Strip Clubs Offer a Useful Service To Society!
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Basically, there is nothing that nefarious about strip clubs. Granted some of the strippers take the fantasy act too far and rip customers off. But, this is an uncommon event, and the customers who get burned may even want to be “used” at an unconscious level. Customers need to get educated about strippers and strip clubs, develop realistic expectations, and act accordingly. Reading this Board will help educate customers, as well as strippers who participate here. A sane and informed customer is very unlikely to get burned, and a sane and informed stripper is unlikely to try.
That aside, I believe strip clubs offer a useful service to society. They allow hassle-free access to women that otherwise would not be available to many men. Indeed, a common customer is that of a middle-age man, likely married, who has some extra cash and wants exposure to a younger woman – access that doesn’t jeopardize his marriage. Monogamy is not necessarily biologically inherent, and it’s natural for most men to seek younger women, especially after their main squeeze has gone through menopause. Harems, mistresses, and polygamy are as old as mankind. Another common customer is a younger man out “on-the-town.” Dates are sometimes hard to find, especially with a really attractive women. Strippers provide access for these younger men, who would also benefit from some experience. I’ve also seen paraplegics and other crippled men buying dances from women they would never even get to talk to – maybe we should offer those altruistic strippers willing to spend time with them a humanitarian medal!
I could go on-and-on, but the BOTTOM LINE is that I want to thank strippers for agreeing to strip and society for letting them do it. I seriously doubt that strippers cause any serious long-term damage, especially for well-informed, mature customers who have realistic expectations. I ask strippers to perform their jobs with ethics and sensitivity to the customer – you are doing more good than you might think.
That aside, I believe strip clubs offer a useful service to society. They allow hassle-free access to women that otherwise would not be available to many men. Indeed, a common customer is that of a middle-age man, likely married, who has some extra cash and wants exposure to a younger woman – access that doesn’t jeopardize his marriage. Monogamy is not necessarily biologically inherent, and it’s natural for most men to seek younger women, especially after their main squeeze has gone through menopause. Harems, mistresses, and polygamy are as old as mankind. Another common customer is a younger man out “on-the-town.” Dates are sometimes hard to find, especially with a really attractive women. Strippers provide access for these younger men, who would also benefit from some experience. I’ve also seen paraplegics and other crippled men buying dances from women they would never even get to talk to – maybe we should offer those altruistic strippers willing to spend time with them a humanitarian medal!
I could go on-and-on, but the BOTTOM LINE is that I want to thank strippers for agreeing to strip and society for letting them do it. I seriously doubt that strippers cause any serious long-term damage, especially for well-informed, mature customers who have realistic expectations. I ask strippers to perform their jobs with ethics and sensitivity to the customer – you are doing more good than you might think.
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DandyDan, you're absolutely right when you say that a lot of these girls just want their story told. If you're a good listener (and I've often been told that I am) dancers will often sit with you for hours just to have someone to talk to. Even if it costs them money. Just another sign that it isn't all about the money.
And Lexus, I agree that there has been a huge change in the type of girl who takes up dancing. And fankly I like the change. But it has caused a lot of problems because the newer type of girl has very different expectations of what the job should be and not all customers have figured that our or agree. Hence there's a lot of wars between customers and dancers, much more so than used to be the case.
The story about why I like strippers?
Probably it is because I've spent so much time in strip clubs. Spend almost every day in a strip club for a long period of time and you should get to know the strippers very well. What I learned is that *overall* they're exceptionally kind and sweet and generous and a surprising number are not in love with the dollar. WARNING: My experience is mainly with dancers at cheap clubs.
It sounds from your posts that you would probably dislike most of the dancers who I think are the greatest. You're worried about lying, scamming, and stealing. I see those as symptoms and not necessarily negative symptoms.
The short story is that if you get to know the strippers at some point they let down their guard (and a couple have no guards up to begin with) and then you begin to learn the difference between the SC illusion and the SC reality. I don't think if I knew the SC reality I would have gone in the first place. I don't feel like I got scammed as Yoda seems to think. I was always cognizant enough to "put them to the test" once they started hinting at OTC, so that protected me. The idea that they would even try and run a scam on me when they seemed nice was rather discouraging, however.
Maybe Kyle could post his story in one coherent post too?
Was there a specific experience that changed your outlook, or was it just a combination of little things?
Gotta agree about the humanitarian aspect. I used to hang out in a club where one of the regular customers was in a wheelchair. And whenever he was there this one really hot girl spent all her time with him shooting pool. I was dying to meet her and never got the chance. I'm sure it cost her money.
Shadowcat, you and I have so much in common it's scary. Anyone who knows me well and reads your posts will think it's me writing them.
davids, obviously you are quite angry in regards to strip clubs. What happened? Share with the Board, it would make for good discussion.
There is of course the possibility that a stripper would deliberately build you up with false hopes so that you could get shot down with regular girls and come running back to her with a broken heart and open wallet. But this is about the lowest possible thing I could possibly imagine a stripper doing.
Honestly, I believe all *professional* strippers want their customers to have happy, healthy social and romantic lives outside the club, and just come there for the fun and fantasy. If they're good at selling that, they'll do just fine financially. It's the ones that are in it short term to get some money that you have to watch out for, since they'll either turn a blind eye to the facts or just don't care. Thought?
They also prevent an escape valve for people with social problems to, instead of dealing with the their social probleml, pay money and get distracted from them and probably learn harmful lessons since the situation is so phony and the girls atypical of the their non-stripper peers.
One of the clubs I go to regularly has a few regulars who are wheel chair bound. They are regulars with a number of dancers who are always respectful of them, appreciate their business and treat them very well.
Johnnylingo, I agree that strippers allow young men to gain some invaluable experience and confidence. But, it is somewhat of a hollow experience, since their attention is based on money - not charm. Only experience with women in the REAL world will lead to ultimate success. Only by working your charms in the real world will you know if they really work. Good luck.
And thanks for taking a stand for us young guys. Those sentences describe me perfectly. For stage dances, I like checking out the super hot chicks my age that I couldn't possibly land a date with. It's a fun fantasy, and nothing more. For conversation and private dances, I like the experienced dancer that's gonna turn me on, help turn her on, and give a little advice.
On a personal note, I used to be extremely shy and ended up spending lots of times in chat rooms, with the occassional date not going very well. I was just really tense, worried that if I said or did the wrong thing she'd be offended and I wouldn't get a next date. Even if I did get lucky, I'd be too nervous and overthinking everything to enjoy myself and make sure she felt good (I know some people are laughing reading this, but am quite sure I'm not alone here).
Hitting strip clubs has helped quite a bit, because it's a situation where you don't have to be afraid of screwing up (If you do, just move on to the next dancer or club). Yeah I know to watch out at first, but once I show them that I'm respectful, spend money, and am not delusional, they get pretty honest and helpful. It's been good practice for making converstation, reading people, and staying relaxed in a situation with sexual tension (even if the tension is artificial).