Is this woman a civilian or a sex worker? If she's a civilian, go for it. Young guys can get well trained and can use added maturity of the older woman.
If she's a sex worker, BE VERY careful.
I have long but the same time short love story of my life. I met a girl at college. We were studying together for 4 months but I have never paid attention to her to be honest.
One day I was at work when I got text from here saying hey I am with my friend wanna come over. I said ok I'll come as soon as I finish my job. When I arrived I noticed that I am the only person who wasn't drunk yet. She was flirting with me but still I didn't pay attention to her.......Finally her friend wanted to go home we took her home and we were alone. We decided to go somewhere to eat we were looking for a restaurant for hours and nothing was open it was around 3am...........so I told her lets go to hotel and we gonna order some pizza from there. She said ok........Finally we had a sex together I don't remember even a single episode cause we were both drunk...........
Now its been 2 years we are together.......After having sex couples times I found out that she works at strip club as a dancer and I was so disappointed and shocked. After that I was ignoring her every time she was calling me or texting hey come over to my house I feel alone...........After 3 weeks I gave up I said myself go for it...........
What the hell is wrong with you, man? Don't you realize you just got handed a golden ticket - you're a stripper's BF now, so start acting like one, damnit!
First thing, drop out of school and quit your job. Tell her you got fired for coming to work stoned. This will make her love you more. Say you're moving in with her until you can get back on your feet. This will make her love you more. Tell her you're starting a band, then invite your buddies over and drink beer and play x-box all day. If you get bored, you can sell a little weed on the side. This will make her love you more. Oh, and you should be trying to get her pregnant, too.
What steve229 said.
Only put a coo-el twist on things. A while back we had a young dude posting on here that was all into candy and porn. In addition to playing X-box and starting a band you NEED to cultivate a love of candy and porn. I thought that dude's antics were friggin' HI-LAR-EEEE-OUS!!! He had some routine about drinkin' cherry cola through a twizzler. Just chew off both ends and use it as a straw.
Now we all want you to report back in two months, after you've:
1. Quit your job.
2. Become an X-box champ.
3. Sort of learned a lil' guitar.
4. Sold a lil' weed (unless you live in CO, where that is respectable).
5. Started drinking cherry pepsi through twizzler straws while jackin' it.
Giver his lack of punctuation, capitalization and general "stream of unconsciousness" style, I think that we need one of the Juice breed to translate his jibberish!
You can kill two birds with one stone and play guitar hero on xbox. That way you can be a xbox champ and learn to play guitar at the same time. Also your broken english cracks me up. Itsa vaaary niice.
1] Do not give her your address or where you work
2] If she already has this information RUN do not walk away.
3] If she does not have much info on you go ahead and hit that if you must but always with a cover. Baby = you are her meal ticket for 18 years.
4] 7 years is a long time. She will hit menopause in 10 or 12 years and the fun ends. She will also become more manipulative as she approaches menopause and if she has no skills will look for a meal ticket.
5] Bottom line is distance yourself before it is too late.
@Steve: Funny!!!
If you didn't pay her for sex then she's definitely in to you, but that's not a good thing is she's a stripper. She will flake out on you when you depend on her, and since you're in to her she will break your heart. I would have sex with her but keep your emotions in check, at least for a while.
Ah,..... a sex worker. Be careful. Better to have her as a FUCK Buddy! Unless you can wrap your head & mind & heart around what she does for a living.
I am guessing that you aren't able to wrap your mind and heart around her job and see a long term serious committed relationship in the future. Asking for HELP HERE at TUSCL is a clue.
It's your life. Try to make rational, well thought through decisions with your Head and not your heart.
tumblingdice's
Honestly money is the last thing between us. I have never gave her money for no reason. From the beginning she fall in love with me and every time I left she was either calling or texting me I missed you.....I love you so much.....I was always saying ok..........
