jizz during a lap dance or VIP Rules? Opinions Needed?
smackedsillyxxx
Hey, I just joined the site so I dont know if this has already been posted or not. I always wanted to know what the rule of jizzing from a lap dance or vip dance is? I always wear jeans and am very cautious about not finishing at the club. Do strippers want you to finish? The big concern is what the hell do you do if you do finish? I guess drive home fast and change? What are the unspoken rules about this? I asked a few strippers before, but never really got a straight answer. Thanks
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Jeans are not your best choice.
I suggest something softer (for her) and looser (for Big Jim and the Twins). I wear sweat shorts underneath as they are absorbent and comfy.
Ask your girl. Some charge extra, some expect a tip....you want to know THAT much as well.
Good luck, happy hunting, and do the walk of shame.
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Au contraire! I always strut out of the LD room like Vince McMahon on an episdoe of Monday Night Raw.
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A dancer at the defunct Tanga Lounge would (against club policy, resulting in fines when caught) attempt to use her hand OTP, and was upset when I wouldn't mess myself. "Why won't you give it up!?" she asked once. She looked like somebody threw Kate Beckinsale and Megan Fox into a genetic blender, resulting in a mid-twenties goddess who had to pay her own tuition, so obviously she was perfect.
I told her I could only cum after the girl cums three times. Later, I offered her a compromise: "Okay - you only have to cum twice." She laughed, apparently declining. (I later found out that she lived in a house, not an apartment, which much much later I realized meant that she was married. Dancers who live in houses are married. Or lesbians who are really good with money.)
When I started going to clubs (20+ years ago), contact was non-existent. These days, the way lapdances are done, it seems clear that the dancer is attempting to extract DNA, as quickly as possible, lest she dissatisfy a customer. Recently, one delightful blonde was moving back and forth on me just enough to, uh, 'twang' some anatomical part of her across my junk, and back. If she wasn't trying to get me off, then her actions are unexplainable.
If a girl thinks she can, while naked, work your junk, then get mad when you finish, she's too naive to be out in public. Or in the champagne room, for that matter.
The hard grind doesn't do it for me (and I shy away from those dancers now).
What works is a dancer moving very slowly and sensually against me, her body pressed closely to mine, faces very close, eyes locked together, our hands mutually caressing each other...
I gotta go take a cold shower.
I have an ongoing bet with a dancer that she can't make me cum. She has a great ass and is really good with it. So I get rock hard, which she takes as a challenge. She's gotten me close but so far I've managed to save it for the GF.
So, back to my point. Yeah, I've known dancers who actually seem kind of "proud" of knowing how to give the right amount of grindage, when to press in real hard, when to graze and brush gently, etc. etc.. There's a subtle art, and it all has to balance thickness of clothing, size and weight and disposition of the member and the patron and the dancer, and so forth. I don't SEEK the jizz as a main goal for a lapper, but I'm happy if it starts to come about and isn't a particularly difficult goal to achieve. And the girls who've been with me when it was happening? Well, I gave them fair warning by mentioning it or, it was so damned obvious that speaking about it was unnecessary, but again, they had fair warning, either way! And they went at it MORE rather than less. Some were pleased, some just thought of it as a straightforward and normal portion of the lapper, some we excited and found it a rare and special event.
But I gotta point out, again, I've always been wearing a condom underneath my pants when this happens. I really think that there are two issues here. One is, whether or not the jizz would happen; then the other is, what kind of clean-up is necessary afterwards. I think dancers are going to be much more amenable to the former than the latter. And I think ALL the dancers at the pink site are a SMALL but visible minority of annoying princesses who don't represent my own general experience, or the general dancer community. Or, to put it differently, they may be a large number of the girls dancing, but they're not a large number of the girls dancing for me. :)
I browsed another forum on a non SC related website. Regular posters numbered no more than a dozen with frequent posters being half that number. Among them were a very vocal group of chronic gripers and whiners. They nit-picked about everything and nothing was good enough to satisfy them. According to a moderator's post it got so bad that the site's founder quit the forum in disgust after several web-based site polls showed that most site members disagreed with the gripers views.
Here in the midwest bible belt happy endings and other extras in SCs are like going on a blind date, most don't work out but a few times you score. Like a blind date you can't predict ahead of time.
I don't always go to clubs for a happy ending but when I do I treat dancers with respect and consideration and expect the same from them. Because such activities vary from club to club, by dancers within the same club, and over time with the same dancer [vice or liquor control raids] I always ask dancers about their touch "preferences" and limits. Most have been polite and understanding. The few who sassed me or gave me some sanctimonious crapola got a no-nonsense, curt dismissal from me.
It's my money that helps pay your bills and helps support this club. Dancers, you're entitled to respect, consideration, and personal preferences. But I expect the same from you about my personal preferences wheteher you like them or not. We both have a right to say "no" without being put down or lectured.
Happy endings are part of the SC experience for some guys, like it or not. So dancers you're responsible for knowing what the club's attitude is. If you didn't find out don't take it out on me; I won't tolerate it and I'll tell you so. Same for griping to me about fellow dancers doing extras; talk to them, I don't want to hear about it; I'm not a labor relations mediator.
Dancers, fair point about body fluids. But you need to participate in the conversation BEFORE starting the LD by expresssing any concerns or preferences. It's 2011, so like sex, if you don't say what works for you and what doesn't during the activity don't bitch afterward. Likewise with an LD to happy ending. If you've told me before hand I'll try to be considerate. And let's can the "naive" SS about not knowing what he was doing or what was going to happen. Again it's 2011, if you're that naive or shocked go work in a more "sheltered" environment. Don't give me BS about it, especially AFTER you collect my $$$.
Amen, brother!
Actually, my comment about posters' demographics was NOT from pink site but another male-oriented XXX site.
RE: pink site. Didn't write about it but I actually did read thru all the postings. Felt like walking across a large debris-filled field in the pouring rain.
Brief summary: first half has maybe 6-7 female posters. One stripper who expressed liking for happy endings dropped out quickly after all the bitter man-bashing of the other strippers. One thing for certain, these supposed sexually experienced women demonstrated remarkable ignorance of the male sexual response cycle, especially for younger males. Not a good sign for great LD.
A few strippers complained about starting work in new "dirty" clubs while being 'completely unaware' of the general expectation of happy endings from most customers. How deliberately ignorant or desparate can you be. And they never blame their own stupidity for not finding out from fellow dancers before signing on!
The last half of the blog was almost exclusively male viistors who got into a pissing contest over their clashing views on this question.
So yea, very limited participation from strippers and biased at that, hence not representative at all. Bonus nonsence: male ego-tripping and macho BS that went off topic and became personal attacks.
Verdict: Uninformative to the max.
She sounds like a keeper if she will do more than just grind!