Dancers: Sad Stories and Taking Advantage of Customers
Clackport
Washington
I was at a club a few days ago and a dancer was telling me a sad story. She told me her dad was murdered a couple of weeks ago and it was tougher for her because she was just starting to get close to her dad after hating him her whole life. A part of me didn't want to hear that shit because I was there to see naked women and have a good time, another part of me felt really bad for her and wishing I could do something to help. I tipped her 20 bucks on stage and after she went to the locker room I left the club without saying goodbye or getting a dance from her. I had to get to another engagement, but I felt bad without at least giving her a hug before I left. Her sad story made me have no desire to get dances or to really do anything in the club.
How do my fellow TUSCLers feel about dancers telling you the sad stuff that happens in their lives?
Also recently at another club a dancer was telling me a customer paid for a 30 min VIP with her, and after she danced for 15 min in VIP she told him time was up, and he didn't object because he was drunk. I was fucking pissed when I heard that and it wasn't even me that got screwed. I guess that teaches you not to get drunk in the strip club unless you want dancers taking advantage of you.
Do you all think she is a rip off bitch or a smart dancer who took advantage of a drunk customer?
Thoughts?
How do my fellow TUSCLers feel about dancers telling you the sad stuff that happens in their lives?
Also recently at another club a dancer was telling me a customer paid for a 30 min VIP with her, and after she danced for 15 min in VIP she told him time was up, and he didn't object because he was drunk. I was fucking pissed when I heard that and it wasn't even me that got screwed. I guess that teaches you not to get drunk in the strip club unless you want dancers taking advantage of you.
Do you all think she is a rip off bitch or a smart dancer who took advantage of a drunk customer?
Thoughts?
31 comments
It never made the news papers but a friend of mine that knows her better than I do, had seen the evidence. We don't buy the robbery motive and figure that it was probably drug related.
Anyhow I did not know that at the time and when she asked if I wanted to do a VIP session, I was just too bummed out to accept.
That being said, I know of some dancers who have had real hard times. One is a single mom who hasn't seen the father since before the birth.
The second part-She's a smart hustler and a dumb ass drunk gets what they deserve.
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I've said this about Alcohol consumption more times than I remember.
- Customers are trying to get everything they can from us for as little money as possible. They don't care if it will cause us physical or mental pain or if it will get us fired. It's hard not to get frustrated, as a human being. I don't condone it, as it hurts the industry and offends my personal work ethic. But why would it surprise you that some strippers get calloused and will try to get the most money they can from you with the littlest effort? Enough guys try to bully me into $10 BJs in a night to turn most sane people crazy. I've been bitten, punched, slapped, screamed at, reported to management with BS charges and insulted on review sites. It's tempting to bully back and I don't blame young, sensitive girls for lashing out. You can't expect an 18 year old to act like a 40 year old, logic and maturity wise. Sometimes you are going to get jerks who have no idea what money is really worth. That's the trade off for looking at 20 year old boobs. Just ignore sob stories, move along to a more professional dancer and don't let it get you down.
- This job can be confusing. Men tend to talk and touch dancers as if they are friends and some times it lulls you into a false sense of emotional intimacy. If a dance is going through something huge, it's hard not to tell someone who really seems to care. We all slip once in a while. A few weeks ago I was talking to a regular at the start of the night and he asked me how I was doing. I told him I was great. He leaned forward, looked into my eyes and said "How are you really doing?" For a split second, I thought he meant that he could tell I had a bad day. We've gotten to know each other a little and it felt good to have some one notice, so I said "Work was just really shitty and hectic today." And he immediately hardened and sat back and looked away and said "Yeah, we're all under a lot of stress." Obviously, the correct answer had been "horny," and I was able to salvage the conversation by telling him how glad I was to be at the club, as it's my favorite way to unwind (which is true). Its hard, sometimes, even after I've been doing it for years, to remember that the answer is always "horny."
Of course, sometimes a sad story is just a sad story, but unless you know her really well, you should boot up with "story to motivate me to be her white knight", until it's proven otherwise.
How do I feel about sad stories? I'm there to have fun. If I hear her sad story and it bugs me, I move on. If I hear her sad story and I can just get over it, or enjoy talking her through it, then no worries. Sad stories from strippers do not make me feel paternal/protective. If it's from a girl I know well, then that changes things, and I might react differently.
I'm not in the Club to be your psychotherapist; I'm in the Club to get my dick sucked.
It'd be like me telling HR at my place of employment that my car broke down the other day. So? What's that got to do with them? Do the work you're paid to do--what happens on your time is your responsibility.
