becoming a stripper
lasabiastarr
I'm getting in the best shape of my life to become a stripper at an upscale well known club..and i just want some suggestions from men and women..like how do i know if i can truly do.this...how do i make the most money..I'm 22 jamaican american female, attractive..big boobs..any advice would be great:)
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Lie, thieve, and whore.
1. Stay clean. Hygiene rules the roost.
2. Stay clean. Drug use and abuse takes it's toll on the body-skin, teeth, inner organs, etc.
3. Stay in shape. If you're Jamaican then I assume that you can slow wine, grind, and shake that ass.
4. Work for a club that suits you. Since you say that you won't do extras, don't work at an extras club.
5. Learn a sales pitch, brand yourself, do something to stand out from the other dancers. Make the men want you over and over again.
6. And never, ever, ever, ever be a ROB.
You should probably ask some of the veterans to give you a lap dance, seriously. I NEVER get dances from new girls because they always suck. It takes between a few days to never for them to learn.
My 3 regular girls all have completely different techniques and each works for them and me both, so you'll develop your own style as well, but be aware you DO need to learn some moves and skills so get as many pointers as you can.
Good luck! It's a tough business...
$100 a pop
Even when you get done with a stage show and you are sweating and a guy says to come over right after the stage set. Walk up to him and say I need to go freshen up and I will be right there. DO IT. Nothing is worse than a smelly dancer. Because that perfume smell is also so incredible... ;-)
Also he mentioned finding your niche.... See what other girls do well and also do poorly in that particular club. Then steal some of the positive things they do and tweek it to fit your personality and style. Also if you can do something other girls can't....ie make your ass pop or boobs dance. Some guys go nuts for that stuff. Also being confident in what you want... portraying that goes a long way. Men will want to be looking at you and see what your deal is and will want a dance or 20...hehe.
Good luck and wish you were in my neck of the woods because I would love to see ya dance.
Keep in mind that young beautiful women are a fantasy for us old dogs. It's your job to enhance that fantasy. Compliment them whenever possible. Tolerate the negatives as much as you can. Be friendly, but not overbearing. Don't hesitate to approach a customer to ask if he'd like a dance and handle rejection with a smile. Have fun. It is easy for us to tell who's enjoying themselves and who's not. You'll be nervous as hell when you audition but it'll pass. Get along with the other dancers and avoid saying anything about the others. Even if you say something positive someone else will misconstrue it. The drama which takes place in the dressing room will exceed anything you've seen since Middle School.
One phenomena which is increasing is when couples want a dance. Prepare yourself for what your reaction will be if asked to dance for a woman. One of my faves offers no extras. She has been stripping for more than 10 years and tells me that even when things are slow she'll still take home $500 or more per shift. How? Hard work. She seldom sits in the dressing room. She has several regulars who take her to VIP ( one night I asked her for a 1 hour VIP & she said I was #3 in line - she had 2 other regulars lined up). She gives a great lap dance and is always interested in what I've got to say. I tell her that she is interesting and interested.
Save some of your earnings. The dancer that I just mentioned is a college grad, a single mom, and has a sizable Roth IRA and a 401k. If you don't know what they are look them up.
Now, I get to Passaic, Nj frequently. Near you?
So we would need to know your body type.
Also some guys like different things....booty shorts vs thongs.... fish nets vs sheer stockings..... bikini tops vs bra.
I like an outfit that looks good for her body type.... classy with a little bit of slut mixed in....LOL So what I am getting at if your best feature is your ass....don't wear something that takes away from it. If your best feature is your tits....don't wear something that will compress them.... If you have nice long legs don't wear something that makes them look short... if you have a sexy toned muscular back....don't wear something that covers it up. I hope this helps.
Onething some dancers lack is communication skills. Now the main objective of men going to a strip club is seeing naked women...duh. But what keeps guys coming back to a particular club or a dancer (if no extras are given) is personality. It is a relationship. Many dancers can't hold a conversation or keep a conversation going. This goes a long ways.
If you read the reviews here look at many of them....they say dancers do the hi...do you want a dance and leave. those are the ones they don't remember or get dances from. You will read a lot of guys will get dances from a dancer who sits with them, carries on a conversation with them, THEN asks for a dance after a few mins of talking.
So remember try to get to know the person a little....ie what is your name, where are you from, what brings you out tonight, oh I see you are drinking scotch what is your favorite single malt...etc.
I am in sales and one thing I tell people is I know a very little about a lot of subjects. I say you need to do this too. So no matter what someone says they do for a living you can ask questions about it or can discuss it. No matter where someone has traveled you can ask questions about it. No matter what someone is drinking or eating you can ask questions or are familiar with it. I hope you get the point. That way you can talk with the client, show an interest in the client or what the client likes, then you make your sale.
Perhaps Olympic sprinter?
For some women; it’s hard for them to “think like a man†and know what men want (and vise-versa of course) - observe what the successful dancers do and see if that works for you.
Body language is very important. A warm feminine smile and eye contact can go a long way w/ most of us PLs.
*Me* personally – I’m not impressed with dance moves – she can dance like Paula Abdul and/or Janet Jackson and that will not make me want to get a dance from her – sensuality and sexuality is what makes me drool.