Its already 2 years we are together now. Last year and half we were together almost every single day. Few times a week I was staying with her for day or two. During the summer we could stay together for 10 days just her and me and nobody around. Every single place we visit we kiss each other hug and stuff like that. Every single day we were saying each other how much we love each other whole day long. We are together 2 years but every time we see each other act like we didn't see each other for a while. We could have sex for few days nonstop staying at home for few days. Every little thing I see I compare with her how she does things. Last summer I was working 14-16 hours a day 6 days a week when I was staying at her house sometimes whole night she wasn't sleeping whole night. She was kissing my body, fondle my whole body. The problem last year we were fighting almost every single day even without reason. She was jealous to every single thing that surround us. My phone, my friends, the places I go, felt like she was controlling me and my life. The reason I think is her past. By the way she has 6 years son who is an autistic.
This sounds an awfully lot like the guy who was stressing over his "girlfriend" being a stripper and maybe jacking, sucking or fucking customers twenty years ago...
georgmicrodong
While she was with me she has never touched any guy. The place she works she has her own customers like old guys 60-70 year old who come and talk with her and give her money. She is dancing on floor too but just once a while. I checked her million times. She is the only person who doesn't cheat physically and verbally. Its kinda hard do trust her because she works there.
One time we were drunk and she said that I am her 52-53 guy who she had sex with. She said that even she has list of all guys names. She used to tell me that she has never love someone like she loves me. One time we were coming back home from restaurant and I said to her listen real last relationship you had you thought its a first and last relationship in your life. How can I trust you that one day you are not gonna leave me like you left him. She said I love you more than my life. She said lets swear god that no matter what happened we gonna be together in rest of our lives. We did............
Yeah dude, I agree with the rest of the peanut gallery, never trust a women to take the pill everyday, if you can't see her raising your child then wear a condom.
That being said, go have some fun with her! Strippers are passionate women, and can show you new levels of pleasure.
When you get tired of it all, then break up with her, and the best part is because you used a dome, you won't have to cut her a cheque every month.
sofaking87's
First year I was just spending my time with her but then everything changed. We were together almost every single day like most couples.......past summer I felt that can't live without her............every time we had a fight I tried to break up with her but couldn't do that. with her I feel like in paradise its not about sex anymore. Every night before going to sleep we always hugged each other. We could wake up during the night and kiss each other till morning.......but its already 2 fuckin years still crazy about each other. She doesn't get aliments even from her previous husband I know that for sure........she is not money hungry like many other people. Money was the last thing we care. Past summer I lost my job and couldn't find one for a month. We were going somewhere to eat she was paying almost always without me knowing about it.........she was saying hey you don't work just come down you will effeminately pay when you get job
We were using condoms just first few months she was always against it. Then we decide to not use it cause we didn't feel each other as without it. It was like better to have sex once a week without than a few times a day with condom.
First of all I am a young guy like you (I'm 25), and I also love older women (late 20's to early thirties).
I'm gonna assume you're telling the truth, so I'll give you a honest answer. I've dated strippers before, and it's not as bad as most people think. Yes it is true that some strippers will do sexual services with customers inside and outside of the club, but for you I think it's about trust. You say you've been with her two years, do you think she would do anything to lose your trust?
tumblingdice
Firs of all because she is 7 years older than me. Second she has a child who is also autistic and sometimes unmanageable. Finally mom doesn't have any idea where she works if she knew this she wouldn't even talk with me.
ranukam's
Its so difficult to live knowing were she worked. Once when we both were so drunk she said I am 52-54 guy she had sex with. When we just started she was telling me stories about were previous relationships and how and where she had sex with them......have this thoughts in my head every day..........
ranukam
She would never sleep with someone from club even for million dollars. One time one rich guy offered her 10k one one night. She called me and told me the whole story. She said can you come to club cause I guess he was chasing me and could wait me in outside.
Mat dude, I don't get what the issue is .. From your posts, I think you probably are in very involved in relationship but looking for an excuse not to commit. Given your age, I think it's quite normal to feel this way (even with a civie). Your GF being a dancer complicates the emotion further.