Tell me, where, these days, is a handshake on a deal gospel?
Gawker- I have tough grading standards, but I have to say your ATF is absolutely gorgeous. She's a 9 in my eyes.
Seriously, my favorite dancer is a GIF (yep, that's Grandma I'd like to ... fool around with. She is always kind of on the edge trying to earn enough to take care of a drug-addicted daughter and her grandson. I consider her a friend and am glad that she trusts me enough to talk through those things. She has never asked anything but payment for our dances, and all the stories end with "as bad as things seem, I will work it out".
She has just finished updating her qualifications for being a medical assistant and is working on a nursing degree because, as she says, "I won't look like this forever."
That woman is a hero as far as I am concerned.
Often times when there is $$$ involved; some will say or do anything to get yours. Also; dancers are pretty much salespeople - how many salespeople will say anything to make a sale.
Just as they lie, or to be kind; “stretch the truthâ€; about how much they like us and that we are their favorite custie and that bla bla bla - if they lie or “stretch the truth†about those things to get that $$$; then …
When it comes to people wanting your money; one will hear all kinds of things – how many bums or people on the street have come up to you with sob stories asking you for $$$.
For most people; it is normal to care and want to help; but the SC is not the place for these types of convos. IMO – most dancers that tell you sob stories are just working a particular angle to get your $$$ - IMO they are just trying to ROB you – I would just smile and look sympathetic but not give them a dime unless I wanted dances from them.
Yeah – if a dancer was bragging, or just even mentioning, how she ROBed a custie; that would be a big turnoff to me and most likely I would not deal w/ her at all; not even have a convo w/ her (unless she was superfine – then I would have to be a little flexible :))
DUH! Providers who do not get this don't deserve our $!
I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I'm sure many dancers consider me to be cheap. But I think rude, impolite, inconsiderate behavior is always trashy and uncalled for. If someone's too superior to be polite to strippers, they're too superior to be in a strip club.
In my 35+ years of going to strip clubs, a cheerful stripper is a lying one, about 80% of the time. Maybe "lying" is too strong a word there, but if she's all super smiley and giggly she's probably hiding a fair bit of pain somewhere. Or high. Which means she's hiding pain in an unhealthy way.
Mind you, I've *have* met really happy strippers, but they are fewer than the unhappy ones, and listing to a young girl vent isn't doing me any harm.
So with that said, I've heard so many sad stories, and watched subsequent actions of the girls telling these stories, that I am now perfectly fine with sad stories. Why? Because the type of story gives a lot away about her mindset and potential OTC availability.
For example, the ones using stories about desperate cash needs due to [insert unfortunate event here] are, in my experience, great targets for a quick OTC chat. If she is telling the truth and really needs the money, she'll do what she has to. Conversely, the ones who were full of shit from the word "go" and those who would rather starve than let guys fuck them for money quickly become very apparent, at which point it is on to the next one.
Another classic is the child molestation story. I have never found a girl who told this story to be a good OTC target. Whether it is true or a girl is full of shit, the end result is the same, with a girl claiming that her past issues make casual sex impossible.
Yet other stories, including baby daddy drama, criminal issues and court dates, etc., et al, are, in my experience, very telling, often in a positive way. IME girls with a little grit in their lives are always better OTC targets than those who spout canned lines and actually believe that they are trying to sell me some kind of fantasy.
So please gals, keep making it easy for me to know what I am dealing with. :)
IME – most customers are willing to pay the going rate – “little as possible†could also mean the dancer believes the going rate is too little.
The dancer also has the ability to say “no†to w/e the custie desires/wants.
Dancers are motivated by $$$ and it’s only natural they will want to get as much of it while having to give as little as possible – custies are motivated by sex and are going to want to get as much of it for as little as possible.
At the end of the day – we have to meet somewhere in the middle to where it works for both parties.
What I *do* mind is being taken for a ride by dancers using sob stories to try and take my cash – I detest dishonesty – if you are a ho – then be a ho and we’ll take it from there – but don’t be a deceiving ho – have some pride :)
It will very much help your developing relationship with her if you step up and provide the critically needed resources to help her put this isolated crisis behind her so she can concentrate on making you blissfully happy.
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Dancers see me as cheap because, if a dancer is my fav, I buy lots of dances instead of tipping.
I definitely can't see trying to use a dancer's emergency situation as a way to get her to do extras she wouldn't normally do. It's bad enough that we can't find someone where the attraction is mutual to make out with. I can't see feeling aroused when the chick is feeling disgust and despair.