Bachelorette buzzkill
grand1511
Euphoria
Was at my fave club last night and this happened twice. The big problem the club has us that the stage is small, poorly lit and new rules don't allow dancers to touch guys who are tipping. So they've pretty much taken away incentives to spend time sharing the singles and test-driving dancers. This leaves most of the seats open. Two different packs of bachelorette parties last night cruised in and snatched up the stage seating. They don't tip much, but get a lot of personal attention from the dancers, even touching. Just when you think this could be going somewhere interesting, the customer chicks back off and we're left to dream about what could have happened. What on earth would possess a club to think this is a good way to operate?
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I was at Tootsies on a Fr night a couple of weeks ago and it felt as if 1/3 of the damn club was female custies just sitting there (saw one group of 4 fems and the rest seemed to go with male companions either couples or groups of guys and fems).
Most of them don’t look like lesbians to me (not that I would be able to easily tell). To me I think they think it’s just cool or somehow “naughty†to hang out with their man in a SC.
They take up all the damn good seats and just sit there and watch.
And even worse is when the fems start treating the SC as a dance club and spend all night dancing on the floor to the music and acting silly w/ the dancers but not spending shit.
Well at least with the bachelorette group chances are they won't be hogging up the dancers :)
A broad brush? Perhaps, but that's been my experience.
Lol sorry....couldn't resist :)
I agree about the bachelor party thing. I'll usually bail if there is a large party since its true they usually will get all of the dancer attention on the presumption that there is money to be had there. Leaves the rest of us high & dry. Sometimes I'll stick around to see if they take the groom to be onstage to beat the shit outta him. That can be entertaining.
Someone got really mad at me when I post these views before.
I also have a problem with lesbian dancers. They are not what they try to appear to be, and this does surface if one tries to pluck their strings a bit.
Yes, some dancers classify themselves as "bisexual", but mostly this just means that they like to do girl on girl action for a male audience. These are displays of girl power. They are okay though because often they involve DFK, and so they likely will DFK with the guys too.
For a woman to engage in sex acts with another women, has one kind of meaning. But sex with a man means much more. So if she starts DFKing with a man, she is showing readiness for FS.
So the girl on girl show is constructive, towards the ends of FS with a man. So this kind of "bisexuality" is quite constructive.
Real lesbianism is something entirely different. Of course these women have the right to live as they choose, but they contribute nothing constructive to strip clubs.
You don't see many lesbian customers in brothels wanting sessions with women. So as strip clubs continue to "improve", it will be better if they don't have lesbian customers, or dancers, or too many straight women customers.
SJG
I'm sure all of the bi and lesbian customers dont want you there either.
I think the OP is right about bachelorette parties being bad news. lopaw (see...no W) is right regarding big groups being bad for solo custies and overall degrading the experience. But bachelorettes are double bad news. A bunch of chicks who probably haven't been to a SC and have little same sex attraction (for most of the women) going out for a one night walk on the wild side. Fun for them...not fun to watch.
Feel free to call me whatever name you'd like, but I think many guys feel the same way.
Strip clubs are for men. And I don't like when women feel they need to come in to male establishments, for whatever reason. To prove equality, to find out "what those nasty men are doing", or whatever. Sometimes guys just want to be alone to oogle girls and have fun. So let us. Don't rain on our parades.
Yes, strippers are selling a fantasy. But, they are also presented as ordinary women, who are selling that fantasy. They are not presented as actually being titanium skinned fembots.
You wrote:
"Don't care if they are actually into the guys they dance for."
Every good experience I have ever had with a stripper is precisely because she does go for me, and because I have plucked her strings some and been able to get beyond her on the job persona, and because she has allowed me to do this.
When I try to do this with a dancer who I find out to be lesbian, it does not work, of course. In one case I was really getting a dancer heated up just by looking at her and giving her $1 tips, as she moved from one stage to another and did her total of 8 songs at the Sunnyvale Brass Rail.
She was starting to feel something as she was showing me doggie views ( with her panties still on of course ) and watching in the mirrors as I was watching her, and then my turning to look at her face. She was starting to get off on the fact that I was being turned on by her. With most dancers, just a little bit of that kind of stuff gets them eating out of my hand.
But this one instead reacted differently. She left the last stage and proceeded towards the dressing room. I had sat down at a table, intending to hand her $1 more and to say something to her. She saw the situation and moved fast, getting hold of my wrist and pinning my arm to the table. Then she thanked me very nicely for following her from stage to stage, but the meaning was that she did not want to proceed further. This was not about money, it was about letting me develop a sexual tension with her.
About a year later I encountered the same dancer at another club. I asked if she remembered me and she seemed not to. I had her dance for me, as it is done at that club. But again, in trying to get under her skin, there was a wall, the same sort of wall.
Her current partner was another one of that club's dancers.
I could go on and on. In San Francisco, at least for a time, about 50% were lesbian. Many were the sterotype of the blonde bombshell big hair wig on top of the blue buzz cut. One such woman gave me a nice dance, tities in the face, and done real well. I told her, that was better than I expected. You gave me an endorphin rush.
But sex between two women is not the same thing as sex between a man and a woman. When a woman looks at another woman it is not done in the same way and it does not mean the same thing as when a man looks at a women. When a woman is exposing her privates to a man, it means much more than it ever could if she was exposing herself to another woman.
Lesbian dancers have decided to wall off a certain potential area of experience. But it is exactly that area that a male customer wants to explore.
I want the dancers to be getting off on me, not just off on my money. I want to be able to pluck their strings and get them to the point where they are ready to be whatever I want them to be ( whore, girlfriend, wife ).
Lesbians have a long term commitment to preventing this, and so trying to interact with them as strippers always goes no where.
SJG
@jerikson - no you aren't raining on my parade. You are incapable of doing so. Nothing you post here has any bearing or impact on my clubbing or my life. You club where you want to, and I will do the same.
Wow. That's harsh.
And for some reason, when I say something that is almost verbatim what Lopaw says, I'm a buzzkill and raining on people's parades and an asswhole and every other name that people can think of.
But when she says it it's fine...
Yeah, I get it..
I've lucked out when large groups(men or women) hit up my favorite club. My favorites there are smart enough to know not to ignore the dudes who keep them well fed. A smart stripper doesn't want to lose guaranteed money over possible money.