There is a shelf-life to hooking up OTC
Sammy63
YMMV
Dancer 1- I met this dancer at the Outer Space Club/La Pearl. After some really hot dances at the club, she gave me her number. I was soon at her place, hooking up with her about once a week. But after about 6 months, things started to change. She started asking my advice about where she should move when her apt lease was up. She asked me to drive her to the DMV after one of our hook-ups. Then she confessed she was seeing an older guy who could not "perform" but enjoyed spending time with her, sans clothes. I had to get out of this. What started out as hot, nasty sex, was turning into me feeling like she was thinking of me as her boyfriend. We eventually mutually agreed not to hook up anymore.
Dancer 2- I met this dancer at the 19th Hole. We clicked right away at the club and after getting her number, we started hooking up at her place about once a week. After about 6 months of being regulars, I came to her place for a hook-up and she said her daughter (5yrs old) was there. She said she wanted to introduce me to her, but not that day. We did a quick hook-up while her daughter was taking a bath. The next time I went to her place, she had some documents she was filling out for a new job that she asked me to help her with. I did. And I was about to leave, she asked me if I would be comfortable going to the hospital with her to check on her mother. I did. But again, I was getting too involved in her life for my comfort. We mutually agreed not to hook up anymore.
Dancer 3- I met this dancer at the Purple Orchid. We never hooked up at her place, but became regulars, seeing each other in a hotel room once or twice a month. Just like dancers 1 & 2, after about 6 months, she started thinking of me like I was her boyfriend. She asked me to take her on some errands one day after we hooked up in a room. We went to the post office and the bank and the grocery store. Again, I started feeling like this was turning into more than just hook-ups. We mutually agreed not to hook up anymore.
Similarities
1. Each of these dancers was comfortable hooking up with me raw
2. Each one of these dancers reduced their initial "$$ ask" after a few hook-ups
3. Each one of these dancers said they have a thing for older men
4. Each one of these dancers have children with no relationship with the baby-daddy
Conclusions
I have been honest with every dancer I hook-up with that I am married and am just looking to hook-up to scratch my itch.
But I think there is something that happens in a woman's mind when she regularly gives herself to you with no cover OTC. I prefer no cover because of the enhanced sensation...especially for a man of my age. But I need to reconsider my thinking on seeing dancers like this. Each of these dancers referenced that I should understand their increased attachment to me since they were sharing themselves with me raw. I only mentioned 3 dancers in an effort to be somewhat concise, but this has happened with every dancer I have hooked up with regularly OTC with no cover.
I hope I am not coming off as some heartless bastard who just wants to get laid with no commitment. But unless you are able to commit to a more involved relationship with your dancer of choice, I suggest not being regular with any dancers OTC, especially if you are engaging with her with no cover. YMMV
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Baby, baby, don't get hooked on me
'Cause I'll just use you then I'll set you free
Baby, baby, don't get hooked on me
….been telling girls this since 1972
What I can’t reconcile is how people would be comfortable banging strippers raw.
You're probably giving off vibes that they get attached to.
I’ve made it this far through life without getting a STD and hope to continue.
And you're not understanding this at all. They're asking for more money, just not in dollars.
I see a similar pattern. I always start with bringing them to my place, but after a few visits the lines often blur. Prices come down in terms of dollars, but requests for non-monetary assistance increase. It doesn't bother me though. I just make sure its clear that at its core the "relationship" is transactional. I'll often have one of those girls over without paying them. And they'll do shit like use my place as a laundry mat to wash all the shit in their stripper bag. It's a bit of a give and take, not strictly stripper/customer but far from a BF/GF thing either.
It's not all strippers though, many or most have zero inclination to get into that sort of arrangment. But there is no shortage of ones who do. Especially here with the Cuban girls who have no family in this country and friends that aren't the most reliable. Someone who provides a little affection and stability along with some cash, but doesn't give them shit about being a stripper or question them when they do young girl stupid shit isn't a bad deal for them. Just like a hot chick who likes to fuck and may need a little help with shit from time to time but isn't looking to get married and settle down isn't a bad deal for me.