OTC confusion
Monday, November 28, 2011 5:50 PM
I've been working on my first OTC experience recently and I've had some setbacks. Maybe my esteemed colleagues and the fabulous ladies on here can collectively help me out with what I'm doing or not doing wrong.
First of all to preface: I am NOT paying for anything. I'm more than happy to pay for whatever happens ITC (legitimately), and don't consider myself a PL (yet). So please, no comments along the lines of "you're just not paying enough".
Whenever I bring it up with a girls that I am a semi regular with or new girls I think the connection is strong enough for it even to be a possibility, I let that fact be known. As I'm building these relationships, most of the time the response is something along the lines of "I don't think we're quite there yet sweety" or something like that, and I don't pursue further.
Recently I had a dancer (possible future ATF material) respond enthusiastically to it and flat out say yes. Time and place was arranged, good night kisses exchanged, and I left the club an excited man around 1. The club closes at 2 so I was expecting her around 3. She never showed, as I'm sure you all could guess.
This is where my confusion comes into play. Why say yes and not show? I was very clear no money was involved, but that it might be a step towards a semi-SD relationship in the future. I was also very clear that a "no" was a perfectly acceptable answer and that it would not affect my relationship with her ITC.
So the question in my mind is why she would risk angering me and losing my considerable contribution to her bottom line ITC. Why not just say no and not risk losing me as a custy? Texts after the fact around 4 yielded no responses.
Really the only reason I'm upset at all about it is that she said yes and then didn't show or give any reason, which in this situation (since no money involved) feels like being stood up on a date back in highschool all over again.
Am I missing something?
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