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Congratulations. You have showered, hit the ATM, and arrived at a strip club looking for a lap dance. It's going to be a good night!

Make it an amazing night. Develop a rapport with your chosen dancer, and you will have a better experience all around. The key to a good lap dance is getting to know the girl first. If you agree to a lap dance immediately without making time to forge a connection, you're in for a mechanical, staged act.

There are four phases required to get a great lap dance:

1) Say NO to the sharks.
2) Select your dancer.
3) Chat with your dancer.
4) Decide whether to get a lap dance or not.

Let's explore each of these areas in depth.

1) Say NO to the sharks.
You have the power of the purse strings. YOU are the customer, and you get to decide how you spend your money. This means you should avoid the girls who immediately jump on you as soon as you enter the club. They're operating in a high-volume, churn-and-burn sales mindset. They will aggressively approach and ask you right away if you want a lap dance.

Say "NO" to these women. It's easy to say "NO" without saying "NO." Try these lines to turn them down while giving them a graceful exit. You may, in fact, want to try one of these gals later.

* "Not right now, thank you. I just finished driving and need a little time to chill out first."
* "Thanks, but I'm not ready yet. I need to [cool down / warm up / dry off] first after being out in that weather. Maybe later."
* "I appreciate it, but I'm actually here to see someone else. Have a great night though!"
* "I don't think I could keep up with you right now! Maybe later. I need to have a drink and relax a little first."

None of these are a flat-out rejection. These lines preserve their ego while still providing a natural break in the conversation. This is important because, while most of these women are sales-oriented sharks, some may be exactly your type after all. Regardless, you don't want to appear like an over-eager pushover. Don't jump on the first sweet thang that comes your way.

2) Select your dancer.
A dancer might be the most beautiful, sexy woman in the world; however, if she's visibly tired, arguing with someone, or frowning, she will not be in a good mood and won't be good company. Look for smiles, laughter, and open body language.

There are two methods of approach: she comes to you, or you come to her. Both are fine if you handle them the right way.

As stated in section 1, you want to avoid the women doing the "hard sell." That doesn't mean you should reject every woman who approaches, however. Smart and socially savvy dancers will open with a conversation.

Alternatively, you can and should approach a dancer who interests you. Maybe its her looks, her body language, or her stage routine that attracted you. Regardless, you want to smile, greet her, and make a situational observation, e.g. "That was a great set onstage," "I just had to say your makeup looks great. I can tell you put some time into getting ready tonight," "I don't know how you can survive how cold it is in here with that outfit! I'm freezing," etc.

Never compliment a girl on her looks or her body. She's heard it a million times before. Try for open-ended situational observations that can lead to a conversation. The goal is to have a short- to medium-length conversation in which you both become comfortable with each other. That will lead to a great lap dance.

So you've selected your dancer and initiated a conversation. Now, we move into phase 3: talking.

3) Chat with your dancer.
Small talk is actually huge.

The point of small talk is to lower your barriers as strangers. The subject of small talk is unimportant. The point is to display and generate positive feelings, show interest, and non-verbally communicate that you're an individual she'd be happy to spend time with. The reverse holds true as well: you should be evaluating her and, if you're not feeling it, be prepared to gracefully end the conversation.

Some ways to stimulate small talk:

* Say whether you're local or from out of town. If she's a local, ask her about her favorite places and why they're her favorite. Share some of your own.
* Talk about the weather and how it has helped or hurt your weekend plans. Dry and sunny? Amazing for your beach weekend! Rainy all day? It's great for your garden! Too cold? It was a rough start for your hike, but it ended up being great weather for it.
* Ask her how long she has been a dancer. Share how interesting it is because the job is part sales, part therapist, part service industry, and part healer. Girls LOVE this observation and will talk about the job and what they like about it. They may share war stories that are interesting.

4) Decide whether to get a lap dance or not.
If you've had a good time and want to see how she performs one-on-one, it's time to negotiate a lap dance (or several). Before you go, discuss upfront what the money and expectations will be. Be explicit about how many dances to which you are agreeing. If you don't specify, you run the risk of her chaining dances on you while your happy ass ignores the changes in songs. Don't get caught with unexpected charges at the end.

Decide on a price per dance. Do your research and learn the prevailing rates. You may be able to get a good deal by ordering several dances at once. Local rate is $40 a song? Ask if she'll do 3 songs for $100.

A word of caution on multiple dances: I would only get several dances upfront if I felt very positive about the girl. Usually, I'll just agree to one to ensure it's not a dull, low-mileage air dance. Once the dance is proven to be good, I'll negotiate more dances or even propose a trip to the VIP area.

On the other hand, if I'm not feeling it and want to exit the conversation, I'll tell the girl it was great chatting with her, but I have to visit the bathroom/refresh my drink/call a buddy outside. If she presses me about a lap dance, I'll tell her I'm not really in the mood tonight but thank her all the same. She'll get over it.

With luck and practice, this method will get you better lap dances. At the end of the day, a lap dance is just work for these dancers... but everyone prefers to work around people they enjoy! A short and positive conversation will do wonders to improve her mindset and help you develop a rapport. Good luck, and see what conversational gambits work for you.

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