You know what they say - Men are from Mars - women are crazy :)

I was in a nude club, sitting at the tip rail with one stripper, while her bff was up on stage. At one point, bff dances her way over to us and whispers "see that guy over there? he's Karma's regular" (Karma is an enemy of theirs). Obviously, this is a complex situation, with each action on her part fraught with subtle implications whose impact could only be divined by the brightest of minds. So, a little strategy discussion ensued, in whispers and wild gestures, during which the stripper I'm sitting with finally proposes "you can dancer over by him, but you should only show him your asshole". Which I thought was an absolute brilliant suggestion that, being a mere customer, I would have never thought of. Evidently, this strategy was meant to show disdain to Karma, via giving her customer the asshole-only treatment. Which, ironically, I would have loved if I were in Karma's regular's place, since I'm an ass guy, and further, I love assholes.

In any case, good times... good times

And, BTW, I did not make any of that story up

Yes, at the sc I am a regular at, my OTC opportunity is hurt due the dancers I regularly party with. They are afraid I will tell them about my OTC endeavors. I don't really give a shit given there is so much opportunity elsewhere.

Funny thing is the honey's I party with are like sexy friends and I rarely broach the subject of OTC with them. I rarely get dances with them either.

Man, any bitches be messin with my girl Diva I be hittin those bitches ova the head with a muthafuckin frying pan.

Okay enough ghero talk! Lol

No! But my neighbors have.

My buddy and I got hit with 'guilt by association'. We were waiting for white spinner to come back, and black girl stops by. Then the white spinner came back and we focused on her. So the black stripper leaves in a huff saying something about us only liking white girls. As it turns out we like both! It was her loss as we would have gotten dances from the black girl too, if she stuck around. Her loss.

It's happened to me and it is a vibe killer.

I get it sometimes, but they don't really mean it seriously, and I always just laugh it off. It's not so much because the dancer is "dirty" but more that she's beneath my usual "high standards". They already know I'm a dirty boy.

I've seen it a few times.

As I mentioned; in the black dives I visit down here in Miami the dances are out on the floor for all to see.

I’ve gotten comments from dancers such as:

“I would do VIP with you but I’ve seen you get dances from lots of dancers tonight/today”


The dances at these dives I visit are nude (although is sorta at dancer discretion it seems and some dancers choose to keep their bottoms on) – I’ve had dancers tell me they were keeping their bottoms on b/c they saw me getting some hot and heavy nude dances from other dancers – as if they were afraid of some kind of cross-contamination or something.

I’m not saying it happens often; but has happened – probably b/c I normally get dances from many different dancers some of whom may have “bad reputations” and these dives are known for high mileage/contact.

I have been light up by dancers that saw me getting dances from known dirty girls and were appalled that I would do something like that. I just laugh and tell them "you can't be first, but you can be next". At that point they usually storm off in a huff, but 75% of them return either later that visit or on my next visit to offer their services. It may take them a minute or two, but eventually they realize where the $$$ really comes from.

One of my favorite dancers is 100% non-extras, but she disdainfully tells me who will do what. She's 38, college educated, and usually a top earner in this club. Most of the other dancers are 20 to 25 so she kind of looks down on them. She gives me shit all the time when I spend an hour in VIP with a cute little spinner, but then wants a complete review.

Back in the '90s, one dancer I hung out with kept telling me that she and another dancer (her roommate) were my only friends at the club, that all of the other dancers just wanted my money. I'd just shrug and continue getting dances from pretty much any dancer who approached me. Eventually she gave up on that ploy.

@PhantomGeek: "she and another dancer (her roommate) were my only friends at the club, that all of the other dancers just wanted my money."

I would have gotten a good chuckle from this one.

This has happened to me all the time.

A dancer seems to think I'm "hers" and I can't talk to any other dancers.

Yet, she is free to talk to as many other customers as she wants.

Double standard much? lol.

No double standard from her standpoint, warhawks. Just one consistent "Guard the ATM by any meams" standard!

I had a girl give me an air dance once because she thought the girl I had right before her had a bad yeast infection.

Talk about a mood killer!

A "good girl" in the club pointed out to me all of the girls that gave extras and were dirty dancing. I was only too happy to keep a record of all of the dirty dancers, and not waste my limited treasure on a wild goose "good girl" chase.

A few years ago a dancer was bitching about some "dirty girls (whom I enjoyed) to the bartender while she sat with a regular. The bartender winked at me and said to the dancer while pointing at me "this guy loves all those you just named". The dancer looked at me and said: "I heard you were nice guy, but I never come over to you because I don't do what they do." I said thats not a problem and as I am not attracted to you it saves me from saying no. Of course she became interested and six months later I was surprised by the fact that she made the dirty girls seem like nuns in the CR. Dancers are catty and hypocritical and as Shakespeare once said "s/he who doth protest too loudly."

skibum609, that's a great story. I've known a few of those girls. They play "good girl" until they watch money that could be theirs going out the door with another dancer. My favorite was a dancer who at one time was all over message boards and social media bragging about how she only works at "clean" clubs and would never do the extras that those "nasty" girls do. Lately, she's been posting about how much she's willing to do so she can compete with other girls and pay her bills.

got this one girl at a no touch club right before she moved and action out on the floor then bake n da vip got ultra high mileage with light extras...all on film.....now when i go to this club most girls want even look at me BUT ! The few that do have arranged hotOTc with da manejust_the_nuts ? ? ?

Also the owners and bouncer always have this slight smurk every timethey see me know lol....uuuuhhhhmmm ? I thank they enjoyed watching Juice TV lol

Yes, this happens in clubs where some girls do more than others and the dancers use that as a way of seeing what you might expect. Or, sometimes, it lets them know if you are into more advanced play.