SCs are bizarro world – everything is upside down or in reverse. In the real world; if a guy is staring at a woman; the woman’s reaction often times is to turn away and feel uncomfortable w/ that. In SC bizarro world ; a guy staring at you means he wants you and may be willing to depart w/ his $$$. I’ve been @ SCs where I ‘ve been making eye contact w/ dancers that are not getting any dances but yet they see me looking at them and don’t approach me (and I go home w/ the $$$ I was intending on spending).
I’m a white Hispanic guy but I love black women and 90% of my dances I get from black women – i.e. you as a black princess – if you see a whitey staring at you it’s likely b/c he may have a proclivity for the chocolate – and that may be an angle that can be very beneficial for you.
This website is made up mostly of male customers – you can get some good feedback from our POV. To get feedback from dancers in the biz; you may want to visit Stripperweb.com which is a website for dancers.
(You may also want to do some internet research and perhaps view some vids on how to do good lap dances – stripperweb.com may have those resources).
Best of luck – and as others have said – I would also like to get dances from you (if you ever come down to Miami).
Please keep us apprised of where you work and your progress!
Life often isn’t fare and neither are SCs.
Some SCs are very particular w.r.t. which dancers they hire – especially the more upscale the SC.
Some SCs only hire a specific type of girl – some like to only/mostly hire small girls; some may be very strict and if you don’t look a certain way, they may not even consider the dancer; etc.
Most upscale SCs tend to be mostly white in terms of clientele and dancers and often times one sees very limited dancers of color. For many mostly white upscale SCs, the dancer may need to be at least a 7 (out of10) to even be considered – and a black dancer may sometimes need to be a 12 (out of 10) <- sarcasm intended – i.e. just b/c a dancer has her sights set on a particular SC does not mean all she has to do is show up and be willing.
And if the dancer is a black dancer; even being a 12 (out of 10) may not get her in. Many upscale white SCs seem to def have a quota w.r.t. black dancers – it is not uncommon to find maybe 4 black dancers out of 40 in a white upscale club; and sometimes less; and sometimes none.
Being attracted to black dancers me self, this is a complaint I hear often from black dancers (i.e. not being given a chance in certain clubs).
Lasa mentioned she was Ethiopian/Jamaican – perhaps she looks more exotic than the conventional AA woman and thus her exotic look would give her a leg up.
I have heard black dancers on stripperweb.com complaining w.r.t. this very issue – and a AA dancer recently started a TUSCL thread on this topic:
https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=2…
Being a dude I have not auditioned to be a female dancer @ an upscale white club :) – but I would think the above statement would help.
One last piece of advice. Since you said you don't want to do extras have a plan on how you're going to move on from stripping. Otherwise as you get older and it gets harder to earn money without doing extras you're likely to slip into doing extras. Especially if you get addicted to drugs and you can't afford to go home without earning any money that night.
But don’t be innocent about it – some dudes can look all innocent and harmless and turn out to be stalkers – i.e. I’m not trying to say you need to watch your back constantly; just be cognizant about it (just like you would not 100% trust some dude you met @ a dance club or bar).
After some time of dealing w/ a custie; (month or 2); you may get a better gauge on him – but it is still probably wise to keep your dancer persona and your personal life separate while in the club.
You may not want to share personal data/details about yourself w/ most, if any, custies. If you want to cultivate relationships (in the club) with regulars; don’t given them your real ph # - either get a burn ph or a Google # (google.com/voice).
They (dancers on SW) of course often complain about us PLs (like us PLs complain about them). But it appears one of the biggest issues dancers often have is OTHER DANCERS.
Most dancers seem to get along and most are there to mind their business and make their $$$ - but others tend to be cutthroat. I wouldn’t say go in there expecting the worse; but unless you know any better; don’t go in there all giddy and wide-eyed. Many dancers will do what it takes to make that sale (as many a salesperson) and may try to sabotage you – and if you are prettier than average; they may hate on you.
So def watch your step.
Some dancers can get mean, steal money, and do other things in some clubs. Sometimes customers steal parts of dancers outfits if the outfits go off stage or towards the customers. One dancer told me this. I do not know if it really is an issue unless it was a $500 outfit like one dancer claimed and part of it was missing. I imagine most outfits are cheaper. Not sure. Maybe in an upscale club, less customers steal stuff.
If you ever find yourself in LA I'd be happy to show you what us female customers really like ;)
But in all seriousness if you ever need any advice on dealing with women customers please feel free to PM me. I'd be happy to help.
Some dancers like to scope out a club before going in for an audition in order to get a feel for the place (observe the dancers and custies). But many clubs frown upon, or may not allow, a lone chick walking into a SC (take a girlfriend or dude friend).
You can also read the reviews on here of the particular club(s) you may be interested in, in order to get some basic feel for the place.
You do have to be ready for some nastiness. Custies who work with their hands may have a scratchy, uncomfortable touch. Some guys may spank you or squeeze you hard, even your boobs. Some customers will want to suck your nipples. Some will try to get their fingers on/under your g-string. You will have to be confrontational sometimes. I never knew a dancer who hadn't walked out in the middle of a dance on some customers.