All I can tell you is, if I am truly in love with someone, I'd accept with all her good and bad. If I need to give it a second thought, I'd reevaluate the "love" .
aventador750's
I am gonna be 24 and she is gonna be 31 soon. The issue is right after Christmas she said that she loves me so much, but something wrong is going on with her.......2 months before that she went to her friends baby shower who was from her job.....from the beginning I was against their friendship because she used to tell me every single thing even if its about her job. She used to tell me only bad things abut her even that she uses only bad words while talking to someone. I kinda felt something is wrong, anyways........It was middle of November she went to baby shower.....then I found that its not really baby shower cause there was so many couples only she was alone with her mother.....I said to her why you do this??? I don't go anywhere without you, we had an agreement that we should always go somewhere together.......she said she didn't know that, but her friend knew me she could tell her to come together.........she said that she invite couples because her husband was bored..........so I said to her this is the first and last time you go somewhere alone I don't care about anything else........she said the only reason she doesn't want to go somewhere together because she is jealous, she can't control her feelings, she is afraid she can lose me......A month later we had a little fight......I tried to talk with her I went to her house she made a scene front of her mom tho show how bad I am........I didn't call, text or visit her for a few days. Day before Christmas I went to talk with her cause I wanted to be together in Christmas Eve. She said we can't be together cause I went to my friends house I was drunk, I sit on man's lap and we were kissing..........I am so sorry but I was drunk and didn't recognize what I was doing......why I went there why....I would give anything in my life to not go there that day..........She said now every time we fight you gonna mention this and I can't live with that.....I swear her that I am not gonna do that cause I love her so much.............we celebrate Christmas together.....2 days later I was about to sleep when I got text from her...............you are the best person I have ever met in my life, you have good hart, I love you so much blah blah blah............... I said what's is going on with you did you drink again? she said yes but I have some issues.......again love you so much..........know its crazy but I talk with that guy I met and I want him......but love you blah blah blah
She said just come to my house as soon as you wake up cause I wanna see you so much and talk with you.......just couldn't sleep whole night......finally it was morning.......I was calling her but she wasn't picking up the phone..........a few hours later she called me back hey I just woke up....sorry we can't talk today cause my mom has high blood pressure, I have to take care of her, my son.......offered me help to her even to take her my to my doctor if its necessary she said no thanks.............few hours later txted her to know how her mom doing.......she said she is at work I was kinda shocked to hear that cause she didn't go to work so many times........she said give 2 weeks, we gonna see each other after new year and we gonna talk........said just know how can I celebrate new year without you........was waiting her in her house........we were kissing each other over an hour nonstop......she was crying.........I said lets change everything together, she was just saying give me time to think about everything........I am gonna go to mountains and stay there for 2 days with my mom and friends........I was just shocked.........she said its already 3am just go home we gonna talk tomorrow by skype.....said no I wanna see you she said ok just come until 5 and we gonna talk cause my I invited my friend and her mom to my house ........I kept texting her her hey can you come outside I wanna talk with you, otherwise I am gonna stay in car whole night........she was saying hay bab go home please its so cold in outside you gonna get cold.......she sad just give me 2 weeks if you want our relationship back again, said now how I can celebrate new year without you, its impossible............she said why you think about new year, about celebrating something, who cares...........
"She would never sleep with someone from club even for million dollars."
"She said we can't be together cause I went to my friends house I was drunk, I sit on man's lap and we were kissing .........I am so sorry but I was drunk and didn't recognize what I was doing."
@ mat - hope you get the point.
Guys who thinks that if 2 people love each other so much like crazy can't be together? Who thinks at some point instead of love it becomes suffering? usually after we fight she used to tell me its better to be with someone who gonna love me but I am not gonna love him but at least I am gonna be happy instead of being nervous and jealous all the time........Now I kinda agree with her thoughts.........
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